The first step to looking like a woman is to get rid of your facial hair. Those who are going on along the path to full time female presentation can use lasers and electrolysis to banish their beard forever. Part time ladies who dress on the weekend and fill the male role at other times have to master the art of getting a close shave. Just how do you get a close shave?
You may have heard the phrase “less is more.” It means that sometimes the less you work on something trying to perfect it the more effective your efforts can be. Too many notes can ruin a piece of music. Too much color can destroy a painting. Sometimes too much makeup and tight sexy clothing can make you the focus of attention but a bit less artifice can make you be seen as another woman in the room. Victoria Williams talks about how less artifice can be more effective.
Today Victoria goes beyond fashion and asks the question, “How confident are you?” You won’t be able to do the things you want to do en femme unless you beat your fears and learn to be confident. Confidence is more than half of what you need to present yourself as a woman. If you are timid and nervous you will attract attention no matter fashionably dressed you happen to be. After you view Victoria’s video use the comment field to answer her question.
Fifteen years ago Graham Holmes put aside his femme persona and came out to everyone, including his employer, that he was just a bloke who needed to wear feminine clothing. In his mind attempts to “pass” as a woman or “blend in” as a woman by employing wigs, padding and makeup were misguided and crossdressers would never be accepted unless they came out in the open. TG support groups in England opposed Graham’s ideas. Where have their ideas gotten CDs?
A new contributor joins us today with her perspective on what it takes to successfully transform into an acceptable, or even outstanding woman. Serena Harris is talking about transformation via makeup, hair styling and flattering attire. She feels that while many men are just to manly to dress up, those with the proper attributes can do quite well en femme.
Do you let little things bother you when you’re out and about en femme? Will a run in your stockings or a broken nail make you so uncomfortable that you cut short your dressing time and head on home? Some people do feel that everything must be perfect and the checklist of items: nails, wig, jewelry, foundation garments, etc. must be perfect before they can relax and be comfortable. In this Video Fashion Tip Victoria Williams gives you the secret to being comfortable no matter what.
Many crossdressers say they just want to blend in but then you find them wearing outfits that make them stand out. Not because they are so well put together but because they are badly coordinated and not age or place appropriate. So Tasi Zuriack says why not standout from the crowd in an attractive way that makes the first comment your provoke be about how great your outfit is and not something on the order of “That guy’s dress is awful.” Get fashion advice on how to find your go-to look so you can dress to impress.
So you’ve acquired lady’s clothing, accessories, shoes, jewelry and the undergarments you need to totally dress in femme fashion. But how do you decide what goes with what? Putting an outfit together is more than just throwing on some clothing. The stylish woman makes her clothing work together. Each piece compliments or reflects every other item of her attire. Victoria Williams gives you some pointers in today’s Video Fashion Tip, Putting Yourself Together.
Don’t you find you have a tendency to see transgendered people everywhere? Look at that woman over there. Isn’t she a bit tall? That jawline is a bit heavy, don’t you think? Well, large hand. Do you suppose? It’s an easy practice to fall into and when we spot someone we think is TG we want to somehow let them know that we know and that it’s okay because we’re TG too. But it doesn’t always work out.
French women are generally considered the most “stylishly chic” in the world. But why is that? Surely they haven’t cornered the market on beauty and style. How is it that they look so fashionable without appearing that they’re trying too hard? The answer is stay “simple and unique” which, along with a strong touch of […]
Victoria Williams has been working on her feminine presentation for several years. She has gone from dreaming about mingling with others in public en femme to actually doing it. Along the way she has picked up knowledge and today she shares some of the things she has learned on her journey. She wishes she had known them at the start and hopes she can pass them on to her sisters so they don’t have to learn the hard way.
Tasi Zuriack is all about feminine fashion. She’s so into fashion and women’s clothing that she has spent the past ten years working on a website that is completely dedicated to how to dress properly to transmit the message you want people to get. Today she discusses that website along with the trends to androgyny in men’s fashion and offers everyone a free book about the top ten fashion mistakes crossdressers, and women, make when dolling up.
Stealth is useful when you don’t want your spy planes to be noticed by the people you are spying on. It’s not as useful and may be actually harmful when you’re transgendered. The burden of having to pass all the time, having to watch yourself constantly to make sure you don’t betray your gender status and then the damage to your personal relationships and career from being outed make it an unhealthy way to live. Dallas Denny read an essay by another TG writer on the dangers of stealth and has been inspired to expand on the subject.
Recently an interview Dustin Hoffman did with the American Film Institute in 1998 surfaced on YouTube and went viral with the TG community. Hoffman talks about what the motivation for doing the film “Tootsie” was and how it affected his understanding of the relationship between the sexes. Much has been made of the fact that he broke down and wept when he realized that he had been judging women not by their character but by their looks. He reveals that he felt “brainwashed.” The AFI interview inspired our contributor Geogria TG to some commentary on the film and Hoffman’s epiphany. She thinks that Hoffman’s male character in the film would not have killed off Dorothy Michaels.
What’s in a name? Is not a rose still a rose if we call it a daisy? Today RachelX talks about what it’s like to transition and have friends and family deal with remembering your new gender label and name. Learn how Rachel handles being called by her old name or with the wrong pronoun.
Recently Linda Jensen spent the day with Lisa, a t-girl who makes no attempt to blend in to the crowd. Lisa seems to flaunt her difference. ‘Vive la différénce,’ as they say in France. Should our goal be blending? Linda ponders — ‘what is the right approach?’
Victoria Williams has been there and done that when it comes to fashion, beauty and style. She shares her knowledge via video fashion tips. Today Victoria is talking about hair and finding what works for you. Did you know wigs come in different cap sizes? Is a lace front wig right for you? What if you want to grow your hair? Victoria answers all.
A proportional body is what makes a woman the most attractive. But few people — cisgendered or transgendered — have truly proportional bodies. Tasi Zuriack tells us today that there are tricks to dressing that will help you achieve a proportional look for your body type. Read on and keep things in proportion.
Our British contributor, Graham Holmes, dresses but makes no attempt to pass as a female. He uses the men’s room, does his errands and his work dressed but eschews wigs and breast forms. Does he run into trouble from this lifestyle? Most often from other CDs. And some of the general public.
Can you expect to pass as a woman all the time? Sure, you can have some photos that look pretty good but does you look work on enough levels all the time? Should you worry about passing? GeorgiaTg says it’s better to be a proud TG and finding the balance of gender you need.
The 21st century is our time. Mens’ grooming in general is trending more to the use of traditionally feminine things like hair removal, skin lotions and makeup. That can only make things easier for the modern part time girl. Angela Gardner muses on the relaxing rules that make it easier to move between genders.
Is “passing” as a woman a necessary thing? Our “man in a dress” thinks passing as a crossdresser having a great time is a better goal. How did Graham give up passing and just start wearing women’s clothing as his clothing? He tells us today in this post.
The Keystone Conference has left attendees with an array of thoughts, emotions and perspectives. Their stories continue to bubble up and we bring them to you on TGF. Susannah Robinson is one attendee who was inspired by the conference to think and write about the gender binary and crossdressing. She shares her thought’s in Keystone Reflections.
Dallas Denny takes us on a pictorial trip back through the decades and examines how passing, for some, has become easier thanks to modern makeup and other enhancements. From Boulton and Park right up to today. Dallas takes a look at Crossdressers Across the Decades.
