Transgender Talking Blues
Sophie Lynne has had her share of troubles. Some much that it’s given her the blues. Today she gives voice to her pain with Transgender Talking Blues.
Category: Transgender Body & Soul
Meet Mx. Alex Hall
A new contributor joins us today. Mx. Hall is their name and the tale they tell is probably familiar to many but it is their own story.
The Lesson of Isaiah, Chapter 11
Raba Rona Matlow feels that If more people could learn meaning of Isaiah chapter 11, perhaps we would have fewer trans murders, and less anti-trans legislation. Perhaps we could just live as PEOPLE, have jobs, housing, healthcare, etc. Read on for hir thoughts on what that might be like.
Relaxed Casual
With the arrival of spring Christy Lewis has fashion advice for the working trans woman. “Even if your professional life has recently become hybrid or remote, there’s no reason for that to mean dull or effortless. Spice it up a bit, and show everyone that “relaxed casual” can be a way of life, not just a dress code!”
Trans Spirituality – April 2022
Rabbah Rona wonders why people who profess to abide by the rules of their religion often seem to only follow some of the rules while ignoring the instructions to love thy neighbor, lift up the least of us, and don’t oppress strangers.
Sabrina Symington Video: Holding on to Things
Today’s video from Sabrina Symington is not intended to produce humor. Recently she has been so stressed out that she is in actual pain, which is keeping her from doing art. The video is of a monologue in which she recounts a strange dream. Then she examines the features of the dream and realizes it is something caused by her stress. Stress that she experiences because she has been holding on to things that should no longer be internalized. Stuff that should be let go.
When Trans Friends Disappear
Sophie Lynne writes about loss and how secrecy over gender identity can mean that people we know in their true gender often just disappear when they pass away. When family and friends are not aware of of their loved one’s real self obituaries and tombstones only display the legal name of the deceased. Meanwhile their “found family” never gets to say goodbye.
Trans Spirituality Special Edition – War in Ukraine
Rabbah Rona Matlow shares their feelings about the war being waged against Ukraine by Russia. Hir thoughts range from the motivation to engage in this war to the effect it will have on trans people in Ukraine. They will face all the problems the cisgender citizens face and more. Even leaving the country may not be possible for them if the “wrong” gender is on their ID and passports.
The Art of Transformation – What I’m learning So Far
Today Misha muses about the fulfillment we get from crossdressing. Of course high heels, thigh hi stockings and skimpy lingerie makes us feel sexy and desirable. But don’t we feel appreciated when admiring men show us attention for our feminine looks? Do some of us find the idea of pleasing an admirer intriguing?
I Enjoy Being a Girl
While she may not putter around the house singing the Peggy Lee song, I Enjoy Being a Girl, Christy Lewis does find her new life much more enjoyable. Today she counts the ways that being a woman has improved her existence.
Be Happy, it’s Adar
Rabbah Rona Matlow takes a look at the the section of the Torah that bans crossdressing in order to prevent “sexual licentiousness.” But crossdressing is often a part of the celebration of Purim. So which is it? No crossdressing or it’s okay for Purim? Rabbah Rona comments.
A Dream and a Gold Locket
Our condolences go to Sophie Lynne whose mother passed away just recently. Sophie’s blog today looks back on the time when she was young and her mother’s jewelry attracted her. So much so that felt compelled to wear some of it. Guilt made it only a one time thing. Except for that gold locket.
Healing Can Take Time
Claire Hall spent 58 years presenting to the world as a male. When she reached a certain point and could no longer live the lie she came out and transitioned. That was many months before the pandemic arrived and leaving the lie behind felt wonderful for almost a year. But then COVID struck and that along with other issues sent her into a tailspin. Today Claire talks about healing and how it isn’t a linear process.
Starting 2022 with Feminine Intention
It’s a tradition for many people to use the new year as a time to set goals they hope to achieve. Lose weight, give up some vice, do some regular exercise. In this post Eden Carlsen suggests that it takes more to realize your feminine goals for 2022 than just making a list of things to adopt in the new year.
Lisa’s Dear Santa
Sophie Lynne is sick as a dog today, so she wrote, “I’m going to have a guest writer. I share this piece every year on Facialbook. It was written by my dear sister Lisa Empanada in 2012 — her last Christmas. It really shows who she was. She died in September 2013.”
Trans Spirituality 12/13/21
The end of year holidays are meant to bring joy and happiness but for many people, particularly members of the LGBTQ community, the holidays can be the opposite of happy. Holiday cheer can turn to depression as loneliness, unemployment, and other issues make problems seem insurmountable. Rabbah Rona Matlow reminds us that there is help and you are not alone.
Early TDOR 2021
Sophie Lynne participated in Penn State University’s Transgender Day of Remembrance. While she read the names of trans people who were killed for being trans she began to think about the many trans people she knows. Either in person or online. And she recalls how she felt when she was not living her true life/
Retro Rerun: Advice From 1996
Today we mine the TGForum Archives for a post from 1996. At that time we had a peer advice column called Dear Rachael. TGF members would send their questions to the editor and she would pass them along to Rachael. In this post from August of ’96 Rachael offers advice to a crossdresser who wants to grow breasts. Then a trans woman who desperately wants to get out of the closet. Followed by a trans woman in the U.K. who wants to begin transition, and then she has an answer for a crossdresser who wants correspond with other girls. Keep in mind that the questions and Rachael’s replies were written in 1996.
Give Yourself Permission To Be Both
Like many part time ladies Julie Slowinski balances her responsibilities as a father and bread winner with her need to dress up and be a party girl. Today’s report from Julie is not the usual rundown of what she wore and where she went while wearing it. It’s a look at that balancing act and why she is content being dad and being Julie. And don’t worry, she manages to get some photos into the post.
Thoughts on National Coming Out Day
Rabbah Rona Matlow has some thoughts on the recent National Coming Out Day. While organizations promote the idea that all LGBTQ people should emerge from hiding and proudly let everyone know who they are, it’s not that simple.
Tell Shelley Anne: Interview with Alice Novic
Alice Novic is a crossdresser, psychiatrist, and author. Alice has been out-on-the-town dressing for about for nearly 30 years and has known and worked with many crossdressers and transsexuals. She is the subject of Shelley Anne’s interview today. Alice discusses many things that she has learned over the years.
Transitions & Invitations
Last weekend, Penn State played Auburn. This was a big game: a “white out” where everyone wears all white and gets really drunk and noisy, etc. A bunch of the brothers from Sophie’s frat returned for the game, and were having a tailgate. Despite her contacting them they never responded. But she found another organization that welcomed her fully.
Trans Spirituality, 9/20/21
Rabbah Rona Matlow reminds us that “haters are gonna hate” and the only way to undermine their hate is with education. People who assault and murder trans people are sinning in the eyes of all religions. No matter that they often use their interpretation of their religion to justify ridding the world of “sinners”.
Forming Safe and Healthy Relationships While Transgender
Guest Contributor Anastasiia Newlin writes about how to form healthy relationships, from casual friendships to romantic ones.
