Loving Your Equals

Chanelle

A week ago or so, I watched a popular YouTube video, which got nine million views. The video was from famous vlogger Jenna Marbles, called “Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last.” Besides ‘letting it out’ about whiny dudes who can’t get a girl to be with them or to stay with them, she brings up a very good point, detailing one of the reasons why many men are whiny about not finding a partner.

The reason is not because they are looking in the wrong places and not because they are too shy or not confident to even begin actively looking for a partner, but it’s because they are looking at the wrong people -– meaning the people who are different in personalities. Let me tell you something you probably already know: opposites don’t always attract and even if they do, they don’t last. I know from experience of going on many dates and talking to many different women with different personalities. Knowing what I know now and looking back, not one girl in my life, except for my one former girlfriend, had a personality that complemented my personality. Jenna Marbles brings up the point that the perfect partner is a match and a complement. “People look for their equals. . . Smart people like other smart people and funny people like other funny people. People like to have things in f***ing common!”

My first relationship had its ups and downs and it only lasted almost two years because we had things in common. We were very awkward and funny with each other, we both liked good sushi, speed (driving fast), loud music, gorgeous dresses, and wild sex. We took initiative in the relationship and did things for each other without asking, and we had many great moments with each other. Over time, her interests shifted towards an organization I deeply resent, a multi-level-marketing network called “Amway,” and going to their conferences and being around other MLM promoters has shifted her interests and made her more attracted to the men in the organization. Once that took place, I knew I had lost the many things I had in common with her. At the later points in our relationship, the guys in the organization shared more interests with her than me. Half a year later after we parted ways, she found a new boyfriend, within Amway. Reading over his social media posts, I knew he would be the perfect man for her as they shared the same vision for their future.

Who wouldn’t want this pretty young lady?

Most other girls I met after my ex and I split were too shy, immature, closed minded, not attractive to me, and many were just lazy and boring. None were the perfect match to my personality and my interests.

A relationship is a two-way deal. One person cannot be carrying all the weight of it and both parties are required to participate. For a relationship to be successful, people ought to find their equals -– people who will match and help their partners double-up. Complete people have everything they need or they are pursuing what they need –- feeling of fulfillment, knowledge, achievement, beauty, fitness, and financial stability. That’s what they define happiness as. People who feel incomplete and try finding their “other half” will not be complete and they will not be happy in the long run. Only working on you to help you become a complete person will help you in your search for a complete equal.

Don’t panic, be patient, keep doing what you are doing and improve yourself when you feel that you should. Just remember that you are great and that the world is on your plate!

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Category: Transgender Body & Soul, Transgender Opinion