Femininity & Your Wives

What is Femininity?

The denotation of femininity is also called womanliness or womanhood and has a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with girls and women. Femininity is socially constructed, but made up of both socially defined and biologically created factors. This makes it distinct from the definition of the biological female sex, as both men and women can exhibit feminine traits.

Traits traditionally cited as feminine include gentleness, empathy, and sensitivity, though traits associated with femininity vary depending on location and context, and are influenced by a variety of social and cultural factors. The counterpart to femininity is masculinity. (From Wikipedia)

Connotation of Femininity

Many of you are — or have been — married. Did your wife ever tell you how she feels about herself as a feminine woman? Many women like to feel feminine, sexy, lady-like, and womanly and hence cherish their OWN FEMININITY.

You married her, where you attracted to her feminine ways? Does she or did she enjoy dressing up for a night on the town? Many spend all day getting their nails done, of course a pedicure too. She carefully chooses her feminine clothes that she bought for herself and perhaps for her husband’s visual pleasure.

She buys feminine products for her feminine needs. You do not have any. You do not get periods and you never will. Stop taking her maxi pads. This is another bizarre factor in some marriages — where most CDW and TG wives will draw a line — no matter how shy or quiet they might have been in the past. This can be the line in the sand.

The main problem is many of your wives enjoy their femininity or better stated, used to. However, some crossdressers wives (CDW) feel and believe that your crossdressing has taken away their “cherished” femininity.

Some crossdressers and transgenders actually wear their wives clothes; unfortunately, I know this first hand to be true. Knowing that your wife is challenged by the fact you wear women’s clothes — you further traumatize her by choosing to wear HER clothes and use HER make up so you can play dress up. This is not a good idea if you want to keep your marriage intact. Not only does she not want you to crossdress — how dare you — USE HER CLOTHES to further disrespect her. Some of you are using part of your wife to build your own “rose colored” sense of femininity. Most CDW’s despise this behavior. You are putting salt on their wounds, over and over. For many of us, there is a constant fear of “what is he going to do next”?

Furthermore too many CDW claim that they are disgusted when they discover that their clothes were used by their CD husbands for sexual gratification. Many of us think our husband’s crossdressing behavior and all the components that come with it is in a word: Gross.

When you take our clothes to use for your sexual gratification you are not just taking away our clothes. You are taking away a part of our femininity. Many CDW claim that once their husbands have worn a piece of their clothing — for example — their favorite black cocktail dress, or stockings — she no longer wants to wear what was once solely hers and you STOLE it from her.

We are supposed to be the only ones in a dress in our marriage. Over seventy percent of us did not know you were CD before we married you — so we certainly were not VOLUNTEERS choosing to be CDW.

If you love your wife and want to hold your marriage together, please know that the aforementioned is vital to understand and respect. Please do not make your crossdressing world her nightmare.

Femininity according to these feminine icons:

“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.” — Marilyn Monroe

“Let us be elegant or die! Amy.” — Louisa May Alcott, Little Women

”God made man stronger but not necessarily more intelligent. He gave women intuition and femininity. And, used properly, that combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I”ve ever met.” — Farrah Fawcett

”I wonder if anyone but me realizes what goes on in that head back of your deceptively sweet face.” — Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind

Cheers,

Dee A Levy, MA
www.crossdresserswives.com
The Cross Dresser’s Wife *Our Secret Lives

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