Tag: Transition

Memento Mori

| May 13, 2019 | Reply

Thoughts of mortality begin to appear the older one gets. Your mind can wander down paths where you begin to think about what your lasting impression on the universe will be, or just wonderwhat will happen to all your “stuff.” We accumulate a great deal of “things in the course of a lifetime. What will happen to those thins, our stuff, when we’ve left? And, for transgender people, “who” will be remembered by those left behind? Will it be the person who expressed their true gender for part of their life or will it be the old persona the closed the door on? Sophie muses on all that in today’s blog, Momento Mori.

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Updates: Transgender Science in the News

| Apr 22, 2019 | Reply

Dana Bevan follows up on a couple of stories she previously reported on in her blog. One is the fallout from the paper by Dr. Lisa Littman purporting to prove that Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is a thing, and is being caused by kids following trends and experiencing peer pressure to claim they are transgender. The second is the rise in stories about “transgender regret” or “detransitioning.” The conservative media latches onto any story about a transgender person transitioning and then having regrets and going back to their birth gender. Dana has facts to refute those claims.

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Why Wait?

| Apr 8, 2019 | Reply

Within the past decade or so the transgender community has moved out of the shadows to take a place in the spotlight. Thirty years ago men who wore women’s clothing were thought to be gay. Women who dressed as men were viewed as butch lesbians. And all of us were thought of as perverts and possibly child molesters by the majority of the nation. But thanks to concerted efforts by trans activist the real truth about transgender people began to emerge. From weekend support group meetings to the legislatures of several states the transgender journey has marched on. Today Claire Hall asks herself the question, Why Wait? She waited for many years to fully express her true self. Of course there is still resistance to acceptance of trans people and there are haters out there for sure. What kept Claire in her closet till just this past year?

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All Just a Dream?

| Mar 18, 2019 | Reply

Amanda wasn’t fitting in in California. She had anxiety and depression almost every day. She missed the East Coast and her family. It was particularly hard during the holidays. At the urging of her online friends she decided to finally take another big step in her life and head back east. Now she is living in Baltimore, thinking about looking for a job and beginning to think that her life is just a dream. A bad dream, and she can’t wake up.

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Overthinking?

| Mar 11, 2019 | 2 Replies

It’s been nine months since Claire Hall came out to the world as a woman. In that time she has learned a lot about her gender and about being a woman. Today she wonders if maybe her joy at the simple things like hairdos, makeup, clothes and all the other “feminine” accoutrements might seem shallow, and perhaps taking pleasure from compliments on those things might be a mistake. But then, maybe she’s just overthinking.

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What I Did During My Winter Break

| Feb 18, 2019 | Reply

Lynda Martini has gone through round one of feminization surgery and is now a “silicone sistah”as she puts it. Just a few weeks ago she had facial feminization and breast implants. Today she discusses why she went that route and considers whether she will take the next step on her path — getting a vagina. She wonders about her future when that happens and postulates several ways things that things could turn.

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Closed for Remodeling

| Jan 21, 2019 | 1 Reply

Lynda Martini has been getting out and about a lot in the past several months. From Halloween parties to out of town visits, and going to a football game, Lynda likes to have fun. But another event is looming. One that she longs for but won’t necessarily be fun. In just a few days Lynda will be going into the hospital for her gender confirmation surgery. All the while she has been having fun she has also been preparing for surgery and recovery. And while she had things all planned out and the date set, there was a glitch.

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The Facebook Gauntlet

| Jan 14, 2019 | Reply

When you reach the point in your life that demands a decision on how you need to spend the rest of your life. When you have to come out in the open and claim your true gender identity, that’s when the thing many fear is sure to happen. People who don’t know you, don’t understand why you must change gender, they will attack you. This is more true than ever in the social media years. Today Claire Hall writes about her experience with Facebook haters.

