Commitments mean something. Before we make them — and promise the world to a “significant other” — we need a clear head and complete readiness to open our minds, reveal our strengths and weaknesses, and be 100% willing to do everything we can for a happy future and a fulfilling life. If we fall short […]
That was quite a discussion on TGForum a couple of weeks ago. Sparked by a mention of the controversy stirred up by RuPaul in distinguishing between drag queens and she-males it highlighted to me that even among the TG community there is not a common understanding of the terms used to describe various members of […]
Transgender children now have new opportunities to express their biological gender predisposition. Both social transition and puberty delay are now recognized as appropriate options for some transgender children. This represents a change in the guidelines set by the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), which sets standards for medical and mental health treatment of […]
Are you more ‘T’ than me? Let me ask it this way, are you more of a trans* person than I am? What started this question was a phone call I had with another transwoman who had completed her SRS ten years ago. She is well known in the local community as a resource, guide […]
“What are words for?” That’s a lyric by the L.A. band Missing Persons and it’s also the theme that Christine Burrows examines in her Dispatch From Thailand. Where to the words used to identify the TG community come from? How do they vary from culture to culture and what makes a specific term pejorative? Learn what Christine believes in “Katoey — and Other Dirty Words.”
My last article, By The Numbers … (12th May) discussed a real-life scenario in which 150 men were all wearing exactly the same outfit at their school’s annual dinner in accordance with the stipulated dress code. Dress codes are a curious contradiction. In the animal world, male pack members vie to become the “alpha” by […]
How cool is that? Isn’t really cool? We use the term “cool” an awful lot and Nikki Nicole wonders if something gets too cool does it become “cold”? And isn’t being frozen a bad thing? Yes, she can get carried away but she wonders about things. See where her thoughts on coolness lead her in “How Cool is Cold?”
How were you formed? Whatever you had to endure as a transgendered child it made you what you are today. Do you hide in the closet still? Are you out and proud? Your childhood experience influenced who you became. Today The Artist D talks about her childhood and how, after a long time, she can accept her history while now making adult choices.
Why do right wing conservatives express so much fear and condemnation at GLBT people? What is it that makes them think we somehow threaten them and their clean and shiny little lives? Why do they constantly equate sexual preference and non-standard gender identities with immorality and degeneracy? Today Angela Gardner takes a look at how conservatives see us.
Occasionally our Linda likes to go away on vacation to be Linda full time. She enjoys doing the same thing her male ego would do ( golf, hiking and sunbathing) with one exception. She enjoys dating men. Today she conducts and in-depth interview with herself to find out what happened on her latest vacation.
Angela Gardner produces parties for trans people in the Philadelphia, Pennsylvania suburbs. The party is called Angela’s Laptop Lounge. While she was covering the Trans-Health Conference at the beginning of this month Angela ran into some ladies who commented that support groups seemed to be going out of fashion as many TGs preferred to go out to bars, clubs and parties to drink. In this Op-Ed Angela examines if it’s okay to be a TG party girl.
SF writer Robert Heinlein once wrote “TANSTAAFL.” That’s an acronym that means “Theres ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.” Even if the bar you are going to has a sign up saying that you get a free lunch with your drinks, you’re still paying for the lunch. Most things in life have to be paid for sometime, by somebody. Today Sophie tells you what she has paid for what she has gained by going full-time in her true gender.
It’s been one of those periods. Allow a correction, it’s been another one of those periods. Maybe you’ve experienced it; uncertainty followed by questioning followed by another layer of uncertainty. Yes, you know about it? You’re a charter member of the club? Or no, what are you Nikki some kind of crazy twilight zone citizen? […]
Dallas Denny has allowed us to republish a piece she posted on her Chrysalis website. While she has not read the book she has skimmed it and found evidence that “Gender Hurts” is not an actual scholarly work on transgender issues but instead a book with an anti-trans agenda. It is very similar, but better written, to another work published over 30 years ago that claimed transsexuals were a plot to replace biological women.
Our correspondent in Thailand has filed another report. In this one Christine Burr says that because generally speaking the Thai people have liberal attitudes toward trans people you will find ladyboys all over the place. They work in hair salons, shops and restaurants, and of course in cabaret shows aimed at the tourists. Does it indicate that ladyboys are movin’ on up?
Many crossdressers fear once their wives (70% of them) find out that you are under-dressing or dressing en femme secretly, their marriages will fail. If you want her trust in you or in your marriage — know that the TRUTH is essential and it will take time for her to even begin to make sense out […]
Everyone should learn to read. That’s a given. But in The Artist D’s world it’s what you read that helps you learn who you are. How many of us struggled through the books we were supposed to read in school? The books that didn’t speak to us about things that were important to us, not to educators attempting to provide a well rounded education? That’s why The Artist D thinks the Reading Rainbow program should add some more colors. See if you concur.
No, we are not talking about Top Gun or 12 O’clock High, we are talking about the tendency of transgender people to join the military. It is well documented that transgender people join the military at about twice the rate of the United States general population. Understanding of why transgender people are attracted to the […]
(Bala Cynwyd, PA) One of the main reasons female-to-male (F2M) bottom surgery has lagged behind male-to-female (M2F) bottom surgery has been that the technology had not yet been developed to surgically create a penis that performed as realistically as it looked, according to Dr. Sherman Leis at the Philadelphia Center for Transgender Surgery and an […]
Our Sophie Lynne has taken the big step and begun living full time as a woman. Today she tells us what it is that helped her make it through the tough, dark moments and got her to where she’s at today — living as who she is, not who others want her to be. What is it that sustains her and keep her moving forward on her gender journey? There’s a clue in the title of her post.
The waters of controversy, we all know about water, and about controversy. They are both irrefutable. One we can see — the water; the other one — the controversy we swear we can see but it’s not physical, not like a statue or a chair. We feel it; controversy — it invades our psyche, quickens […]
The people we need to come along at the right time usually do. It’s no accident that the universe crossed my path with Alana Nicole Sholar and Bobbie Thompson when it did. This amazing couple has some of the most enriching nuggets of wisdom when it comes to the world of transgender. That’s probably because […]
How do you live day in and out, year after year, decade after decade as a closeted crossdresser, or a transgender? Your minds must be consumed of being continuously ‘on guard,’ making sure your wife or significant other does not find out what you have CHOSEN to hide from her. Though you did not choose […]
A great deal of time is spent on the discussion of how to tell a spouse you are transgender. However, telling your spouse is only the first step in a long line of open communication. The most important part is what happens after the initial conversation and your significant other now knows. Here are 6 […]
A lot has been written in the clinical literature showing that transgender males grow up to be gay. This has been echoed in the popular literature as well. Many parents panic and take their children into the clinic if they see signs of transgender behavior in their children. Ethical therapists will provide supportive counseling for […]
Full time work is increasingly hard to find as corporations send American jobs overseas tax free without caring about the fallout this does to their country, just so their stockholders can make an extra dollar or two. This outrage was supported by… What? Oh. Sorry Angela. You meant Full Time as a WOMAN. *puts away […]
