Transgender Transition

[angela_g]

Are you committed to living your life as a woman? Have you transitioned gender already or are you just weighing the consequences of such a major change? Share you thoughts, feelings and concerns here.

[Jenny49]

Hello I’m new here. Looking forward to gaining some knowledge from all of you.

Jenny

[angela_g]

Hi Jenny. Keep checking the Forum. I am hoping more people begin to take advantage of it.
Angela

[ChristyX]

Hello I’m Christy, I have been trying to find an answer to the question since I was 5. After 40+ years I realized that I had to do something or I would die. So I started my transition back in December of 2017. New year and new hrt. My life has completely changed for the better. I have been on hrt for 9 months ish now and feel a freedom that I never knew before. No more hiding for the most part. I am part time boy and girl for now. That is out of respect for others in my life and for now I’m cool with it. The mental changes and physical changes are amazing. I have learned so much over the past year and look forward to a brighter future. I feel alive again. For the first time in my life I can see a future that encompasses my entire soul. WOW. I hope to meet some new friends here.
Christy

[Panties4danni]

Hello All, my name is Danni and I am new to the site. I have been a life-long cross dresser and obtain my greatest sexual awareness when I am dressed. Most would say that I am fit and sexy as a 50 year old male, but as you may have guessed, I have a secret closet.
I am strongly considering transitioning…in retrospect, I should have transitioned in my early teens.

[Racheal]

ll. I came out as a transgender woman seven weeks ago. I’m 20 years old and had not felt any gender disphoria until a few months before I came out. I immediately started wearing makeup, dresses, and skirts. Later on I started wearing a headband and leggings. I felt awkward about because my hair is still short and I’m letting it grow out. My friends were very accepting. I am not in a romantic relationship and I am trying to get into one. Since I came out I have been receiving alot of affection at bars from girls and they dance with me. I am trying to make female friends that I can do feminine things with such as go shopping. I receive ongoing counseling and I started going to the meeting of an LGBT organization on my college campus.
My mother did a lot of research online on the transgender topic and she is dead set against me being transgender. Whenever she comes to visit me I have to dress masculine. She is convinced that it is a bad thing to be transgender and she is not trans phobic or hateful. Her reasoning is that you are who you are no matter what and you cannot change your biological sex. If someone is born male they cannot change that.
I have autism, but I am very social and I do very well academically. My mom has taken notice of the fact that there is a disproportionately high number of autistic people that are transgender. It is ok for her to be critical of me. I just wish that she would respect my right to transition. I currently live with three guys and I found a group of girls to live with. I’m hoping and praying that my mom recognizes that I’m a woman soon enough for me to sign the lease.

[angela_g]

You should read the report on the WPATH meeting in Argentina. (Published on Monday, 12/3/18) The report says that the purported link with autism is not true. Several papers were presented debunking that claim. Tell your mother that if she has the impression that gender is set in stone when you’re born she is going against the science. Her “research” may have been on right leaning, conservative websites where they do all they can to make it seem like transgender people don’t really exist and those who insist on living as the opposite of their birth sex are some how mentally off.

[Anonymous]

I started my transition in 1988 and finished it in 1992 when I was 30 years old. Renee Richard’s was the first transsexual I remember hearing about and in the end we shared a surgeon. Small world sometimes. I was in NYC area then so watching POSE is like a walk down memory lane. My doctors were in NYC and I spent many a night in the clubs of NYC. As was the habit back then I pretty much disappeared after transition. When trans started to make the headlines about 2 years ago I resurfaced to see what was up. Now that gay marriage has passed, I guess we are now the political target. Anyways, if you have questions feel free to ask. Many things have changed since my time. Terminology, how HRT is administered, but many things remain the same. Other than family I’m just Melissa. Taking my granddaughter to school and the park. Camping when the weather is nice. I disclose to Doctors as a believe in being honest with my doctors. For the most part things have gotten better over the last 30 years.

[ZoroarkMI]

Hi I’m new here. My name is Shauna and I’m an 18 year old trans woman pre everything. I’m not even really out to everyone I know yet. My friends and my mom know, and they’re super supportive and accepting but my family has recently had another family move in and the mom is very narrow minded when it comes to gender roles. I don’t think she’s necessarily transphobic but she’s definitely not someone I want to be living with while I try to transition. I’m here looking for advice on how I could experiment with how I look. I’m already starting to grow out my hair, I started shaving more frequently and I even shaved my arms, but I’d like to try actually dressing as a woman sometime soon. Any tips on what I could try?

[angela_g]

Welcome Shauna! Look around at young women your age and see what they wear, how they do their makeup and what hairstyles they chose. Don’t spend a lot of money on clothes at retail prices. Look at Ross, TJ Maxx and department store clearance racks. Get a makeover from a makeup artist who understands transgender needs. And use YouTube for info on how to do your own makeup, hair, nails, etc. It’s going to be hard if you have a disapproving person living with you but you have to decide if presenting as male around her is tolerable. It might be best to just come out, but you have to decide that. Best of luck! I hope you find all of our content on TGF useful.

[ZoroarkMI]

Thanks for the advice! It’s hard to weigh the pros and cons of if I come out, because while I’ll definitely be more comfortable, I really don’t want to put up with her bigotry. She’s definitely the kind of person who would call me a tr*nny while pretending like she understands. But I’ll definitely start looking for something to wear to experiment. At the very least I should be able to present at my best friend’s house once I explain the situation to his parents, but first I need to build up the courage to go to the store and buy what I need in order to present. I already have an appointment with my Psychologist to talk it over.

[GR8LegsNJ]

Hello everyone!!! My name is Randi and I have been ttransitioned for over 20 years. Hi Angela, it has been a long time since we have spoken. I do believe the last time we met was on Locust in Philly. I do miss folks from the old days. But back to the topic at hand. When I transitioned I did it by the numbers, and with a plan, sort of a business plan. I knew in what order I wanted to meet goals. At the time I was a direct sales person whose clients were Fortune 500 companies. I usually wore a 3pc suit, shirt, power tie and wingtip shoes. When I transitioned my style did not change. My suits became skirt suits or dresses, my wingtips became pumps. I did not lose one client in the process. All everyone wanted was my new business card with my new name so purchase orders would be made out correctly. Today I am employed by a company that truly believes in diversity. However I have never discosed my past as when I was hired, I was already transitioned. I will tell you that my present work attire is jeans, ans company tee shirts with Keds. The last time I wore make-up was for my son’s wedding, 2 years ago. I am in a very good pplave mentally and am hoping to retire at the end of next year. I will however offer advice to those seeking it, but please do not wasate my time if you are not serious. I had reached a point in my life where I was going to make the pain of living a false life to go away. I receeived divine help, whuch is the only way I can describe the events. For those who enjoy crossdressing, please never say “I am only a crossdresser” when meeting someone who identifies as trans. There is nothing wrong with crossdressing and it is not less than being transgender.

[angela_g]

“…first I need to build up the courage to go to the store and buy what I need in order to present.” This is the best time of year to shop for your girl clothes. It’s Christmas time and you’re just shopping for gifts. Also, I learned a long time ago that sales people in stores don’t care. They justy want to make sales. As transgender people we tend to get nervous about shopping when we first start expressing our feminine nature but sales people are just there to make sales.

[Anonymous]

If you know your size, mail order is always an option. Companies like Lane Bryant and Roman’s know that a good portion of their business is CD’s. It’s just business to them. It use to be pretty easy to get a credit card in you new chosen name from them to help establish credit in your new name. But then again things have probably changed in the last 30 years. It’s probably easier to get you name changed on your credit report now than back then.

[angela_g]

Good to hear from you!

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