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Book Review: Super Late Bloomer by Julia Kaye

| Dec 17, 2018 | Reply

Today our Page Pundit reviews a collection of cartoons about transition titles Super Late Bloomer: My Early Days in Transition. An Up and Out Collection by Julia Kaye. Julia Kaye is an American artist and illustrator.

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Happy Rebirthday to Me

| Dec 17, 2018 | Reply

Claire likes to celebrate not just her birthday but the anniversary of the day she regards as her “rebirthday.” That’s the day when she made the firm decision to abandon her male masquerade and live the rest of my life as who she always knew she was — a woman.

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The World Premier of The Makeover

| Nov 26, 2018 | Reply

Lynda Martini recounts a road trip to the Washington, D.C. area that gave her a chance to listen to a band called Swamp Poodle, have some good food and a few glasses of Prosseco, then see the world premier of a short form documentary film titled The Makeover. The film is about Lynda’s friends, Giselle and Beth. They met when Giselle wanted a male to female makeover and went to Beth, a noted makeup person. One thing led another and they fell in love, Giselle transitioned and two filmmakers followed them around for a few years. Join Lynda as she hangs out with the stars.

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Am I a Transgender Woman?

| Nov 19, 2018 | Reply

Claire Hall asks if she is a transgender woman? A woman who happens to be transgender? Or simply a woman? After transitioning and beginning her life again as Claire she is still not clear on the answer. For the first weeks and months the joy of being herself after years of frustration kept her feeling a natural high. But then the current political climate that allows anti-transgender messages to seep from our capital brought on a bout of depression. out of that depression Claire found an answer to her question.

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Ya Gotta Have Friends

| Sep 24, 2018 | 1 Reply

Males and females have been assigned different characteristics by our evolving culture. Men are “supposed” to be stoic, unemotional, problem solvers. Women are “supposed” to be more willing to share things and support their female friends. While guys bury their problems and talk about football and cars, women listen to their friend’s and don’t try to immediately solve their problem. Claire Hall’s post talks about how she has experienced a shift from the stereotypically male approach to friendship and embraced the feminine model of friendship.

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Don’t Read The Comments!

| Jul 30, 2018 | Reply

As Claire moves forward into her new life as a woman she is buoyed by support from friends and associates. For the most part her circle has approved of the move she made. But she is also a public official and that means she is open to a wider range of criticism than a private citizen. Her friends said she shouldn’t read the comments on her Facebook page but she did. Was that a good idea? Give her newest blog entry a look.

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Transitionus Interruptus: The Flights

| Jul 16, 2018 | 1 Reply

Back in 2014 Dana’s transition was about to take off. She had been on hormone therapy for a few years and the rest of her plan was set to implement. Then, because life is not predictable, she had to put the brakes on transition. What Dana calls “transitionus interruptus.” When something else in life keeps you from moving ahead with transition it is called a “flight.” It can be a family obligation, military service, getting that advanced degree, or any other thing that keeps one from moving forward with their gender transition. Read on and learn how various “flights” kept Dana trapped between genders.

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Coming Out to My Long-Time Girlfriend (Part 1)

| Jun 11, 2018 | Reply

Today Natalie Nicole begins the story of how she came out to a romantic partner she was with for eight years. They first met when Natalie was 17 and the girl was 11. They were appearing in a play together. She was a weird, precocious little kid and was part of Natalie’s life as a friend till one day she was a grown woman and they became a romantic item. That’s just the start of the story. Read Part 1 of Natalie’s blog to get all the background.

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Transcending with Debbie Louise Cannon

| May 28, 2018 | 1 Reply

Debbie Louise Cannon is a Transformation Coach who has been going through her own transgender transition since July 2012. Debbie helps people by facilitating the process of overcoming their main fears and all the obstacles preventing them from following their truth. Today she talks with The Artist D! about how she works to help trans people live their truth.

