Tag: passing

Walls

Pauline | Jan 28, 2019 | Reply

There is an awful lot of talk theses days about the benefits and drawbacks of a wall. In ancient times when your enemies had to run at your town and attack you with clubs and swords a wall around your home was pretty useful. Pauline Estelle writes about walls that are not useful. The walls we put up around ourselves out of fear that someone will “read” us as trans, or as a man in a dress. Building those walls can lead to behavior that actually draws more attention our way. Learn what Pauline has to say about Walls.

Kim’s Adventure Time — 4 Tips for Improving Your Presentation

KimberlyTS | Oct 15, 2018 | Reply

Kimberly Hirschel offers four resources for those exploring their feminine side that help crossdressers of trans women become more confident and able to mix with the general population. These things have worked well for her and she shares them today. Read on and see what the advantages of each resource is and how they could help your feminine presentation.

Being Femme: Theory and Practice

Cheryl Ann Sanders | Aug 27, 2018 | Reply

In Theory and Practice Cheryl Ann “Cassie” Sanders gives a little bit of space to theory and devotes a lot of space to the joys of crossdressing. You might say the post is a a celebration of all the time and effort it takes to be out and about in the world and accepted as a woman. This post, like the others we’ve shared by Cassie in the past few months have all been featured on TGForum back in the last century. Cassie has spruced them up with some new makeup and a spritz of perfume so we could present the to you again.

Kimberley’s Adventure Time

KimberlyTS | Aug 13, 2018 | Reply

Kimberly writes about the early years when she would step out into the world in her female persona. The exhilaration she felt was indescribable. Many who would love to follow in her footsteps and feel that same rush are too reluctant to ever get all dressed up and go out in public. There is always a fear that someone will cause problems. Kimberly has found more people who are accepting and helped her feel accepted as a woman.

Suzzie Steps Out

suzzieg | Jul 16, 2018 | Reply

Today Susan Grant shares her advice, gained through years of experience. Don’t bother trying to “pass” as a woman. It is very hard for some males to do given the physical equipment they have. A wide face, large hands, big Adam’s Apple, all our burdens to camouflage or cover up while seeking feminine perfection. Suzzie advocates that it’s better to perfect your feminine “illusion” rather than trying to “pass” in public. Read on and see if you agree.

An Encounter Sadly Missed

Linda Jensen | Jun 25, 2018 | Reply

Linda (in drab) spots another t-girl approaching down the Walmart aisle. Do they meet? Do they chat? Will this be the beginning of a long and cherished friendship? No, not quite. Today Linda explores the things that kept her from meeting and befriending a fellow devotee of the femme lifestyle. And looking back on the almost encounter Linda wonders if her body language might have scared the gal off.

The Occasional Woman — Passing Tips

Lorraine Anderson | Jun 18, 2018 | Reply

Today Lorraine Anderson, the woman in charge at The Occasional Woman seamstress service, talks about what she saw when she to a party for trans people. She observed attendees who were otherwise well dressed as women walking like guys. Shoulders were hunched forward and high heel shod feet were planted apart. Then there were the body language errors she observed while attendees were sitting down. Lorraine will go into everything in much more detail and if your goal is to be accepted as a woman in public you should make note of what she says. As a bonus we include a video of a group of men who are trying to walk in high heels for the first time. It illustrates some of Lorraine’s comments.

Kim’s California Adventures Begin

KimberlyTS | Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

Kimberly writes about a time when she moved from the east coast to California. She was only dressing en femme part of the time and that time tended to be very early in the morning. Or late at night if you look at it from another view point. Everyday she would get up and get fully dressed in lady’s business attire. Then off she would go, out into the world. What did she do on these excursions? What adventures did she have? Read her blog post today and learn what she did and to what lengths she went to avoid discovery by her neighbors.

Tips on Passing for Older Girls

Pauline | Mar 26, 2018 | Reply

When we’re young it’s easier for some males to make themselves pretty and be passable females. Those who have the advantage of a smaller frame or shorter stature can feminize themselves fairly well. As we age, after a certain point, we may not be able to continue to present as head turning hotties but we may be able to blend in more seamlessly. Why? Age causes features to soften and we actually get shorter. In many cases senior women and men are only differentiated by a little makeup and a different type of clothing. Pauline Estelle has some tips on how to take advantage of your senior status to just be one of the older girls.

