Tag: Identity

Wanted: New Word for Transgender

| May 20, 2019 | Reply

Dana Bevan feels that the words we use to describe members of the transgender community are no longer adequate or proper. Many of the words, like transvestite, transsexual, and others, were coined by psychiatrists or academics and over the years have picked up bad connotations or been applied in error to people who were not in that category. Why should we let the psychiatric profession label us and dominate the words used to describe our behavior, and our demographic and social groups? Dana thinks it’s time we got some new words and she would like your help in coming up with some.

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Memento Mori

| May 13, 2019 | Reply

Thoughts of mortality begin to appear the older one gets. Your mind can wander down paths where you begin to think about what your lasting impression on the universe will be, or just wonderwhat will happen to all your “stuff.” We accumulate a great deal of “things in the course of a lifetime. What will happen to those thins, our stuff, when we’ve left? And, for transgender people, “who” will be remembered by those left behind? Will it be the person who expressed their true gender for part of their life or will it be the old persona the closed the door on? Sophie muses on all that in today’s blog, Momento Mori.

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Family. What does it mean to you?

| May 6, 2019 | Reply

Many times transgender people suffer in silence and present their birth gender face to the world because they are afraid of what will happen if their families know about their secret identities. There is the fear of rejection and there is guilt for the continuing deception. Often it is only when the pressure to live as their true self gets so great it cannot be ignored that their secret will be disclosed. How do you deal with family? Claire Hall has not written much about her relations with her own family. Today she gives you a look.

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Spring Cleaning

| Apr 15, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini is always busy. After returning from the Keystone Conference she finds herself cleaning her mental house with exercise and preparations for swimsuit season. And since it’s spring time she also finds her thoughts turning to the possibilities of dating. She attends a rooftop mixer and recalls what it was like in those type of situations when she was the guy trying to get a woman’s phone number. Now she hopes to be the woman who gets asked for her phone number. Check in on Lynda’s newest adventures in her blog.

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Why Wait?

| Apr 8, 2019 | Reply

Within the past decade or so the transgender community has moved out of the shadows to take a place in the spotlight. Thirty years ago men who wore women’s clothing were thought to be gay. Women who dressed as men were viewed as butch lesbians. And all of us were thought of as perverts and possibly child molesters by the majority of the nation. But thanks to concerted efforts by trans activist the real truth about transgender people began to emerge. From weekend support group meetings to the legislatures of several states the transgender journey has marched on. Today Claire Hall asks herself the question, Why Wait? She waited for many years to fully express her true self. Of course there is still resistance to acceptance of trans people and there are haters out there for sure. What kept Claire in her closet till just this past year?

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Being Trans in the #MeToo Era

| Apr 8, 2019 | Reply

Women across the world are speaking out about the sexual harassment they have had to cope with, but what about feminine members of the transgender community? Trans women and crossdressers can be victims of #MeToo incidents when they are out among others interacting in a feminine role. Trans women who are employed are also exposed to treatment that far too often comes with the feminine territory. Angela Gardner relates a couple of #MeToo incidents she had to put up with while she was out having fun. She asks that you share any such incidents you have lived through by posting them in the comment area.

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Emily Chapter 3 — The Weekend

| Mar 25, 2019 | Reply

Robert, a boy who is shorter and slighter than other boys his age was caught trying on his sister’s clothes while investigating the things that made girl’s clothes so different. He was caught by his sister who didn’t recognize him and thought some other girl was in her room trying on her clothes. After she settled down she asked if he would like help with makeup and when Robert said yes she painted his face and fixed his hair in a feminine style. Then they were discovered by his mother who did not recognize him. When she did she asked if he would like to explore femininity more throughly. Then he was given the name Emily and his adventures really started.

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Back to the Fray!

| Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has taken a big step and had breast augmentation and facial feminization surgery. She is out at work and has developed a renewed interest in meeting people who may become romantic partners. She is using a couple of online dating sites and is looking forward to going out on some dating encounters. If the dates don’t work out she’s thinking of getting a cuddly stuffed animal to hug. Today she puts forth her self-created 5 Point Plan for Dating Success.

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Overthinking?

| Mar 11, 2019 | 2 Replies

It’s been nine months since Claire Hall came out to the world as a woman. In that time she has learned a lot about her gender and about being a woman. Today she wonders if maybe her joy at the simple things like hairdos, makeup, clothes and all the other “feminine” accoutrements might seem shallow, and perhaps taking pleasure from compliments on those things might be a mistake. But then, maybe she’s just overthinking.

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A Spring Offensive

| Feb 25, 2019 | Reply

As spring approaches Dana Bevan wants you to prepare for a Spring Offensive. Not to say she wants you to offend anyone. It’s a call for all good trans people to get out there into society and make your presence known. Not by waving signs or marching but by being there where the cisgender people go. Dining in a restaurant. Setting next to them at the movies. Picking up the dry cleaning or at a car wash scrubbing your ride. Show the world your beautiful wonderful self and promote understanding that trans people are people. Read all 3 of Dana’s Spring Offensive in today’s post.

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I Almost Made a Mistake

| Feb 25, 2019 | Reply

Suzzie gives a transgender history lesson that features Roberta Cowell and April Ashely. She tells their stories and explains how she relates to them. They were contemporaries who took the path to gender transition. Suzzie also contemplated making that move but then she turned away from GRS and made a deal with a cisgender woman. Read her tale of three transgender women and see if you think Suzzie came out ahead.

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Twists

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Sophie Lynne has been out of work for over a year. He unemployment has run out and the rent is going to be due. But to add a twist to her story, she has been accepted into the Ph.D. program at Penn State in the middle of Pennsylvania. If everything works out Sophie will move to “Happy Valley” to start classes in August. Will her roommate move with her? Will she be able to pay the rent and find a new place in State College? Time will tell. Read her post about the twists her life has taken.

