Many moons ago, I wrote a column about Labels in the TG Community. Crossdresser, Full time, post op, all the different divisions that comprise the wide TG tapestry. Back then, I railed against these artificial divisions. Back then, I said we should all be one community and not undermine each other. Back then, I didn’t […]
It’s a new year and our correspondent in Thailand, Christine Burr, has some New Year’s wishes instead of resolutions. Her wishes are all for the improvement of the lives lead by Thailand’s ladyboys — and for the improvement of the lives of all transgendered people around the world.
You might wonder what “Bridgegate,” the closing of several traffic lanes on the George Washington Bridge, has to do with transgender rights. A bit more than you might think. Our political correspondent Babs Casbar Sieperstien has filed a report that debunks the idea that the bridge closing was retaliation against the mayor of Fort Lee. It may have been retaliation against the biggest ally of transgendered people in the Garden State. Get the politics and why they’re important for TGs from Babs.
The old saying “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover” is often not taken seriously enough in today’s world. What’s on the inside is what counts, not the way the package is wrapped — but there are stereotypes. No matter what part of society you’re moving around in you will find stereotypes and we do have them in the transgender community. Today Linda Jensen catches up with a friend who has a story about a stereotype that was held by a nightclub owner she had just met.
Many of us live in fear. Everything from fear of missing a bus to fear of being mugged; fear of paying too much for something or fear of being outed as a crossdresser or TG. All of these fears exist and sometimes, like the one about being outed, the fears can repress us and dominate us. They can keep us from being who we really are. Sophie Lynne has been facing her fears. Today she tells us about them and tells us a secret about fighting fear.
So you’ve acquired lady’s clothing, accessories, shoes, jewelry and the undergarments you need to totally dress in femme fashion. But how do you decide what goes with what? Putting an outfit together is more than just throwing on some clothing. The stylish woman makes her clothing work together. Each piece compliments or reflects every other item of her attire. Victoria Williams gives you some pointers in today’s Video Fashion Tip, Putting Yourself Together.
Can crossdressers be self centered? Narcissistic? Lack empathy for their spouses? Sure. But so can football fanatics or obsessed collectors. Today Dee Levy reminds CDs that it’s the holiday season and it might be nice to consider the feelings of spouses and family a bit more at this time of year. Of course Dee was married to a seriously self centered CD and she’s still more than a little angry about it but her cautionary tales may help you to see if you’re a bit too obsessed for the season.
ENDA has long been recognized as an important political bill for the LGBT community. Standing for “Employment Non-Descrimination Act,” the bill has sought to brought about sweeping reform in the workplace, ending by law any discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation. In fact, when you consider this definition of ENDA, and our society’s […]
Today Victoria Williams takes on a topic near and dear to many of us, shoes. Some shoes are designed with hosiery in mind and other shoes are made to be worn with bare legs. Victoria guides you through the styles that are meant to be worn with hose and the styles that can be rocked without the benefit of nylon intervening betwixt shoe and toe. Don’t miss today’s Video Fashion Tip!
Do the pleasantries and cliched responses from friends when you tell them about problems in your life really get to you? Does it drive you nuts when you tell a friend that you’re going through a rough patch or have been in an accident or been a crime victim and they come back with pat responses that are just snipes of dialogue from any show on the Lifetime Network? If that’s how you feel then you’re going to identify with The Artist D’s topic for today’s post.
Our Babs Casbar Siperstein who participated in the Transgender Day of Remembrance at the White House last year was called upon to speak at two recent TDOR events. The following post is made up or her remarks at both occasions. She talks about the progress that transgender people have made and progress that is still waiting to happen. How a society treats its transgendered people is a good measure of just how civilized it actually is.
Today Victoria Williams talks about a nail product from Sally Hanson that eliminates messes up nail polish caused by doing something with your hands just before you leave the house. You thought your polish was completely dry but buttoning your coat or putting on your jewelry has left indentations or spots where the polish has been scraped away. Don’t put up with it any longer! Watch Victoria Williams’ Video Fashion Tip product review.
Today Dee Levy of Crossdresserswives.com comments on and decries the fact that many times transgendered women are refused breast health care simply because they are transgendered. A recent story we featured in The Week In Transgenderism told of a TG woman who has been living a female life for many years but she was turned away when she sought a mammogram at Planned Parenthood.
