Dairon

[Dairon]

Hello everybody

My name is Dairon, Im a Psychology student from Spain, and Im not trans but Im very curious since my degree barely gives any information about transgenders (or transexual as we say in Spanish, same concept). So I want to improve my knowledge about this and get to know better the transgender/transexual phenomenon to properly understand you people, and in case some day I have a trans child I get some drection to be as good father as possible.
Ill say Ive been for a long time surfing the internet, talking to psychologists, even to a trans women association and moving between left and right wing political groups to get arguments and scientific information. Studies, and post mortem neuro studies too. After all this reading and talking and discussing, I got to the conclussion that I can not believe that you can change your genre, because you never end up being that genre, you cant live the experiences of, for example, a woman because you will never know what is like to have your first menstruation, pregnancy, etc. There is no way to put those life experiences right into your brain, and let alone the topic you must know about physical and chromosomes, and you have to put your hormones and dilate your vagina every day to prevent it from closing, things that a cis woman dont need to do. So,
-how do you know you are a woman or a man?
-where does that feeling comes from?
-taking into account all the things you have to give up, like fertility, a natural beauty (all trans Ive seen have very recognisable faces, specially women so you get recognised on spot), difficult to find a stable partner, mental disorders which Im not sure if all come from discrimination because of a study from Boston I read long ago, etc… isnt it easier to go to therapy to learn to accept your identity, without harming yourself with hormones and surgery?
-Do you make a difference between trans who transitioned, and those who just changed their identity? I know some Australian athlets who changed their identities to aprticipate in female sports and they are just abusing their male muscular power, and I find it very unfair for those female athlets.
-about non-binary: where does it come from? nothing Ive read about it have scientific proof, all the evidence says there are only 2 genders and you have some gender identity, despite you reject it which in most cases Ive observed the person disagrees with their actual cultural view over their genders, so anyway he/she is either a male or female, and I see many trans get identified with this. Its because of transitiong that you get doubts about your identity?
-last question: is trannie a slur? or a normal word to refer to the trans community?

Ive asked many things for the sole purpose, as stated previously, to inform myself better from actual people who are trangenders or are in the way, and become a better psychologist in the future despite I dont plan to specialise in clinical or gender. I just want to know more and know better. Hope I havent offended anybody, and even I disagree with you, my disagreement doesnt come from hatred or negation: trans are people just like me, and have feelings just like me, I dont find offense or attack in their life election and I respect them as humans theyre.

Kind regards from a Spanish college student
Dairon

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