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I shop at all 3. Kane Bryant aer within a half mile of each other. (Torrid is in a large mall. LB is in an adjacent strip mall.) The brick and mortar Torrid stops one size smaller than me.

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I had one the other night. My wonderful spouse and I went out for dinner. She was wearing a tee shirt, cardigan and leggings. I had a sweater dress and knee high boots. No makeup, my natural hair, and no shape enhancing or bust enhancements. I have no illusions, I have mostly masculine features.

When the time came for the check, we were asked if it was separate checks. My spouse replied that we had been married to each other for almost 30 years. The server was shocked. It didn’t register that I was male until we told him. I wasn’t even trying. I still just prefer wearing dresses and skirts instead of pants.

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First, I have simply been wearing my female wardrobe without any of the accessories lately. (since late July/early August. Second, most of my bras have been hand-me-downs from my spouse. Yes, she knew about my crossdressing before we got married. I just got my latest order from Catherines. Since I’ve been wearing my dresses without the “accessories,” I tried them on over my “natural curves” first.The first dress was between ugh and meh. The second dress was Ugh, but I could see the possibilities with my breast forms. So I put on one of my good bras, and the the first dress. Still meh. I put on the second dress, and looked in the mirror. I couldn’t take my eyes off my body. (OMG). The dresses were cheap enough, and Catherines wanted $10.95 for my to return the one dress for a refund, I am just keeping both dresses.

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I’m in the DC area.

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@CDZeynep I had a similar problem that helped break up my first marriage. She had trouble accepting my CD, as well as a host of other things she lied about. Early in the marriage, I compromised by scheduling one day a week for me to be Gwen. It was a specific day where I knew she would be elsewhere on the majority of the day. She then proceeded to schedule me to accompany her on that day as my male self. Eventually I started to break down and wore more feminine clothing on that day anyway. I suspect that was the start of the breakup.

Be careful. You may be able to negotiate some time with your feminine self on a weekly or other basis. If she is truly against it, you may need to find someone else for your own sanity. I wish I had better ideas, but the best I can give is to block time for your girl side, and depending on accepting she truly is, suggest she not be there on the scheduled times.

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I’ll start this post by saying that I’m a large person. My bra size is 50-52 (obviously, cup size is what I purchase), waist is 54-56, hips about the same. I have a lot of trouble finding a men’s suit that fits me. Since my neck measures 19 1/2, and I carry a lot of my weight in my tummy, I have trouble finding dress shirts that aren’t splitting at the buttons. Forget jeans that fit.

On the other hand, I can easily find acceptable jeans at Lane Bryant. I can find dresses and separates at both Lane Bryant and Torrid that fit me well. I work in a very conservative area so I can’t easily send Gwen to the office or to work functions. (no matter how much I want to wear that LBD to the holiday party.)

I just wanted to vent; thanks for listening.

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juliemichelleshaw, I live with the possibility of running into people who know the drab me all the time. I live in a condo which has 12 units sharing a single building access that is a breezeway. I get dressed at home (yes, my wife know about Gwen before we got married). Whenever I leave the condo, I run the risk of running into one or more of my neighbors before I get into my car. When that happens, if they choose to recognize me from drab, I’ll carry pleasantries, ask them to address me by Gwen when I look like this, otherwise, be my normal pleasant self. I’m similar when I’m running around doing errands as Gwen. I don’t go to many places where I would run into co-workers or others, but I expect I would handle it the same way. I hope this helps.

BWW, it’s more accepted now than ir was a decade ago.

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Thank you for the user review.

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Fun story, last year, at about this time, one of the guys from work was in the break room asking everyone if they were ready for the New Year’s Eve parties. Since I am closeted at work, no one knows about this side of me. I answered him, “I have a pretty, sequined dress laid out ready to go.” I paused so he could give a reaction, he did..totally shocked! I then sais, “Seriously, I plan to stay at home, order chinese, and watch movies.” He looked relieved. Most of us realize that these 2 statements are not mutually exclusive, and, in my case, were true.

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Hi ladies, ICMY, The US Supreme Court, in a 6-3 decision ruled that trans workers cannot be discriminated against, as part of the anti-discrimination statutes that govern cis-men and women.

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You’re right. But you can go out in a limited fashion. I just “sent Gwen” out for takeout for tonight. We ate from Longhorn Steakhouse. It’s a 6 mile drive from home, wait in the car for curbside. Either eat in the parking lot or at home. You can also don a mask and do the grocery shopping. Any other necessary errands can also be run as Joanne.

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I will say this much… The bleeping lockdown is good for one thing. For those of us partially in the closet, if we still have a job, a lot of us have been forced to work remotely. I have been able to dress most days for work.

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