Like many crossdressers for years the urge to dress and go out in public was there for Pauline. And like many she was too fearful of being recognized by friends or associates. That changed when she went to a crossdresser group meeting in her male aspect and met some other crossdressers. They encouraged her to go out with them for dinner. Next thing you know she’s going across the border to the USA.
Humans have a tendency to build walls. Not just the walls of the city that are meant to keep out the barbarians. We mean mental walls. Walls that cut us off from other people. Often self imposed because we don’t think others will approve of us if they know who we really are. Pauline Estelle writes about walls and has some ideas on how we could tear them down.
The saying goes, “Let a smile be your umbrella.” While it’s not normal to go around smiling all the time the smile is a tool in women’s tool kit that they use to deal with social situations. It certainly works much better than not making eye contact, staring at the floor while you mumble something. Today Kandi elaborates on one of her important rules — be confident. That means when you go to an event don’t be shy. Don’t act like you’re nervous or worried that people might “read” you. Just look them in the eye, smile and say hello. Of course during the pandemic you have to convey the smile using only your eyes, but once we get through with the virus be sure to utilize those pearly whites.
There is an awful lot of talk theses days about the benefits and drawbacks of a wall. In ancient times when your enemies had to run at your town and attack you with clubs and swords a wall around your home was pretty useful. Pauline Estelle writes about walls that are not useful. The walls we put up around ourselves out of fear that someone will “read” us as trans, or as a man in a dress. Building those walls can lead to behavior that actually draws more attention our way. Learn what Pauline has to say about Walls.
Occasional contributor Kristina Mayhem has sent us an article about self confidence. Aside from the way you look when you are presenting as a femme person one of the biggest assets to being accepted as one is self confidence. If you walk with a confident air that says you have every right to wear that dress the only looks you get will be appreciative. If you act timid or nervous you will draw unwanted attention as those around you wonder why you are acting that way. Kristina has a list of confidence builders you can use to help you boldly go wherever you like as a self-assured, confident woman.
Victoria Williams has been working on her feminine presentation for several years. She has gone from dreaming about mingling with others in public en femme to actually doing it. Along the way she has picked up knowledge and today she shares some of the things she has learned on her journey. She wishes she had known them at the start and hopes she can pass them on to her sisters so they don’t have to learn the hard way.
