Humans are born into a world and taught by label. A is for apple and B is for Butterfly. We grow up identifying things by which they were taught to us. O is for orange, P is for penis and Q is for queer. There are compartments for everyone and everything. The society created by […]
Dee Levy feels that there are transgendered women who don’t tell their wives the “whole truth” when they start to open up about their true nature but opt to ease into it by identifying as a crossdresser. Then the wives are confused when their husband starts to look more and more feminine. Then Dee has to break the news when they visit The Cross Dressers’ Wives Forum.
As we were putting today’s New Content to bed we received an email from dark fiction writer and TGForum fan Sally Bosco. Sally offered to let us repost her latest blog post about Jared Letto winning the Oscar for his portrayal of the TG character Rayon in Dallas Buyers Club. Of course we said “Thank you Sally” and here it is.
TG people have been around in Asia for more years than anyone can remember. From China to Thailand, from Indonesia to The Philippines, or from Japan to Korea, the “third gender” have been omnipresent for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. Many Asian cultures have long accepted, or liberally tolerated, the presence of “new-halfs” or […]
Nikki Nicole joins us with a commentary on how we girls are always “izing.” As in moisturizing, accessorizing, and making attempts at minimizing. Does it make us slaves to the industries that have been built selling beauty products and fashion fripperies? Or does the care that we take succeed in maximizing our realness and legitimizing us as women? See what Nikki has to say.
Just when the mainstream media is getting used to the term “transgender” and we’re able to start issuing fewer TWIT Awards to newspapers and websites for their misuse or non-use of the word The Artist D let’s us know that there’s a new word they’ll need to become familiar with. It’s lurking in the shadows now. It can be heard on college campuses and other places where nuanced reasoning crops up. What’s the word? Genderqueer.
Dee Levy is the founder of CrossDressersWives.com, a website devoted to the the emotional support of the wives of crossdressers who have not been honest with their partners. The dishonesty causes a lot of pain and suffering and most of the CDWs end up at ex wives of crossdressers. Sometimes Dee’s advice can be a bit strident but her message may help you to no make the mistakes she and other CDWs find unforgivable.
Do you let little things bother you when you’re out and about en femme? Will a run in your stockings or a broken nail make you so uncomfortable that you cut short your dressing time and head on home? Some people do feel that everything must be perfect and the checklist of items: nails, wig, jewelry, foundation garments, etc. must be perfect before they can relax and be comfortable. In this Video Fashion Tip Victoria Williams gives you the secret to being comfortable no matter what.
Many moons ago, I wrote a column about Labels in the TG Community. Crossdresser, Full time, post op, all the different divisions that comprise the wide TG tapestry. Back then, I railed against these artificial divisions. Back then, I said we should all be one community and not undermine each other. Back then, I didn’t […]
It’s a new year and our correspondent in Thailand, Christine Burr, has some New Year’s wishes instead of resolutions. Her wishes are all for the improvement of the lives lead by Thailand’s ladyboys — and for the improvement of the lives of all transgendered people around the world.
This month The Artist D kicks a bit at kick starter fundraising on the Internet. It seems that everyone in need of money for every imaginable reason is jumping on the Web to set up a crow funding campaign. Are they all just digital beggars? The Artist D is a proud cyber whore who gave her web cam viewers value for their largesse. Is it wrong that now people just ask for the cash? Find out what The Artist D thinks and read Transgender Telethon.
New years are seen as chances for new beginnings. We can stop the negative things we’ve been doing and make a change for the better. If you have been reading Dee Levy’s Crossdresser’s Wife posts you all ready know that what she counsels all CDs and TGs who are in relationships to do is come clean in the new year. Look your partner in the eye and give them the whole story. Read Truth and see if you can take that challenge.
The old saying “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover” is often not taken seriously enough in today’s world. What’s on the inside is what counts, not the way the package is wrapped — but there are stereotypes. No matter what part of society you’re moving around in you will find stereotypes and we do have them in the transgender community. Today Linda Jensen catches up with a friend who has a story about a stereotype that was held by a nightclub owner she had just met.
There’s more to getting a good photo of your femme self than standing in front of a camera. Wardrobe, hair, makeup and your pose are all essential in making the photo show your femme side. TGF member Leah Valdez has been doing amateur modeling as a female and she has some tips and tricks that will help you look your most feminine in photos whether you take them yourself or go to a professional photographer.
