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Our agender Youth Correspondent tackles the subject of dating while trans and queer. M prefers they/them as pronouns and that one fact makes it hard to connect with anyone for romance. Once M stepped outside the binary they found barriers. For example an online dating site that lets you pick your gender from a long list but then you have to chose how you want to be labeled in search results and you can only be a boy or a girls. Step into Dating While Trans and see what M ran into.
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Cheryl Ann Sanders, a.k.a. Cassie, was a frequent contributor to Transgender Forum in the past. Back in the 1990s when TGForum featured and interactive bulletin board it bristled with challenges and responses. One of the challenges was to describe your first kiss as a woman. Cassie dips back into the past today to present her answer to that question and she challenges you to add your response in the comment area below.
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The Artist D! has attended their first ever BDSM convention and with the sight of dominatrixes in head to toe latex walking their human “dogs” on leashes and the other somewhat shocking images to be seen at every turn The Artist D! finds a similarity between all conventions that celebrate life styles. And they wonder what the world would be like if the people at BDSM convention, furry conventions, and crossdresser conventions could be totally open and display their inner selves during their everyday life. Get The Artist D!’s other thoughts on the subject in “The Magic of the Gatherings.”
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Linda (in drab) spots another t-girl approaching down the Walmart aisle. Do they meet? Do they chat? Will this be the beginning of a long and cherished friendship? No, not quite. Today Linda explores the things that kept her from meeting and befriending a fellow devotee of the femme lifestyle. And looking back on the almost encounter Linda wonders if her body language might have scared the gal off.
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Dana Bevan has been asked to write a science book for doctors and other providers to help treat transgender patients. Her first step before writing a single word was to go out and assess the current state of health care provider/transpatient encounters. Her post today consists of three sections (1) State of provider education, (2) State of healthcare for non-transitioning transgender people (3) State of healthcare for transitioning transgender people.
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Today Lorraine Anderson, the woman in charge at The Occasional Woman seamstress service, talks about what she saw when she to a party for trans people. She observed attendees who were otherwise well dressed as women walking like guys. Shoulders were hunched forward and high heel shod feet were planted apart. Then there were the body language errors she observed while attendees were sitting down. Lorraine will go into everything in much more detail and if your goal is to be accepted as a woman in public you should make note of what she says. As a bonus we include a video of a group of men who are trying to walk in high heels for the first time. It illustrates some of Lorraine’s comments.
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Today Kimberley continues her adventures out and about en femme. She has tips on how to blend in with the other ladies and become comfortable presenting yourself as a woman in interactions with members of the public.
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As someone who has fought the Darkness of suicidal thoughts Sophie Lynne is very qualified to write about the subject in the wake of the recent celebrity suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. Transgender people are very prone to the depression that can lead to taking one’s own life and Sophie has been at that place, in that moment, more than once. What pulled her back from the edge? What is needed to prevent suicides? She addresses that question and more in today’s blog.
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All the world’s a stage and we are but players. Shakespeare wrote something close to that and for some members of the trans world the desire to put on a show and be a performer on the stage providing entertainment and inspiration becomes a life goal. Today Katherine Diaz, our correspondent in Bogota, writes about the urge to be a glamorous star and perform in the spotlight. She also makes a modest attempt at El Majestual Mundo de los Shows in her included video. Her blog es en Español. Use the link at the bottom of the page to access Google Translate.
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Amanda had been taking Cymbalta to deal with her anxiety problem. Sometimes the drug would make her feel sleepy and other times she would experience a bit of depression. Concerned with these side effects Amanda sought information and came across a Cymbalta support group online. They convinced her to do something she now admits was stupid. Following their sage counsel she decided to stop taking her medicine. She tapered off the dose slowly, even opening the capsule and weighing the grains to take less and less. Now she is in the grip of anxiety again and it is stopping her from following the plan she made to leave California and return to the East. Get more of the details in her blog, Anxiety in the Sun.
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Do you recall a time when no one except the fringe members of society had piercings and tattoos? Remember when “punks” listened to punk rock music and wore mohawk hair styles, and put safety pins everywhere? Even through their noses. Now it’s 2018 and depending where you live you are likely to see a lot more body art and piercing. While people still gasp at shocking modifications like large holes in cheeks and screw-in horns, for the most part no one notices the pierced lip, pierced nose or eyebrow. Today M, our youth correspondent, talks about writing. What M hopes for is a day when LGBTQ people are not noticed anymore than a tongue piercing or two earrings on a dude. A day when all the young LGBTQ writers grow up and write about LGBTQ issues and desires.
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Cassie feels that it’s best to never tell your wife that you spend time away from her dressing in women’s clothes. All those “business” trips should remain strictly business trips and your wife doesn’t need to know about you releasing your feminine side in public. While “honesty is the best policy” Cassie feels that honesty is overrated and it’s more likely to lead to heartache than relief from the guilt you feel over sneaking around behind your wife’s back. But, if you’re not married yet Cassie recommends that you tell your girlfriend about your femme pursuits. What is her rational for these bits of advice? Read on and find out.