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What I Did During My Winter Break

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has gone through round one of feminization surgery and is now a “silicone sistah”as she puts it. Just a few weeks ago she had facial feminization and breast implants. Today she discusses why she went that route and considers whether she will take the next step on her path — getting a vagina. She wonders about her future when that happens and postulates several ways things that things could turn.

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Princesas De La Noche – Experienca Drag

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Katherine Diaz is exploring the world of drag “transformsitas” in her city of Bogota, Columbia. one thing has led to another and she went from a lone crossdresser to becoming a glamorous drag performer who appears on stage in various venues around the city. Her acceptance by the performers has allowed her to learn about many aspects of drag. Today she blogs about her experiences and as always provides a video.

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7 Weeks in Baltimore

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Amanda has completed her cross country journey and is now living in Baltimore, Maryland. She is done with the traveling part of her journey and now has to concentrate on getting a job. Today she files a report on how she is feeling about this new portion of her life.

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Review: “Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Trans” by Brynn Tannehill

| Feb 11, 2019 | Reply

Sophie Lynne, our Book Pundit, reviews Brynn Tannehill’s book “Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Trans (But were afraid to ask.” Ms. Tannehill is a writer and transgender advocate who has written for OutServe magazine, The New Civil Rights Movement, and The Bilerico Project as a blogger and featured columnist. Read on and see what Sophie thinks of Ms. Tannehill’s book about transgender issues in 2019.

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On Being Deadnamed

| Feb 11, 2019 | Reply

One of the big problems for people in gender transition is how to get friends and associates to not just accept them as their true self but to remember to use their new name. “Deadnaming” is what it’s called and while those who don’t accept gender transitions as real will always use a person’s deadname, just because they can, they will do it to delegitimize you. To them you will always be a freak. But what about those who have accepted your transition but have a problem remembering to use your new name? Claire Hall has some thoughts on the situation.

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The Amazing Claire: Part V Conclusion

| Dec 31, 2018 | Reply

Linda wraps up her story about her friend Claire who started and still lives a large part of her life as Calvin, the mild-mannered retired banker who in the evenings would shed his male clothes and emerge as Claire the wonder escort of the Toronto sex trade scene.

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Book Review: Super Late Bloomer by Julia Kaye

| Dec 17, 2018 | Reply

Today our Page Pundit reviews a collection of cartoons about transition titles Super Late Bloomer: My Early Days in Transition. An Up and Out Collection by Julia Kaye. Julia Kaye is an American artist and illustrator.

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Happy Rebirthday to Me

| Dec 17, 2018 | Reply

Claire likes to celebrate not just her birthday but the anniversary of the day she regards as her “rebirthday.” That’s the day when she made the firm decision to abandon her male masquerade and live the rest of my life as who she always knew she was — a woman.

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My Life as Ashli — The Early Years

| Dec 17, 2018 | Reply

Welcome a new contributor to TGForum. Ashli Kleier begins a series on how she isn’t the typical trans woman who always knew she was a female. She feels that she made the discovery of her femininity. Born and raised in a small town in the South Ashli begins her tale with the story of her early years and first encounters with feminine attire. Chapter 1, My Early Years.

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Part 4: Claire Moves East. Does Her New Life Follow?

| Dec 10, 2018 | Reply

Linda is recounting a story heard from a long-time trans girl, now more a trans grande dame. We have heard that dire circumstances led her in to the bed of a generous host who gradually recruited her into the world’s oldest profession. Claire eventually leaves town and apparently leaves the lifestyle. However, a chance encounter. . . .

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Am I Really a Crossdresser?

| Dec 3, 2018 | 5 Replies

Pauline Estelle is one of a number of members of the transgender community who feels the need to express a feminine side now and then but is content being a male for the rest of the time. She has an arrangement with her spouse that gives her a certain number of days per week that she can dress up but often one thing or another may interfere with her plans and she has to present as male for the day. Then, if this happens too many days in a row, she feels a greater need to let Pauline get out and about. Today Pauline wonders, because of the way she handles her dressing, if she is truly bi-gendered.

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There’s No Place Like Home

| Nov 26, 2018 | Reply

Amanda has finally reached the point when she knows she has to leave California and head east. She realizes that there’s no place like home and a return to Pittsburgh is the right thing to do. But. . . she has to solve a couple of problems first. The big problem is The Kid. Her roommate who gave her a place to stay when she could not longer afford rent at her old place. The Kid is clingy, needy, and Amanda is sure she won’t take the news that she’s leaving at all well. So telling The Kid is problem number one. But there are a few others that are influenced by The Kid problem.

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Transgender Book Reviews: “Gracefully Grayson” and “George”

| Nov 19, 2018 | Reply

Sophie Lynne, our Page Pundit, reviews two books today. “Gracefully Grayson” is a young adult novel aimed at middle school children. Written by a cisgender female author it tells the story of Grayson, born male but drawn to feminine expression. Grayson wants to play Persephone in the school’s theatrical production. The second review is of a book aimed at younger children. It tells the story of the title character, “George” who would rather be Melissa. Melissa has an opportunity to present herself to the world as her true self and it’s also by playing a female character in the school play.

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Am I a Transgender Woman?

| Nov 19, 2018 | Reply

Claire Hall asks if she is a transgender woman? A woman who happens to be transgender? Or simply a woman? After transitioning and beginning her life again as Claire she is still not clear on the answer. For the first weeks and months the joy of being herself after years of frustration kept her feeling a natural high. But then the current political climate that allows anti-transgender messages to seep from our capital brought on a bout of depression. out of that depression Claire found an answer to her question.

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