Today’s Video Fashion Tip cautions those who may be dressing on the down low” to not be foolish enough to borrow your significant other’s clothes. Girls, you need to buy your own clothes! And our video fashion maven Victoria Williams has hints and tips on how to accomplish that so you have your own feminine attire and don’t need to take chances. What happens if you soil that skirt or rip that dress? If it’s yours to begin with you only have minor garment problems to deal with.
Sophie Lynne just went through an hellacious month. She was banned from her home, lost a good friend to suicide and felt herself sinking into an abyss of darkness and despair. Caught between two identities and losing important anchors in her life she found herself slipping toward the same darkness that claimed her friend. It’s a darkness that calls far too many trangendered people. But Sophie has posted her column for today. What brought her away from the darkness?
French women are generally considered the most “stylishly chic” in the world. But why is that? Surely they haven’t cornered the market on beauty and style. How is it that they look so fashionable without appearing that they’re trying too hard? The answer is stay “simple and unique” which, along with a strong touch of […]
A news story in the New Jersey newspaper the Star Ledger has mis-gendered a murder victim. Another transgender murder victim. Babs Casbar Siperstein is upset by the coverage and the refusal by the paper to correct it’s mistake. Or is it a mistake? Babs looks closely and detects what could possibly be transphobia.
Dee A. Levy was deceived by her crossdresser husband who hid his dressing and chose to reveal it at possibly one of the most inopportune moments — ever. So Dee has become an advocate for crossdresser’s wives everywhere by demanding honesty and consideration of the wive’s needs. Today she comments on an article she read that celebrated the rising acceptance of “varied genders.” Dee asks, “What about wive’s?”
It’s a Catie Doodle! Catie Maye is a heterosexual crossdresser of over forty years, who has written a book that destroys the myths surrounding crossdressing. It’s titled Men Can Wear Dresses and the book and her company Transgender Doodle Limited, she hopes to raise awareness and dispel the negative mythology surrounding crossdressing.
Style. A short word but it carries a large impact. Fashion and style work together to show you at your best. If you simply follow fashion and forget to take style into account you can end up being mocked on the Internet. Just because a particular fashion looks good on one person is not guarantee that it will look good on you. To integrate the fashions of the moment with your particular style is a process. Fortunately for you Tasi Zuriack is here today to guide you on your style journey.
Dr. Dana Bevan believes that being transgendered is not a choice. She also believes that most of the choices we make are not made by our conscious minds but by the bits of programming and wiring that integrates our nervous systems with our brains. As she puts it, most people believe there is a “little person” inside their head that makes decisions for us. They call it a soul or spirit. Evidence though points to our “decisions” including acting out TG behavior, are all made by parts of our brains that are not under our control. Food for thought indeed.
Dr. Danielle Kaufman has some thoughts on the new law in California which allows students to use the restroom and locker room facilities appropriate for their gender identity. Dr. Kaufman, author of Untying the Knot, has just recently come out as a transgendered woman and from that perspective she comments on the reason the law was needed and deflates the ludicrous fears of those who oppose the law. This is Dr. Kaufman’s first contribution to TGForum and we welcome her thoughts and insights.
The controversy rages on! Those who adhere strictly to the Rules of Fashion are adamant that thou shalt not wear white after Labor Day. Those who feel that fashion should be fun and rules are for fuddle duddies say “to hell with that” and wear white apparel whenever it suits them. Which of these factions has the right idea? Will society as we know it crumble to dust if a woman wears white shoes after Labor Day? One of those weighing in is our Video Fashion Tip person, Victoria Williams, with her take on white after Labor Day.
Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell may be a thing of the past for gays and lesbians in the military but for transgendered people who want to serve or are currently in the armed forces there is no shield from a sudden discharge if they come out as TG. And recent studies have indicated that transgendered soldiers and veterans are prone to depression and suicide, and they aren’t being treated well by the VA when they leave the service. Dee Levy writes about the Pentagon’s transgender problem.
Our new contributor Catie Maye has provided her Doodles to TGF. Today she posts her statement about transvestite/crossdresser pride. Catie wonders why crossdressers should accept being lumped in with the other spots on the gender spectrum under the label “transgender.” She’s proud to be a crossdresser and has no problem with the word “transvestite.” Read her point of view and registered users can add their two cents in the comment box.
“Dream a little dream with me.” That’s the thrust of Sophie Lynne’s post today. Whether the dream is one you have at night while you’re tucked into your bed or if it’s one that you think about throughout your day, a longing for something more in your life, all your dreams are important. The one’s you have when you sleep are out of your conscious control but Sophie thinks the waking ones you hold dear and strive to achieve are more than dreams. They’re goals that you can work toward and someday achieve.
