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Family. What does it mean to you?

Claire H. | May 6, 2019 | Reply

Many times transgender people suffer in silence and present their birth gender face to the world because they are afraid of what will happen if their families know about their secret identities. There is the fear of rejection and there is guilt for the continuing deception. Often it is only when the pressure to live as their true self gets so great it cannot be ignored that their secret will be disclosed. How do you deal with family? Claire Hall has not written much about her relations with her own family. Today she gives you a look.

Back to the Fray!

Lynda Martini | Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has taken a big step and had breast augmentation and facial feminization surgery. She is out at work and has developed a renewed interest in meeting people who may become romantic partners. She is using a couple of online dating sites and is looking forward to going out on some dating encounters. If the dates don’t work out she’s thinking of getting a cuddly stuffed animal to hug. Today she puts forth her self-created 5 Point Plan for Dating Success.

Am I Really a Crossdresser?

Pauline | Dec 3, 2018 | Reply

Pauline Estelle is one of a number of members of the transgender community who feels the need to express a feminine side now and then but is content being a male for the rest of the time. She has an arrangement with her spouse that gives her a certain number of days per week that she can dress up but often one thing or another may interfere with her plans and she has to present as male for the day. Then, if this happens too many days in a row, she feels a greater need to let Pauline get out and about. Today Pauline wonders, because of the way she handles her dressing, if she is truly bi-gendered.

Precious Time

Christine B | Jun 18, 2018 | Reply

Today our Correspondent in Thailand presents a piece of fiction that discusses the nature of time. Isn’t it funny how when you are anticipating something time seems to move so slowly. Then when that thing you have been waiting for arrives suddenly there just isn’t enough time to enjoy it as much as you’d like. While Precious Time is a work of fiction you may well see yourself in the main role.

Tell Your Girlfriend, But Don’t Tell Your Wife

Cheryl Ann Sanders | Jun 4, 2018 | Reply

Cassie feels that it’s best to never tell your wife that you spend time away from her dressing in women’s clothes. All those “business” trips should remain strictly business trips and your wife doesn’t need to know about you releasing your feminine side in public. While “honesty is the best policy” Cassie feels that honesty is overrated and it’s more likely to lead to heartache than relief from the guilt you feel over sneaking around behind your wife’s back. But, if you’re not married yet Cassie recommends that you tell your girlfriend about your femme pursuits. What is her rational for these bits of advice? Read on and find out.

Study of Intimate Partner Violence Among Trans Underway

The Editor | Feb 6, 2017 | Reply

Are you a survivor of intimate partner violence? Do you identify as genderqueer, nonbinary, agender, or gender nonconforming? Are you interested in telling your story? Participants are needed for a master’s thesis research study: Barriers to Disclosure for Intimate Partner Violence Survivors Outside of the Gender Binary Help inform future research about abusive relationships (including […]

Significant Others — Accommodation

The Editor | Oct 24, 2016 | Reply

Julie Freeman is a significant other has been active in the gender community for over 20 years, particularly with significant others and couples groups. She has written articles for many publications including the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter among others. The following piece appeared on TGForum in 1996 and was first published in the Diablo Valley Girls […]

Red Patent Heels & Other Inanities

FAM | Oct 3, 2016 | Reply

Falecia keeps her totally en femme self indoors but goes out and about to run errands in an androgynous mode. She and her wife have an understanding about the extent of Falecia’s crossdressing. It only goes so far and it doesn’t go out the door in a dress and high heels. Today Falecia muses on what might happen if she did begin to present herself to the world as a woman. Would she be drawn toward bigger changes in her life? Would she want to be a woman 24/7? See what she decides about that question in this post.

The Game of Love

Amanda F. Steele | Jun 13, 2016 | Reply

Amanda is a one woman woman and in Cali the vibe is not monogamy. People will say they love you but they love you like they love their latte. It’s a different world for a girl from Pittsburgh, Pa. and Amanda is having a tough time finding “the one.” She hasn’t quit yet. She’s still sorting through the fish in the sea and playing The Game of Love.

Music Video: Everybody’s Gotta Learn Sometime

The Editor | May 23, 2016 | Reply

An Australian film maker working in Japan has produced a music video for a song by Robyn Loau titled “Everybody’s Gotta Learn Sometime.” The video stars a trans woman and her Japanese girlfriend and tells the story of how the trans woman came out to her girlfriend about being trans. View the video here and listen to a podcast recorded by the couple talking about their relationship.

Dawn & Hannah — In the end….

DawnofaNewDay | Apr 11, 2016 | Reply

Hannah and Dawn have moved from a close relationship to trying to adjust to being just friends. Dawn knew when they met that Hannah would be an important part of her life and that she would be important for Hannah. But Hannah took the lessons Dawn taught her and moved on down her own road to her feminine destiny. Today Dawn bids Hannah farewell on her gender journey.

Spotting the “Red Flags” in Dating

Chanelle | Feb 29, 2016 | Reply

Chanelle Nirok is a young crossdresser who is always looking for a lady to call her own. It’s hard enough finding someone special no matter who you are. Adding crossdressing into the picture makes it even harder. But Chanelle has dated many women and has some advice on what you should keep an eye open for in any relationship. Find out what she feels are Dating Red Flags.

