Transgender Transition
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Dec 26, 2018 at 3:10 pm #47492Sophie LynneParticipant
Hi all. Sophie Lynne here. I started living my Truth in March 2014. I’ve been on HRT since December 2012.
I’m here to answer questions if you wish.
I can be reached here or at [email protected].
I write a blog that I’ve kept for ten years- all through my transition. Find that at https://sophielynne1.blogspot.com/
Jan 6, 2019 at 2:22 pm #47616Jodi101ParticipantMay I please get some tips as to where I can start? I new I was trans/woman since age of 9 years old. I have been hiding since then and pretty scared to coming out, been wearing women’s under garments since my young age! I have had strong feelings about going open! I even have dreams of wearing feminine clothes since a young age but my parents keep showing up in my dreams not saying anything to me about my clothing, but that discourages me anyways because I know how my father is about these things! Sometimes I wanna cry but I’m a strong person and won’t allow myself to cry.
Any help will be appreciated.
Thanks Jodi.Jan 7, 2019 at 10:25 am #47658AnonymousInactiveWelcome Jodi101,
Personally I would suggest starting with electrolysis/laser to get ride of any unwanted facial hair. Makes blending into society so much easier. Second I’d find a therapist/counselor with LBGT experience, even better if they specialize in trans patients.
You will need to figure out what you are willing to let go of, in order to live as yourself. You won’t be able to move on till you are willing to let go of the things holding you back. Your counselor will help you sort these things out.
Jan 7, 2019 at 5:37 pm #47663Jodi101ParticipantThank you so much MelissaD
I’ll check into the Therapist, I have a friend who has given me a number to call a person that’s a Transgender Therapist.
Thanks Jodi.Jan 16, 2019 at 4:41 pm #47765JennaCatherineParticipantHi. I’ve been crossdressing in secret since I was a kid. The desire comes and goes but as I get older, it comes more frequently and more intensely. It’s usually strongest when I’m single and sexually dormant. When in relationships (I identify as heterosexual) the desire subsides. But now, again, alone, the further I take it the further I want to go. I am constantly buying lingerie/girly outfits/make-up/breast forms/gaffs/heels/etc and then throwing them all out on a whim, reeling with denial, only to buy it all again a short time later. I’m afraid if I go all the way en femme, aided by someone compassionate and skillful enough to teach me how to be a convincing woman, it will feel utterly perfect and I’ll have to come out to everyone and transition fully, and that scares me. I don’t hate being a man, per se, but I so often desperately want to be a woman – to have a complete woman’s body and to be naturally acknowledged as female. I don’t know what to do. I start seeing a gender therapist this weekend, she seems very kind and compassionate and just coming out to her via email/phone was transformative and has kept the “feeling” more consistent and present than it was before. I’ve started doing little things to dip my toes in, so to speak, before any real exploration is done with her. I shaved my whole body smooth (except my head) and have been keeping it smooth, painted my toenails, am subtly trying to feminize my walk a bit, I sleep in a nightie, I pee sitting down. At night after work I dress up in different outfits and heels and practice make-up (need a lot more practice) while drinking white wine. I have no idea where I’m going with this right now. I don’t know how to be.
Jan 28, 2019 at 10:50 pm #47953AnonymousInactiveHey everyone,
I am new to this group. I am a trans female, been on hormones for 12+ months now. Toward the end of May I am scheduled to have Gender Reassignment Surgery with Geoffrey Stiller in Moscow, Idaho (near Pullman). I’ll also be getting breast augmentation and facial feminization surgery. I am very excited. But I worry some. Anyone been through the surgery? I am trying to get hair removal done, but each time they do it, the hair bounces right back (((. My primary care doctor emphasized how important it was to get hair removal. I worry that I will not be ready hair wise by the time I have surgery. I don’t want to put off the surgery as his waiting list is growing by the day. I don’t want a Marci Bower’s situation, where I have to wait five years. Any help would be great. Thx. – Stephie
Feb 4, 2019 at 9:47 am #48004AnonymousInactiveHello Stephie hair removal takes time. Each hair has to be treated 3 times by electrolysis to kill it. Laser was not available when I transitioned. Depending upon beard density it will take 100 – 400 hours to completely remove the beard. Mine took about 200 hours at 1 hour per week, so it takes a long time. Hair removal is really the 1st step that should be taken a year or so before you start HRT. If your facial hair is dark you can start with Laser then move to Electrolysis to clean up the lighter color hairs that Laser does not work on. Laser works best on dark hair colors. If you have the money there are places that use two techs, they numb you all up and they do an 8 hour shift to clear you beard in one shot. Then you wait a month or so and go back again, That will clear the major portion then you can do hourly to clean up the stragglers.
Feb 6, 2019 at 10:50 pm #48025carla1212ParticipantHi congratulations on taking the plunge with your transition. After 25+ years of crossdressing without hrt, surgeries or anything, in just the past few years I have developed really noticeable facial hair – my hair is dark and I can’t hide it anymore with shaving, makeup etc. So I am finally getting laser facial hair removal. After just the first treatment it’s already noticeable that there are fewer hairs. I am so excited!!! Can’t wait to see what the next eight treatments will do. I am already dreaming of not having to shave, having soft smooth skin again, and not needing to use makeup as a cover. For me this is the biggest thing ever!
Feb 16, 2019 at 1:47 am #48108AnonymousInactiveHi, i’m new here also. Nice meeting you!
Feb 16, 2019 at 1:50 am #48109AnonymousInactiveNice hearing that one, it’s good for you for your own confident. Just keep it up! You’re an amazing person.
Feb 16, 2019 at 1:58 am #48110AnonymousInactiveThank you for your willingness to help madame. I wish all people will unite as one so that we can have world peace.
Feb 16, 2019 at 2:16 am #48119AnonymousInactiveone thing only i can say, I am proud of being a tg woman. Blessed everyone’s heart!
Feb 16, 2019 at 2:18 am #48120AnonymousInactiveCongrats for your life today, I am indeed happy with your message. Just keep on going with life and just enjoy.
Feb 26, 2019 at 4:54 am #48246torry4738ParticipantI’m here to get some experience from you, you are great
Mar 11, 2019 at 6:34 am #48420AnonymousInactiveHi! I’m Katie and I’ve been slowly transitioning for the past several years. It is very intimidating and every time I go out dressed I always feel deep anxiety about it. I’ve done ordinary things like go to the movies, shopping, restaurants, etc. But every time it just feels like the whole world is inside my head and I can’t escape the tunnel vision. What have you ladies done to get over that sort of, probably self-imposed, mental stress?
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