The decision to reveal or come out as a crossdresser or transgender is a deeply personal one. There are potential consequences either way. Liberty Storer feels that the timing for a self reveal is all important.
When crossdressers first meet others like themselves and start comparing notes they find many have had the same experiences. In spite of their differences they are very much like the others around them. Ihen crossdressers first meet others like themselves and start comparing notes, so to speak, they find that many have had the same experiences. They begin to realize that in spite of their differences they are very much like the others around them. It should come as no surprise that the wives and partners of crossdressers, when they compare notes, should find themselves sharing many of the same experiences also.
Pam and Luke started dating and soon became a couple. But Pam started to notice things about Luke that made her wonder if he was attracted to the idea of crossdressing. One night after a few drinks she asked if he’d like her to give him a makeover. Luke agreed and with Pam’s help their dates became glamor parties with the two of them dressing up and having fun. Pam told Shelley Anne about her and Luke and Shelley Anne tells this true story with the permission of the couple. Read on to find out how their story ends.
Liberty Storer is married to a crossdresser. She first learned of her husband’s crossdressing after they were married. She willingly helped him live his fantasies until she learned of things he did when she wasn’t around. The couple made the decision to forgo sexual activity while continuing to live together. Liberty started a blog that attracted women in relationships with crossdressers or trans women. In 2022 she had her followers participate in a survey about intimacy with their partners. She shares the results in today’s post.
Liberty Storer has many cisgender female friends she has met online. Mother’s Day got many of them upset when they learned that their former husbands who had transitioned genders were asking to be honored as moms on that day. Liberty gives a report on the biological mom’s response to that request.
Liberty Storer met Bill nine years ago. He told her of his desire to crossdress and she accepted it as kinky adult fun—even his fantasies of sex with men while crossdressed. When he proposed marriage she accepted and it wasn’t until later that she learned he was putting them both at risk of STDs and other threats by acting out his fantasies in secret. Many, at this point, would walk away. In today’s post Liberty goes in to why they stay married. Keep in mind, being a rat in a relationship is a separate issue from being a crossdresser. There are plenty of crossdressers who don’t lie and cheat on their wives with men they meet online. Liberty’s story is her and Bill’s.
Liberty Storer looks back at her posts since she started contributing to TGForum with a spouse’s perspective.
Liberty Storer talks with a lot women who are now, or have been, married to crossdressers. She finds that many of them have the same question. If he wanted to dress up as much as possible without restrictions from a spouse why did he want to get married?
A woman in Liberty’s partners of crossdressers support group tells them that she is prepared to out her former husband as a crossdresser on social media platforms. While some of the group cheer this woman on Liberty feels that might not be the best way to go.
Liberty Storer got divorced after fifteen years of marriage and met a new man a short time later. He was exciting, sensual, and unknown to her he was a crossdresser. That soon came out and she tried to educate herself about crossdressing in otherwise macho men. While she was attempting to cope with his dressing in private she didn’t know he was not telling her about a lot of his activities while dressed.
Julie Freeman is a significant other who has been active in the gender community for over 20 years, particularly with significant others and couples groups. Julie has contributed articles to many publications in the transgender community. This column ran originally in the Diablo Valley Girls support groups newsletter, Devil Woman. It was published on TGForum in 1997.
Liberty Storer took an informal poll of women who were in or had been in relationships with crossdressers. Eighty nine women completed her survey and Liberty breaks down the resulting data in this blog post.
Liberty Storer is a cisgender woman who is married to a crossdresser. Her goal in publishing her own blog and posting here on TGF is to connect with crossdressers and the people with whom crossdressers share their life or from whom they keep their secrets.
Our Retro Rerun today is from the late Roberta Angela Dee. She wrote for TGForum in the ’90s and here advice is as good today as it was back then. Today’s post comes from 1996 and is on the topic of when a transgender woman should tell a potential romantic partner that she is trans.
Julie Freeman is a significant other has been active in the gender community for over 20 years, particularly with significant others and couples groups. She has written articles for many publications including the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter among others. The following piece appeared on TGForum in 1998 and was first published in the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter Devil Woman. A book composed of her writings titled “A Significant Other View” can be purchased from Amazon.
We dove into the TGForum Archives today and pulled out this article from 1998. It’s called Best Mates and is by the significant other of a crossdresser in Australia. Colleen, the SO, became attracted to a fellow worker and over time their relationship grew into more than a friendship. At some point Colleen found out about her boyfriend’s other personality, Claire. She was open to meeting Claire but was shocked by this strange woman who had taken away her boyfriend. Claire almost led to a breakup but Colleen, after initially saying she couldn’t cope, found a way to keep them together.
After a fun date featuring go karts and Italian food Amy and Jennifer go to Jennifer’s place where they made love for the first time. After their passion Amy suddenly jumped out of bed and locked herself in the bathroom. In the last chapter Jennifer learned that her new lover had sexual trauma related to her father. Chapter 5 moves forward two weeks and we find the women in bed. What happens next? Read on.
Our Retro Rerun comes for 1996. Julie Freeman was a significant other who was active in the transgender community for many years, particularly with the significant others and couples groups. She wrote this article about the importance of self-esteem, the self-esteem of the crossdresser’s partner.
Chrissy Gann writes about the loving relationship she has with her partner. It is not alway easy and there is sometime conflict but in the end they compliment each other. Chrissy knows that if she hadn’t come out and transitioned she would have never met her partner.
Many members of the crossdressing community are heterosexual and feel that their crossdressing nature will not allow them to have a completely honest relationship with a woman. Some dress in secret for years and their wives never know what all those business trips were really about. Others find out the wrong way and the couple splits up. Today Kandi Robbins posts a letter to all the wives of crossdressers asking on behalf of all crossdressers for understanding.
Today we dip into the TGForum Archives for an article from 1996 by a significant other. Julie Freeman wrote about the necessity for crossdresser spouses or significant others to talk with their significant others concerning their need to dress up. And, to set boundaries. If the couple happen to wear the same size then is borrowing allowed? If they’re not the same size then who gets to buy a new dress first? See what advice Ms. Freeman offered in 1996.
Oru newest Contributor is Charles James and today is his debut blog. Charles will be writing from time to time about the awakening of his sexuality after the passing of his wife. Suddenly he realized that he found trans women sexually attractive. His first blog is about his tentative steps into a new world, one that he had no experience with before.
As a woman who has been around for awhile Sophie has seen it all before. Today she writes about history repeating itself in the case of a married crossdresser who hides her “hobby” from her wife and family. This person only gets to express her feminine side when her wife and kids are away, or she is somewhere out of town. Sophie sees this person becoming more and more frustrated about the lack of time she has to express herself, but she worries that if her wife ever learned about what she does that would be an instant divorce.
TGForum was contacted recently by a cis woman who is married to trans woman. Her name is Amanita and she is a counselor, who after meeting her partner, specialized in counseling for trans people and their partners. Today she introduces herself and asks for people to send her questions which will make up her future […]
Back in the late 1990s TGForum had a couple who contributed to our content. Vanessa, the crossdresser, and Linda, her partner. They wrote separately and together. A topic they always returned to was couples issues. One of the issues was sex. Many times women look at a crossdressing lover as something to put up with. They may not even want to see their man dressed in women’s clothes, let alone make love with him while he is en femme. Linda Kaye was concerned about what sex would be like with Vanessa. Sex with his male self was great but Linda was dreading the first time with Vanessa. Then Vanessa entered the bedroom and Linda forgot about her concerns. From 1997 we bring you this article from the TGF Archives, I Like It!