Liz — A CD Inspiration and Con-Artist

The Editor | Feb 26, 2018 | Reply

It’s a story that seems like a crossdressing fantasy but it really happened. A con man who was living as a woman started a bogus automobile company in California while he was on the run from charges of counterfeiting and bail jumping. He was so confidant of his female identity that she risked the public eye to head the bogus car company and court investors. Even though she wasn’t that convincingly female. It all happened back in the 1970s. Guest contributor Susan Grant tells you all the details of this amazing story.

Unemployed

Sophie Lynne | Feb 19, 2018 | Reply

Sophie Lynne has been putting up with a job that exposes her daily to rude comments from customers and she has had to take it with a smile or risk being fired. A job that once fulfilled her has turned into a soul sucking burden that she can’t afford to quit. She needs the money. All that changed last week when she was suddenly, without prior warning, relieved of her soul sucking job when they showed her the door. Now the question becomes, will not having to suffer in a bad job allow her to blossom into another area, or will she succumb to the soul sucking despair of depression?

Am I Acting?

Christine B | Jan 29, 2018 | Reply

If you weren’t socialized from an early age as a female you may have to work at presenting yourself to others as a woman. Women are raised soaking in culturally imposed gender related behaviors that trans women don’t get exposed to. Trans women often spend too many years learning to hide their femininity so as to fit in with societal expectations of how they should behave as men. Christine Burr came to understand that she was female after she reached middle age. She had to work to acquire the traits of a mature woman and new when she is expressing her true gender she is left wondering if she is acting.

Sound Like Your True Gender!

marcm225 | Jan 15, 2018 | Reply

Marc Mitnick is a speech therapist based in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. He blogs here on TGF with tips and techniques to help our readers develop their feminine voices. Today he has more ideas to help create that feminine voice. Among them: singing, using a recorder to listen to how you sound to others, and other ways to use your facial muscles and body language to come across as a female.

Going Out En Femme

KimberlyTS | Jan 1, 2018 | Reply

Often time fear will keep a trans person from going out in public. Fear of taunts or even violence can persuade you to stay in the safety of your home instead of mingling with the general public. In some areas where tolerance isn’t known maybe that’s a good idea, but if your goal is to blend in with other women and “pass” as female you won’t learn the skills you need sitting in your living room. Kimberly Hirschel makes today’s topic for Kim’s Adventure Time why you should be going out en femme. You might make mistakes and have people stare but you will learn from those mistakes and become more comfortable in public asa result.

Almost. . . But Not Quite

Amanda F. Steele | Oct 2, 2017 | Reply

You’ve heard the song Bad Day? It got a lot of radio play a few years back. Well the title of the song only begins to touch on the kind of bad week that our Amanda Steele had to endure. Things started off well and it looked as if a plan to move out of her crazy rooming house was going to work out. She and her cat would be free from the landlady’s immense collection of stray felines and all the confusion. Just a couple of things needed done and soon Amanda would be free. But the best laid plans. . . .

Will That Be the Last Time I See Marie?

Linda Jensen | Sep 18, 2017 | Reply

Linda meets up with a long-time friend who says she has some startling news for her. What could it be? Her friend was going to have gender confirmation surgery? But then she would still be the woman Linda liked, and, she had always identified as a crossdresser. Could it be something personal? Linda didn’t think there was anything wrong between them. Why would this be the last time they might see each other?

I Didn’t Ask For This

Sophie Lynne | Sep 4, 2017 | Reply

Sophie Lynne has gotten a raw deal. She is separated from her family. She works a low paying retail job that barely lets her cover the rent. She is college educated, intelligent, and capable. But she’s also a trans woman. Conservatives attack trans people with allegations that they are mentally ill or just acting out to cause trouble. That’s not true. Being trans is not a choice. Sophie only had one choice; she could either live as a trans woman in a low paying job with all the problems that go along with that, or she could end it all. She shouldn’t have to consider that choice because she didn’t ask for any of this.

