Category: Transgender Body & Soul

Diane’s Weight Loss Tips

| May 20, 2019 | Reply

For those born male bodied who wish to fit in with females in our culture, clothes, hair, and makeup are all important. But since our culture views being thin as a positive, which isn’t necessarily so, you may want to work on your figure by losing some weight. Which brings us to the point of this post from the 1990s by Diane Hutchinson which we have resurrected from the TGForum Archives. Here are Diane’s tip for weight loss. Follow them and perhaps you’ll be able to slip into that size 8 dress.

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The Crossdressing Journey

| May 20, 2019 | Reply

Today Pauline describes the steps on her crossdressing journey as riding a bus. Each step forward is a “bus stop.” They include first becoming attracted to wearing women’s clothes, then searching the internet to find a support group nearby. Attending meetings and getting to know other people with the same desires, then becoming more open about crossdressing and reaching the point where she is so comfortable presenting herself to the world en femme that she goes to the dances held in her semi-gated community every Friday as Pauline. See if her story sound familiar to you and find out which bus stop you have arrived at.

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Memento Mori

| May 13, 2019 | Reply

Thoughts of mortality begin to appear the older one gets. Your mind can wander down paths where you begin to think about what your lasting impression on the universe will be, or just wonderwhat will happen to all your “stuff.” We accumulate a great deal of “things in the course of a lifetime. What will happen to those thins, our stuff, when we’ve left? And, for transgender people, “who” will be remembered by those left behind? Will it be the person who expressed their true gender for part of their life or will it be the old persona the closed the door on? Sophie muses on all that in today’s blog, Momento Mori.

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A Trip To See Mom

| May 13, 2019 | Reply

The week before last Amanda got into her car and set out to visit her mother in Florida. You might think she would have timed the trip for Mother’s Day but she wanted to be there for her birthday — she turned 50 on May 1. In today’s blog she talks about the trip, only mentions her anxiety troubles a couple of times, and concentrates on how nice it was to be with her mother for a few days, very near a restful, peaceful beach on the Gulf Coast. And she describes the birthday cake her mom “surprised” her with.

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Family. What does it mean to you?

| May 6, 2019 | Reply

Many times transgender people suffer in silence and present their birth gender face to the world because they are afraid of what will happen if their families know about their secret identities. There is the fear of rejection and there is guilt for the continuing deception. Often it is only when the pressure to live as their true self gets so great it cannot be ignored that their secret will be disclosed. How do you deal with family? Claire Hall has not written much about her relations with her own family. Today she gives you a look.

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Beating Up Bullies! Tactics for dealing with aggressive males

| Apr 29, 2019 | 2 Replies

Gianna Israel provided nationwide telephone consultation, individual and relationship counseling, and gender specialized evaluations and recommendations since 1988. She passed away on February 21, 2006 after a long illness. Her writings on gender issues had a significant impact on the field. TGForum published many of her columns in the 1990s. Here is a Retro Rerun column from 1999 on how trans women can handles aggressive men who harass or attack them.

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Updates: Transgender Science in the News

| Apr 22, 2019 | Reply

Dana Bevan follows up on a couple of stories she previously reported on in her blog. One is the fallout from the paper by Dr. Lisa Littman purporting to prove that Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is a thing, and is being caused by kids following trends and experiencing peer pressure to claim they are transgender. The second is the rise in stories about “transgender regret” or “detransitioning.” The conservative media latches onto any story about a transgender person transitioning and then having regrets and going back to their birth gender. Dana has facts to refute those claims.

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How Breasts Feel

| Apr 15, 2019 | Reply

Today Sophie Lynne tells you what it’s like to grow your own breasts through hormone therapy. She fills you in on the details of what it feels like when they are growing, what it’s like to hide them because you’re not out yet as a trans woman, and what it’s like to live with them everyday. She shares all from the point at which they got bouncy to what it feels like when they’re squeezed too hard. For insight into what it’s like to grow your own don’t miss Sophie’s blog today!

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Spring Cleaning

| Apr 15, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini is always busy. After returning from the Keystone Conference she finds herself cleaning her mental house with exercise and preparations for swimsuit season. And since it’s spring time she also finds her thoughts turning to the possibilities of dating. She attends a rooftop mixer and recalls what it was like in those type of situations when she was the guy trying to get a woman’s phone number. Now she hopes to be the woman who gets asked for her phone number. Check in on Lynda’s newest adventures in her blog.

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Story of a Girl

| Apr 15, 2019 | Reply

Spring is in air but Amanda is in Baltimore. She’s not working and her cash reserves are running low. Time is going by and she needs to keep moving forward but she finds herself reluctant to start the job application process. Will fear and anxiety stop her from finding a place in her new home town, or will she take the necessary steps to get a job, make some friends and maybe, just maybe find someone special? Read Amanda’s Blog for her latest feelings about life, the universe, and everything.

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Why Wait?

| Apr 8, 2019 | Reply

Within the past decade or so the transgender community has moved out of the shadows to take a place in the spotlight. Thirty years ago men who wore women’s clothing were thought to be gay. Women who dressed as men were viewed as butch lesbians. And all of us were thought of as perverts and possibly child molesters by the majority of the nation. But thanks to concerted efforts by trans activist the real truth about transgender people began to emerge. From weekend support group meetings to the legislatures of several states the transgender journey has marched on. Today Claire Hall asks herself the question, Why Wait? She waited for many years to fully express her true self. Of course there is still resistance to acceptance of trans people and there are haters out there for sure. What kept Claire in her closet till just this past year?

