Many members of the crossdressing community are heterosexual and feel that their crossdressing nature will not allow them to have a completely honest relationship with a woman. Some dress in secret for years and their wives never know what all those business trips were really about. Others find out the wrong way and the couple splits up. Today Kandi Robbins posts a letter to all the wives of crossdressers asking on behalf of all crossdressers for understanding.
Today Kristine Holt steps back from how transgender people are dealt with by our system of laws and tells some stories of how coming out as transgender can affect families. She begins with her own story of what happened when she told her spouse about he need to transition and then tells of other outcomes through a fictional account base on fact, and a true story in which the principals passed away several years ago.
Back in the late 1990s TGForum had a couple who contributed to our content. Vanessa, the crossdresser, and Linda, her partner. They wrote separately and together. A topic they always returned to was couples issues. One of the issues was sex. Many times women look at a crossdressing lover as something to put up with. They may not even want to see their man dressed in women’s clothes, let alone make love with him while he is en femme. Linda Kaye was concerned about what sex would be like with Vanessa. Sex with his male self was great but Linda was dreading the first time with Vanessa. Then Vanessa entered the bedroom and Linda forgot about her concerns. From 1997 we bring you this article from the TGF Archives, I Like It!
Our new contributor Pauline lives in a semi-gated community with her Lovely Wife. Pauline is quite open about her crossdressing is seen at community activities, such as the Friday night dances, on a regular basis. To help the other residents understand Pauline her wife wrote a letter to the residents and Pauline shares it with us today. Some may want to adapt the letter to use in their own communities.
For the past few editions of Linda Jensen’s column she has been telling the tale of a crossdresser who answers an email from the wife of one of her “admirers.” “Stan” has been found out by the wife and what begins as a just a quick communication in which the CD is told she can keep cheating Stan turns into a longer exchange. Things get complicated. Today Linda wraps up the tale of What Happens When a CD Get an Email From Her Admirer’s Wife?
In addition to being our TGF cartoonist Christine-Jane is also an actor in amateur theatricals. It was while performing in one of those that CJ met the woman who would become her wife. After many years together, with her wife knowing all about CJ’s feminine side, they were approached by the producers of a documentary […]
For many trans people who come out while they are married their expectation is that the marriage will be dissolved. This is often true but it doesn’t have to be. When a husband is becoming a woman their wife has many fears, questions, and concerns. Sara, the leader of the TransCentralPA’s spouse support group has some advice on what trans husbands need to do to possibly save their marriage.
Occasionally our Linda likes to go away on vacation to be Linda full time. She enjoys doing the same thing her male ego would do ( golf, hiking and sunbathing) with one exception. She enjoys dating men. Today she conducts and in-depth interview with herself to find out what happened on her latest vacation.
Many crossdressers fear once their wives (70% of them) find out that you are under-dressing or dressing en femme secretly, their marriages will fail. If you want her trust in you or in your marriage — know that the TRUTH is essential and it will take time for her to even begin to make sense out […]
How do you live day in and out, year after year, decade after decade as a closeted crossdresser, or a transgender? Your minds must be consumed of being continuously ‘on guard,’ making sure your wife or significant other does not find out what you have CHOSEN to hide from her. Though you did not choose […]
A great deal of time is spent on the discussion of how to tell a spouse you are transgender. However, telling your spouse is only the first step in a long line of open communication. The most important part is what happens after the initial conversation and your significant other now knows. Here are 6 […]
Dee Levy is the founder of CrossDressersWives.com, a website devoted to the the emotional support of the wives of crossdressers who have not been honest with their partners. The dishonesty causes a lot of pain and suffering and most of the CDWs end up at ex wives of crossdressers. Sometimes Dee’s advice can be a bit strident but her message may help you to no make the mistakes she and other CDWs find unforgivable.
New years are seen as chances for new beginnings. We can stop the negative things we’ve been doing and make a change for the better. If you have been reading Dee Levy’s Crossdresser’s Wife posts you all ready know that what she counsels all CDs and TGs who are in relationships to do is come clean in the new year. Look your partner in the eye and give them the whole story. Read Truth and see if you can take that challenge.
Did you enlist in the armed forces to escape your transgender tendencies? Did you get married believing that settling down in a committer relationship would “cure” you? Is that really what goes on with TGs who enlist or get married? Some studies say yes, enlisting in the armed forces is a flight to hyper masculinity. Having to be the “man” in a relationship may be seen as another “cure” for TG issues. But are these behaviors what they appear to be? Could there be another reason why TGs join the military or get married? Dr. Dana Bevan has another hypothesis.
Linda Jensen brings us stories of her adventures and adventures in crossdressing that feature her friends. She has written a script for a short film that she can’t tell us is about her, about one of her friends or an amalgamation of several people’s erotic CD adventures. As they used to say on an old television show, “the names have been changed” but this time to protect the participants. Read on and discover the nature of “Sara’s” birthday surprises. Hint: One of them is not a cake.
Dee Levy feels it’s a father’s duty to keep his crossdressing hidden from a pre-teen or teenage son. And that the CD should never be sure that he won’t be interrupted while dressing up, or while dressed up, by his son’s unexpected return home. See if you agree with her thesis.
Our crossdresser’s wife expert Dee Levy thinks that crossdressers who lie to their spouse by not disclosing that they are crossdressers before the nuptials may be exposing themselves to a lawsuit after the truth comes out and the wife throws him out. Why? Because the trauma may require years of expensive therapy.
When was the first time you crossdressed? If you are typical you were very young. Dee Levy feels that when you come clean about crossdressing to your spouse it’s a good idea to let her know you were a young boy when you got the urge. She has other advice too in The First Time.
Richard F. Docter, PhD is a retired college professor and clinical psychologist. Dee A. Levy is the Founder of the website, Crossdresserswives.com. They’ve collaborated on research about the wives of crossdressers. Here is a report on their research.
Sophie Lynne has has gotten a big reaction from her readers after her column telling how she told her wife about her feminine side. They all want advice, but perhaps it’s not the kind of advice you would think they’d want. Find out what they want her to tell them in By Popular Demand.
What do crossdressing husbands need to know about that period of time after they have finally told their significant other about their crossdressing? We get advice from the expert, Dee Levy, in this month’s Crossdressr’s Partners Speak column — Now What?
We hear from crossdressers all the time about problems with their spouses or life partners. Many are hiding it from their significant other. Some have told their spouse they just have to put up with it. We welcome a new contributor to TGF who will discuss things from the spouse’s point of view. Welcome Dee A. Levy.