Loving Your Equals

Chanelle | Jan 4, 2016 | Reply

Our co-ed crossdresser, Chanelle Nirok, has some ideas on dating. In her opinion the important thing is how you get along with a person. Some, like the old Paula Abdul song, thing that opposites attract. Others feel that you need to find a partner who is just like you. Chanelle feels that it’s important to find someone who is your equal.

Happy First Birthday Hannah!

DawnofaNewDay | Jan 4, 2016 | Reply

Life is complex and life can be hard. Sometimes people meet and it seems like they are fated to be together. But sometimes their fate is something else entirely. Dawn and Hannah met when Dawn was hospitalized. Hannah was living as a man and keeping her femme side hidden. Together they unlocked Hannah’s femme side but in the process, over the past year, they have moved apart. Was it Hannah dealing with her new gender expression? Was Dawn to confident that they would stay together?

Transition Brings an Emotional Storm

DawnofaNewDay | Dec 7, 2015 | Reply

The road that Dawn and Hannah were traveling had begun to get a little rocky as the first blush of excitement started to wear off. Dawn loved helping Hannah become Hannah and at first it was wonderful being there to bring her feminine spirit to the fore. But then insecurities, bad communication, and old issues in both of them makes Dawn ask When is it Too Late?

Video: Forbidden Love, I Married a Crossdresser

The Editor | Oct 12, 2015 | Reply

In addition to being our TGF cartoonist Christine-Jane is also an actor in amateur theatricals. It was while performing in one of those that CJ met the woman who would become her wife. After many years together, with her wife knowing all about CJ’s feminine side, they were approached by the producers of a documentary […]

Thoughts From the Spouse of a TG

The Editor | Oct 5, 2015 | Reply

For many trans people who come out while they are married their expectation is that the marriage will be dissolved. This is often true but it doesn’t have to be. When a husband is becoming a woman their wife has many fears, questions, and concerns. Sara, the leader of the TransCentralPA’s spouse support group has some advice on what trans husbands need to do to possibly save their marriage.

I Never Thought I’d Say That!

CateOMalley | May 25, 2015 | Reply

Regular, cisgender, folks interacting with trans people they have known for years can sometimes end up saying things they never thought they would. That’s the theme of Cate’s post today, “I never thought I’d say that!” As a trans person moves down their transition path the changes can often make their friends and loved ones to utter the strangest things.

Video Fashion Tip — Color Match Your Makeup!

victoriamwilliams | Jan 26, 2015 | Reply

Those with some years of experience in the world of crossdressing often amaze people and illicit comments along the line of “Do you do your own makeup? It looks fabulous!” Novice crossdressers sometimes feel that they will never be able to figure out how to do their own makeup. Never fear! You can be the one getting complimented on your makeup if you listen to Victoria Williams’ Video Fashion Tip on color matching your makeup.

The Making of a Young CD — Online Dating

Chanelle | Sep 15, 2014 | Reply

Our young crossdresser, Chanelle, has words of advice today about how to meet a woman through online dating sites. Funny, but the best piece of the advice she offers is “honesty is the best policy.” It’s not impossible to meet someone who is into all of you, including your desire to dress up. You may not find her right away but if you follow some of Chanelle’s advice you just might meet her. Dating advice from a 20-something? As they say, “out of the mouths of babes.”

Imagine

Dee | Jul 28, 2014 | Reply

Commitments mean something. Before we make them — and promise the world to a “significant other” — we need a clear head and complete readiness to open our minds, reveal our strengths and weaknesses, and be 100% willing to do everything we can for a happy future and a fulfilling life. If we fall short […]

Poking Around the Poconos

Linda Jensen | Jun 23, 2014 | Reply

Occasionally our Linda likes to go away on vacation to be Linda full time. She enjoys doing the same thing her male ego would do ( golf, hiking and sunbathing) with one exception. She enjoys dating men. Today she conducts and in-depth interview with herself to find out what happened on her latest vacation.

Six Steps After You Tell Your S.O.

The Editor | May 5, 2014 | Reply

A great deal of time is spent on the discussion of how to tell a spouse you are transgender. However, telling your spouse is only the first step in a long line of open communication. The most important part is what happens after the initial conversation and your significant other now knows. Here are 6 […]

The Crossdresser’s Wife — The Whole Truth

Dee | Mar 10, 2014 | Reply

Dee Levy feels that there are transgendered women who don’t tell their wives the “whole truth” when they start to open up about their true nature but opt to ease into it by identifying as a crossdresser. Then the wives are confused when their husband starts to look more and more feminine. Then Dee has to break the news when they visit The Cross Dressers’ Wives Forum.

The Crossdresser’s Wife — Truth

Dee | Jan 13, 2014 | Reply

New years are seen as chances for new beginnings. We can stop the negative things we’ve been doing and make a change for the better. If you have been reading Dee Levy’s Crossdresser’s Wife posts you all ready know that what she counsels all CDs and TGs who are in relationships to do is come clean in the new year. Look your partner in the eye and give them the whole story. Read Truth and see if you can take that challenge.

Betrayal or Love?

The Editor | Jan 13, 2014 | Reply

Most crossdressers and many transgendered people remain in the closet for one reason — fear. They fear rejection by their family and friends so they keep quiet about their hidden nature. But the pressure to tell someone, sometime, becomes greater and greater every day. The hiding produces guilt and can lead to many negative physical and psychological problems. If a TG comes out to their spouse how should the spouse react? Find out in this post from T.R.U.S.T.

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