The Occasional Woman: Passing!

Lorraine Anderson | Sep 4, 2017 | Reply

Every male who dresses up in feminine attire has individual needs to meet. Some want to blend in with the female population seamlessly. Others want to proudly put themselves out there in fashion forward looks that draw attention and have those nearby saying to their companions, “You mean that’s a man?” If your goal is to blend in, for whatever reason, then you won’t want to miss Lorraine Anderson’s Occasional Woman column today. She talks you through the biggest “tells” that make others suspect you are not what you appear to be. And we include a video on how to walk in high heels. What more could you want?

Kimberly’s Adventure Time

KimberlyTS | Jun 19, 2017 | Reply

Kimberly has been blogging about her journey into womanhood. In her past posts she has written about how she came to realize that she was transgender, and how she started to explore her local area early in the morning. She would dress like a lady on the way to her office and stop in at stores that were open very early so she could interact with some people in her true gender. What goes with early mornings? Breakfast, of course. Today Kimberly writes about what happened when she started having breakfast at Denny’s.

Early Days: Stepping Out En Femme

KimberlyTS | May 22, 2017 | Reply

Kim’s Adventure Time today focuses on when she had just decided that she needed to do more than dress up in the privacy of her own home. She needed to get out into the wide world. But not too much of the wide world. While she took small steps to begin with, going out very, very early in the morning to limit the number of people she might meet, she always wore high heels.

Holiday Memories

Amanda F. Steele | Apr 17, 2017 | Reply

Holiday times are when Amanda takes out her memories of past adventures and relives them. Today she tells us about some of the good times, en femme and totally feeling it that she had in the ’90s. Sadly the photos of the early days of that trip to the mall, after the meticulous planning and attention to every detail, were lost in a purge. But the memories are still available and Amanda has some photos from the 2000s that you’ll want to see.

Voice Treatment for MtF Trans Individuals

marcm225 | Apr 10, 2017 | Reply

Achieving a natural sounding feminine voice when you’ve been talking like a guy since puberty may take some work. Like anything worthwhile you have to put out some effort to achieve results. Today speech therapist Marc Mitnick gives you a homework assignment. Music may be the key to raising your voice to the proper pitch and Marc shows you a couple of simple musical exercises that will help you toward your goal.

General Tips on Feminine Appearance for Crossdressers

diane1962 | Feb 27, 2017 | Reply

Diane Hutchinson had a regular column on TGForum back in the 1990s and she covered a variety of how-to topics. This particular column appeared in 1998 and it covers all of the things a would-be crossdresser needs to put some effort into in order to put forth their best feminine image. All of the tips are still good ones to follow today.

A First Time for Everything

porjabraga | Feb 20, 2017 | Reply

Every crossdresser has a tale of the first time. The first time they went out into the world of straight people dressed in their finest femme attire. For some it’s attending a Halloween party. Others decide to get dolled up for some event like a concert or trans friendly movie. Today our contributor Porja Braga tells her “first time” story and encourages you to make it a priority to live your “first time” out and about en femme.

How’s Your Passing Game?

angela_g | Feb 6, 2017 | Reply

Why is passing so important to many crossdressers? Trans women want to be accepted as who they are. Crossdressers are two people. They have a male face and a female face. There are some who say we shouldn’t give a damn about passing but dress as we like. Others feel that passing is necessary for acceptance by the general public. What’s so great about passing? Angela Gardner calls on her years of public crossdressing and tries to arrive at an answer to why it’s so important to many.

Princesas de la Noche — “Caminando en Solitario de Noche por Bogotá”

kathdiaz2005 | Jan 23, 2017 | Reply

We present another blog with a video by Katherine Diaz, our contributor from Bogota, Columbia. Today’s installment about life in Columbia is titled “Caminando en Solitario de Noche por Bogotá.” In English that’s “Walking Alone at night in Bogota.” Katherine does it all the time and talks about the experience en Español.

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