The Crossdresser’s Wife — Truth
Happy, Healthy New Year. Holidays such as New Year’s often cause us to re-visit the last year. It is a new year — you really can start to live with so much joy & peace — once you tell the truth and try to make amends. It is a good way to start the New Year — let go of all of those lies. Let go of that burden. The bell has rung in a new opportunity to TELL THE TRUTH!
Many of those who are living consciously, alert and awake may find their true selves this 2014. Some people are able to see how many ways they can improve their lives and those of the ones they love — if they are living consciously.
For those that are married, what has this last year looked liked? For those holding this secret throughout your marriage, what does that bag feel like? Describe what is it like to live this secret — with a clueless life partner? Are you planning how to tell? When to tell? If to tell? What are you waiting for? Don’t know how to tell her … those should be the first words of truth you should utter to your wife.
One would think your wives are fools — with their heads buried deep in cement in order not to see the hand grenade coming into the marriage — as if being a transgender (or early stages just CD) was not a big deal. Stop insulting our intelligence — we don’t know because too many crossdressers/ TVs take all kinds of desperate steps to make sure that they stay in the dark. Until your wives/partners find out — you have been crossdressing for years and dream of being a woman. So instead you solved your problems by marrying a woman — wearing her clothes — and doing all of the activities you have been doing — for decades. Don’t you worry about WHEN, HOW and WHO finds out your gigantic secret?
So what about New Year resolutions? NOW might be the best time to “COME OUT.” Be an adult — this is no childish issue — this is a life changer and not just for you but also for your wife!
Are you scared to make a move? You were not afraid when you married her. You must have loved her but not enough to disclose — you misrepresented yourself throughout dating, being engaged and went through with the wedding and the marriage –all along knowing you were living a double life.
It is so important for so many crossdresser’s wives to know — did you ever really love them? Was any of it real? Was she being used so you could look like you had a happy, ’normal,” stable life — with the wife and kids?
Since you are not a monolithic group — I am sure some of you have had some of the aforementioned experiences. This stress must be impacting your general health. Perhaps the best thing in the world you can do to better yourself and your marriage is to kindly sit her down and slowly tells her the whole truth –not just a little bit here and there.
What would your life look like if you dropped the weight of decades of lies and told the truth? Isn’t it time to let go, be honest and live the way you really want. All we, ask as your wives, is TELL US THE TRUTH.
It is so much better, on so many levels, for you to disclose to your wife, what you do, when it started, etc. and if you really want to be a woman — or feel like a woman — be kind and let her know. You can both live happier, healthier lives. Secrets can kill you and your wife too. This is a choice that only you can make — until she finds out on her own and that could be too late.
MERRY 2014!
Wishing you all serenity by living a truthful life.
Dee A Levy, MA
The Cross Dresser’s Wife * Our Secret Lives
Category: Transgender Body & Soul, Transgender Opinion
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Dee A. Levy is the former spouse of a crossdresser. She has a BA in Women Studies and MA in Social Sciences and Comparative Education. She is the author of The Cross Dresser's Wife -- Our Secret Lives, available at Amazon.com, Kindle, Barnes and Noble, & www.crossdresserswives.com.Subscribe
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Dee , we love you(our spouse), we think we are getting rid of that part of us! I believe we plan on being the partner with you forever! It come as a shock to us when “it” does not go away! We feel, we know, that we will loose you, if we talk to you and tell you! The data is there! It is 99% true, you will be gone! So we hide! We are us hiding it from you because we know what will occur! I am talking to my SO as I write this! She says to not give in to the getting out of the marriage! To talk to each other! To work it out! Both have to give things up! Both have to have wins and losses! We have been togeather close to 40 years! We are soul mates! The true love makes up for any losses! We do not understand why anyone has to become an ex? It is very difficult for both! Why make losers out of both? Stay together? Work it out? Try that instead?