Transmen, where are you?

| Oct 13, 2014
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Transmen, where are you?

I don’t know any transmen. I am ashamed to admit it and I am working to correct that shortcoming. I’ve been at gatherings where transmen are present and I briefly speak to them, but I have yet to get to know any and have meaningful and open conversations. I know I’m missing out on a whole segment of our community that is vital to who we are, what makes us wonderful and diverse, and I know it’s my fault.

Why do I care?

I am working very hard to comprehend, survive and thrive in my own journey while trying to understand the struggles of all trans* people. I concentrate on advocating for those, like me, who waited until they were fifty years old or older to come out to begin the journey of living as our true selves. Because I am a transwoman and all of the people I know and hear from and associate with currently are transwomen, I have not had the opportunity to meet and get to know any transmen. To all transmen, young and mature, who will allow me, please let me get to know you.

trans man Jamison Green could help Cate understand trans men.

Trans man Jamison Green could help Cate understand trans men.

Help me to understand

What are your challenges, your goals, your desires, your pain and your joys. Help me to understand what it is like to know you are a man in the wrong body and what courage and strength it requires to make the changes you desire. Help me to learn what common experiences we share, what challenges we both face, and our common goals. We each have experiences, feelings, emotions, triumphs and tragedies we’ve endured by being who we were when we were growing up and who we are becoming now. Are they the same? Are they different? Let’s learn together.

Let me share my story with you

Just as you have your experiences and your unique story, maybe you will let me share mine with you. As someone who waited until she was fifty-seven to come out and begin transitioning, I may have a perspective much different than you. I’m sure we will find much in common as well as learning many new things from each other.

You are leaving a life that I am so desperate to have

There was a time when we looked at each other with envy and dreamt of the life you had before transition. That alone can generate many hours of wonderful, heartfelt and interesting conversations.

I look forward to meeting you

Soon, I hope, we will meet and get to know each other. I know you are someone I am going to really enjoy knowing.

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Category: Transgender Body & Soul

CateOMalley

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I am Cate, a mature transgender woman. I am a writer, blogger, parent, grandparent, sailor, activist and happy. I am a widow, and live with my yorkiepoo, Belle. I love music, reading, cooking, outdoors, DIY, theater, antiquing and flea markets, home brewing, and seeing what is around the bend in the road or over the horizon. I own the MatureTransgender.com website. It is an outreach, support and resource for mature trans* people and especially for those who, like me, came out after fifty.

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