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Girl About to Be Born

| May 7, 2018 | Reply

In around twenty nine days Claire will “go public” with her new gender presentation. She is excited to cast off the persona that was holding her down and anxious to enter the waters of women world. She has already come out to a few select people in her life and they are for the most part either supportive or indifferent. One of her female friends remarked that as much as Claire enjoyed the trappings of femininity that wasn’t what makes a woman a woman. Claire thought it over and shares her opinion on that in today’s blog post.

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If Only I Had Been Wearing Heels

| May 7, 2018 | Reply

There is a saying that “the devil is in the details.” Sometimes no matter how much work you’ve put in some little detail will get overlooked and major problems will occur. For one trans woman just one lapse into inappropriate body language was enough to cause her a big hassle. Former TGF contributor Cassie Ann Sanders returns to TGForum with a new short fiction piece that illustrates how it’s the little things.

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Crime Investigator Finds a Supportive Workplace

| Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

Linda Jensen lives in Canada but often winters in Florida during the coldest months. While vacationing there several years ago she met a fellow Canadian name Stephanie and they would get together with mutual friends for en femme lunches. They did this for several years and then, abruptly, the luncheon invitations stopped coming. Imagine Linda’s surprise when she turned on the television and there was her old friend Stephanie.

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Across Five Aprils

| Apr 16, 2018 | Reply

Sophie welcomes the spring season with thoughts on her life since she decided to live as her true self five springs ago. She remembers the rainy spring days when as a child she would walk around in her small town and wonder why she didn’t fit in, why she was different and how could God be punishing her. Those lonely, wondering days are in the past. Now flowers are starting to bloom, warmer days are coming more often and Sophie is being herself.

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“Daughter” by Ryan Cassata Video Review

| Apr 16, 2018 | Reply

Music columnist Pam DeGroff returns to TGForum with a review of a new video by FtM musician and song writer Ryan Cassata. The song is titled Daughter and is about how gender transition changed many relationships in his life. In particular it changed the father-daughter relationship. Where his father had established bonds to a daughter, after Ryan’s transition his father had to learn how to change that relationship to bond with his new son. But Ryan will always be his dad’s little girl. Watch the video and read Pam’s review.

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What Happened to The Real Me?

| Apr 16, 2018 | Reply

The Who had a song on their 1973 Quadrophenia album titled The Real Me. The lyrics are about the singer’s lack of a solid identity and his effort to find his real self. Today Amanda wonders where her real self has gone. While she has pursued her dream of transition for over six years she isn’t finding the peace and satisfaction she thought she would experience as a full time woman. She is haunted by anxiety. And she wonders if she moved into transition too fast while she was caught up in The Pink Cloud of joy experienced by many who give themselves the freedom to express their feminine nature. This is serious. She is even talking about de-transitioning.

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Was it hard coming out to your family?

| Apr 16, 2018 | Reply

Today Natalie Nicole answers a question she often gets asked. Was it hard coming out to her family? Her answer is a resounding “yes.” Bolstered with a plan on how she would come out to everyone Natalie knew the first step was to come out as herself to her mother. With the help of a supportive sister she took that step in a phone call. That was the last time she spoke with her mother. While her siblings were all okay with her being a woman her mom had a different perspective on the change. Natalie writes about that today.

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On Being a 5′ 13″ Trans Woman

| Apr 9, 2018 | 1 Reply

Many trans women are reluctant to express their true selves for many reasons. One reason looms over the others for some. While they may be average height for a male they are taller than the average female. This makes them reluctant to go forth into the world expressing their true gender. They feel that being over six feet (1.8288 meter) tall may draw negative attention to them. Today Claire H. talks about how her 6′ 1″ size made her feel she couldn’t ever be herself. Then she started to find other tall women to provide inspiration. One of them is Tula.

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Being Real is Love

| Apr 2, 2018 | 1 Reply

Someone said that the only constant is constant change. If you think you’re always going to be exactly who you are you should learn the wisdom shared by The Artist D! “With age and experience comes wisdom. That is true because with age and experience comes complete and utter exhaustion regarding the things that used to be so damned important.”

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