RachelX is into whips and chains. Also being wrapped in duct tape, hung from the ceiling in a straight jacket and just about any other fetish found in the initials SMBD. Why does she like it? It’s all about power. Recently Rachel attending a fetish party, or gathering on the retinue of the mistress she serves ,and she illustrates this post why S&M is not what you see in Hollywood movies with some photos from that party.
The Artist D is never one to lack an opinion. Today she has an opinion about words. As The Bee Gees said before they went disco, “It’s only words….” Words can have power. Words can hurt. The Artist D feels that words only have the power to hurt you if you let them. Today her opinion is about the word “tranny” and whether those who use it are automatically doomed to the ranks of the transphobic.
Can crossdressers be self centered? Narcissistic? Lack empathy for their spouses? Sure. But so can football fanatics or obsessed collectors. Today Dee Levy reminds CDs that it’s the holiday season and it might be nice to consider the feelings of spouses and family a bit more at this time of year. Of course Dee was married to a seriously self centered CD and she’s still more than a little angry about it but her cautionary tales may help you to see if you’re a bit too obsessed for the season.
Today Victoria Williams takes on a topic near and dear to many of us, shoes. Some shoes are designed with hosiery in mind and other shoes are made to be worn with bare legs. Victoria guides you through the styles that are meant to be worn with hose and the styles that can be rocked without the benefit of nylon intervening betwixt shoe and toe. Don’t miss today’s Video Fashion Tip!
Do the pleasantries and cliched responses from friends when you tell them about problems in your life really get to you? Does it drive you nuts when you tell a friend that you’re going through a rough patch or have been in an accident or been a crime victim and they come back with pat responses that are just snipes of dialogue from any show on the Lifetime Network? If that’s how you feel then you’re going to identify with The Artist D’s topic for today’s post.
One of the main interests of Dallas Denny for over 16 years has been making the heterosexual crossdresser group Tri-Ess uncomfortable. Why would a TS like Dallas want to make the ladies of Tri-Ess squirm in their girdles? Is she just a mean girl? A trouble maker? No. Dallas sees hypocrisy and intellectual dishonesty in Tri-Ess’ “heterosexual crossdressers only” policies. Has she had any success poking Tri-Ess regarding their rejection of TS and gay transgendered people? Read The Tri-Ess Wars and see.
Today Dee Levy of Crossdresserswives.com comments on and decries the fact that many times transgendered women are refused breast health care simply because they are transgendered. A recent story we featured in The Week In Transgenderism told of a TG woman who has been living a female life for many years but she was turned away when she sought a mammogram at Planned Parenthood.
The katoey, or ladyboys, of Thailand, like most TGs, have a hard life. While there is a place in the Thai culture for the katoey it’s not necessarily something that is welcomed or treated with respect. As too often happens around the world the ladyboys get involved in criminal activities since they are denied a way to legitimately support themselves. Our correspondent in Thailand has filed another report on misbehavior by katoey.
Today The Artist D makes a discovery. She realizes, suddenly and deeply, that she has neglected the male side of her personality. He should be just as fabulous and witty as she but for too long he has accepted the imposed gender norms of society and let her do the over the top, the extravagant and amazing. The Artist D knows in one moment that he/she is a complex and fluid creature who won’t be bound by the rules of gender, whether from inside or outside the TG community. Join The Artist and investigate the tyranny of The Binary.
Our TG politics correspondent Babs Casbar Siperstein thinks that the timing might just be right for the passage of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. After languishing for years and years could this be the right time? Without Federal protections in employment transgendered people can be fired just for being transgendered. In 33 states TGs have no protection under the law if their employer fires them for being TG or if someone refuses to hire them for that reason. With the election of Cory Booker to the Senate Babs feels his positive voice for ENDA will tip the scales and we will see movement in the Senate.
It’s strange how certain words or phrases come into vogue, slip into “fashion,” reoccur in regular usage–perhaps initially being used by a small group of people, and then becoming adopted by the wider community at large. Language is always evolving and we’re forever seeing new “tech” words or words or phrases, which often begin as […]
Feminism is often a difficult word to swallow and has been cruelly abused over time for numerous campaigns. The fight of feminists has been a flag taken up by many transgender male to female comrades. Depending on the feminist we are either welcome or completely banned from the club for ever being tainted with any […]