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Transgender Stress: How Are You Coping?

| Apr 1, 2019 | 1 Reply

You are undoubtedly stressed, how are you coping? It all mounts up. There are the 98 attacks on transgender people by the current administration as documented by GLAAD. Then there are the half dozen states that make us feel unwanted and endanger us if we travel there because we might be denied emergency healthcare or […]

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Death and Shamrocks

| Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Sophie Lynne looks back at some people in her life who made a good impression on her but are no longer there. She has felt enriched by them as she feels sad that they have passed away. Today her blog is about raising a glass to the people who she has cherished in the past as she proceeds on her path into the future.

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Back to the Fray!

| Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has taken a big step and had breast augmentation and facial feminization surgery. She is out at work and has developed a renewed interest in meeting people who may become romantic partners. She is using a couple of online dating sites and is looking forward to going out on some dating encounters. If the dates don’t work out she’s thinking of getting a cuddly stuffed animal to hug. Today she puts forth her self-created 5 Point Plan for Dating Success.

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All Just a Dream?

| Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Amanda wasn’t fitting in in California. She had anxiety and depression almost every day. She missed the East Coast and her family. It was particularly hard during the holidays. At the urging of her online friends she decided to finally take another big step in her life and head back east. Now she is living in Baltimore, thinking about looking for a job and beginning to think that her life is just a dream. A bad dream, and she can’t wake up.

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Overthinking?

| Mar 11, 2019 | 2 Replies

It’s been nine months since Claire Hall came out to the world as a woman. In that time she has learned a lot about her gender and about being a woman. Today she wonders if maybe her joy at the simple things like hairdos, makeup, clothes and all the other “feminine” accoutrements might seem shallow, and perhaps taking pleasure from compliments on those things might be a mistake. But then, maybe she’s just overthinking.

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A Sabrina Symington Cartoon: Shields Up!

| Mar 4, 2019 | Reply

Many people cope with their gender identity issues in many different ways. Some follow a clear path to the gender they need to live in and others struggle to decide what path to start down. What doesn’t help many people is the way they hid their true nature from the rest of the world. Today Bria illustrates how harmful all the hiding can be.

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I Almost Made a Mistake

| Feb 25, 2019 | Reply

Suzzie gives a transgender history lesson that features Roberta Cowell and April Ashely. She tells their stories and explains how she relates to them. They were contemporaries who took the path to gender transition. Suzzie also contemplated making that move but then she turned away from GRS and made a deal with a cisgender woman. Read her tale of three transgender women and see if you think Suzzie came out ahead.

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Twists

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Sophie Lynne has been out of work for over a year. He unemployment has run out and the rent is going to be due. But to add a twist to her story, she has been accepted into the Ph.D. program at Penn State in the middle of Pennsylvania. If everything works out Sophie will move to “Happy Valley” to start classes in August. Will her roommate move with her? Will she be able to pay the rent and find a new place in State College? Time will tell. Read her post about the twists her life has taken.

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What I Did During My Winter Break

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has gone through round one of feminization surgery and is now a “silicone sistah”as she puts it. Just a few weeks ago she had facial feminization and breast implants. Today she discusses why she went that route and considers whether she will take the next step on her path — getting a vagina. She wonders about her future when that happens and postulates several ways things that things could turn.

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Princesas De La Noche – Experienca Drag

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Katherine Diaz is exploring the world of drag “transformsitas” in her city of Bogota, Columbia. one thing has led to another and she went from a lone crossdresser to becoming a glamorous drag performer who appears on stage in various venues around the city. Her acceptance by the performers has allowed her to learn about many aspects of drag. Today she blogs about her experiences and as always provides a video.

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7 Weeks in Baltimore

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Amanda has completed her cross country journey and is now living in Baltimore, Maryland. She is done with the traveling part of her journey and now has to concentrate on getting a job. Today she files a report on how she is feeling about this new portion of her life.

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On Being Deadnamed

| Feb 11, 2019 | Reply

One of the big problems for people in gender transition is how to get friends and associates to not just accept them as their true self but to remember to use their new name. “Deadnaming” is what it’s called and while those who don’t accept gender transitions as real will always use a person’s deadname, just because they can, they will do it to delegitimize you. To them you will always be a freak. But what about those who have accepted your transition but have a problem remembering to use your new name? Claire Hall has some thoughts on the situation.

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Grow Your Own : Breast Development Update

| Jan 28, 2019 | 1 Reply

One of the most popular posts on TGForum is Dana Bevan’s post on breast development. Each week many trans women who are interested in growing their own breasts read Progesterone for Breast Development? which was published in 2014. Since then there has been research providing new information on the use of HT for breast development and there have been changes in the process of acquiring hormone therapy. Today Dr. Bevan gives you an update to her 2014 post.

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Walls

| Jan 28, 2019 | 2 Replies

There is an awful lot of talk theses days about the benefits and drawbacks of a wall. In ancient times when your enemies had to run at your town and attack you with clubs and swords a wall around your home was pretty useful. Pauline Estelle writes about walls that are not useful. The walls we put up around ourselves out of fear that someone will “read” us as trans, or as a man in a dress. Building those walls can lead to behavior that actually draws more attention our way. Learn what Pauline has to say about Walls.

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Remembering Alison Laing

| Jan 28, 2019 | Reply

Dallas Denny met Alison Laing at a gender conference in 1991. That meeting turned into the decades long friendship of two transgender activists. In this post Dallas brings you some photos of Alison at work and play and she writes about her memories of those times.

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