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The news is out! Our contributor Claire H. is now officially Claire Hall. She came out publicly in a big way by being featured in an article in The Oregonian. She is out at work and out to family and friends. Today Claire blogs about how it feels to be presenting herself to the world as her authentic self after years of hiding.
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Debbie Louise Cannon is a Transformation Coach who has been going through her own transgender transition since July 2012. Debbie helps people by facilitating the process of overcoming their main fears and all the obstacles preventing them from following their truth. Today she talks with The Artist D! about how she works to help trans people live their truth.
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What is her social life going to be like without the Craig’s List Personals to help set the course to new relations, Linda wondered. Then a chance meeting with a ‘fellow traveler’ opened her eyes to new possibilities. Not too long ago news came out that the online classified ad company known as Craig’s List […]
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In 2014 Dana Bevan asked the question, “Whatever Happened to Transgender Support Groups and Conventions?” Since then she has been collecting answers and putting together this report on the state of the transgender community. What did she find? That, like all things, the transgender support group scene has been evolving. Read “Transgender Support: Found:” and learn how it has evolved.
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In her last post Kimberly told us about her move to the west coast and how she began to experiment with venturing out in public very early in the morning in her office attire. Today she talks about how she has evolved in her presentation as Kimberly’s adventures continue.
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Cate O’Malley has been a contributors to TGForum since 2014. Her posts have brought us useful information, entertaining notions, and some chuckles now and then. This will be Cate’s last post on TGForum (unless she is inspired and has internet access) as she takes off to hit the road and travel the land. Many thanks to Cate for her contributions. She ends them today with a post on the necessity of helping senior members of the LGBTQ community. It’s a good idea as we’ll all be there someday.
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Susan was a mature crossdresser years ago. Which would make her an old crossdresser now. Time takes its toll, and it isn’t easy. But crossdressing never was. Dressing at her age is much like taking an old hi performance car out for a spin. She is cruising along taking it easy with the old machine thinking “this thing is running really well for its age.” Then at a stop light a sleek new Corvette pulls up. The driver and occupant look over, race the engine and giggle. Is that why Susan’s back in the closet?
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Sophie talks about identity today. In the past she had defined herself according the various roles she played in her life. She was a loner, a Penn Stater, a frat guy, a husband, a drunk, and none of those roles really reflected her core identity. Then in 2008 her hidden inner identity burst out. For awhile the word “transgender” was what defined her. Read today’s blog and see how Sophie identifies today.
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Every since Amanda moved to northern California she has had problems. Finding affordable housing, having to put up with crazy landladies, and enduring the trials and tribulations of a job in retail. All of that and perhaps a longing for the east coast gave her anxiety. Medication for anxiety had side effects and withdrawing from medication proved to be harder than it should be. Today Amanda blogs about where she’s at, what she has to deal with, and what may happen this summer.
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Catcalling is a cross cultural thing. Whether it’s from construction workers in New York City or from men lounging on the street corners in Bogota there are always those “gentlemen” who will indulge in making loud comments on the attractive qualities of women walking by. In Bogota it is called El Piropo which translates as “the flattery.” Very few of the ladies so addressed appreciate the “compliments.” Our correspondent in Bogota writes about her experience with El Piropo and includes a newvideo.
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In around twenty nine days Claire will “go public” with her new gender presentation. She is excited to cast off the persona that was holding her down and anxious to enter the waters of women world. She has already come out to a few select people in her life and they are for the most part either supportive or indifferent. One of her female friends remarked that as much as Claire enjoyed the trappings of femininity that wasn’t what makes a woman a woman. Claire thought it over and shares her opinion on that in today’s blog post.
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For some people making friends is easy. They just fall into place in their lives and are often friends for life. For others, such as transgender or agender people, things may not be so simple. Our agender contributor M didn’t have any friends till they were in third grade. Now they are getting better at making friends but there are still problems to overcome. Give M’s blog post a read and see what being different forces them to deal with.
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On behalf of a trans friend who wanted to begin transition The Artist D! began to make inquiries in her town about where to go for hormone therapy and eventual gender confirmation surgery. Believing that her city was one of the bigger, more progressive areas in the USA D expected things to proceed fairly quickly in the search for information. Apparently their expectations were too high. It seems The Artist D!’s “big city” is not as well informed about transgender issues as they thought. Which leaves D wondering what trans people in really remote small towns do for medical care.
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Autogynephilia is a term created by Dr. Ray Blanchard. It purports to be a motivation for males to go to great lengths, even gender reassignment surgery, so they can see themselves as women. Blanchard claims that this is sexually driven. That rather than seeing another human or some object as a sexual fetish the male who has autogynephilia becomes his own sexual fetish. Many in the transgender community vehemently object to this idea as it reduces their need to express themselves in their true gender to nothing more than a paraphilia. Dr. Dana Bevan is one who has scoffed at the theory. Today she scoffs again while revisiting the subject.
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