Crossdresser Corner

[MishaMonroe]

Hi gurls. I’m new to the forum. I love the idea of the Isolated Beauties Gallery! Lets face it, its fun to dress up whenever you can, but eventually you need to get together with others, or go out and strut your stuff. I love being looked and admired, don’t you? What are you doing to pass the iso time? practicing Eye Shadow skills? xo

[Gwen2048]

I will say this much… The bleeping lockdown is good for one thing. For those of us partially in the closet, if we still have a job, a lot of us have been forced to work remotely. I have been able to dress most days for work.

[Anonymous]

Hi just joined. A closet cross dresser, I just want to be out in public….errr probably a bad time to be going out!

[Gwen2048]

You’re right. But you can go out in a limited fashion. I just “sent Gwen” out for takeout for tonight. We ate from Longhorn Steakhouse. It’s a 6 mile drive from home, wait in the car for curbside. Either eat in the parking lot or at home. You can also don a mask and do the grocery shopping. Any other necessary errands can also be run as Joanne.

[Amandasubcd]

Hello girls, I’m new to the tgforum. Let me tell you about myself.
Well I’m 60 and unfortunately due to my wife’s none acceptance I’m very much in the the closet. I’ve been dressing in secret since my early teens. It all started with lipstick and make-up moving onto clothes, shoes and wigs later on. Back in my teens I thought I was a freak, I hated the way I looked (body dysmorphia) and putting on make-up was a way of hiding my ugly face. It wasn’t until later I discovered cd/tv /tg magazine’s that I knew I wasn’t the only one. Then boom… The Internet. And OMG.
I’ve tried at least three times to stop (purge) during one of them I met and married, had three kids. That purge lasted about 15 years. Yep 15 years. But as we all know crossdressing never leaves you. So I’m here now at 60 married to an unsupportive wife and a bi sub crossdresser looking for others to chat with.

[HvdT]

Hi, I couldn’t remember if I’d introduced myself. I’m Helene, I live in the Netherlands and I’m semi closeted. I told my my wife but she hates everything to do with my cross dressing . Like most of us I started really young, around 5 I think , wearing my sisters clothes and later buying my own. I love getting dressed up and going out. I’m really boring in my clothing, I’m not into chic and glamour, I just want to blend in when I go out shopping. A skirt and a top, medium heels and hose. Any other girls here get around town for some shopping? It took me a long time to build the courage to do it but it was so exhilarating, it was as if my whole life was building up to that moment. Look forward to hearing from you girls.

[StephanieLynn]

Hello ladies,
Let me introduce myself. I am Stephanie Lynn. I was on this forum back in the late 90’s. Had lots of friends on here. Guess Facebook, Twitter and a plethora of other social media sites have taken over. I use to dress frequently then like most I purged. Stopped for 17/18 years. Started again. Feels so wonderful to be dressing again. Fortunately I have the support of a significant other. During these times, I am working from home. This has the added advantage of being able to dress for work as Stephanie. I am much more relaxed during work. It is wonderful! When I get a pic that I like I will post it. Till then, if there is anything you wish to know just ask.

[Willowyone]

Hello Dears,
I am new to the forum. Going out dressed femme is difficult for some individuals for a variety of reasons. Now with the pandemic here and face masks becoming more prevalent in my area I wondered if anyone has some comments about using face masks as a way to go out and more likely pass as female. Masks cover the chin and nose that are larger on XY individuals.

Myself I am always out but I happen to live in an area that is very T friendly.

[angela_g]

As the admin of TGF I get to see what people have searched for on the site. Recently someone searched on whether or not they could use nail glue to glue on breast forms. Most decidedly NOT! Nail glue is cyanoacrylate, or in marketing terms Crazy Glue. Using it to attack forms would be crazy. Crazy Glue is brittle and would damage not only flesh but would mess up the breast forms. Double sided tapes that will support forms, or a brush on adhesive are the approved method of attaching your breast forms. Both can be bought from The Breast Form Store.

[Willowyone]

Sometimes I am hesitant to use the term crossdresser because it might imply to some people that I am without other feminine interests including helping people in various ways that women do well. I am glad to see that at this site the wider feminine interpretation of crossdresser is allowed. Sometimes when I feel the crossdresser tag is not taken seriously I use the term transgender for myself though I probably will never transition. Genderfluid works for me sometimes though the word fluid does not really describe my feelings when I get to switch from drab to fabulous!

[Anonymous]

Hello Ladies.
An issue I have been dealing with (off and on) for quite a while is the seeming non acceptance of cross dressers by some (and I emphasize SOME) of the TG community. I have been told too many times that I am not being true to myself by not transitioning. I am a hetero male to female cross dresser and both my wife and I are happy with that. No, I’m not “pretending” to be ok with it to save my marriage. No, I am not suppressing the “real” woman inside me. As that great philosopher Popeye said, “I yam what I yam and that’s all what I yam.” Yet when the topic is thrown in my face, I cannot seem to come up with the right words to convince the accuser. (not that I could ever convince them otherwise. “I changed my opinion by what I read on The Internet”, said no one – ever)
Anyway, just venting here, but if you have words of wisdom to share, I’m open. Thanks, Sweeties!

[angela_g]

You are right that you can not change anyone’s mind on the web. But, the fact is that the transgender experience is a spectrum, not a this or that situation. Some of those who have longed all their lives for a permanent home in the opposite of their birth gender have issues with “part time girls.” They look upon those who cross the gender border as they feel the urge and then return to (usually) a male identity as posers. They assign motivations to part time dressing that are not necessarily true. Just as part time girls have no idea what it feels like to hate your body all the time, the transitioned transgender woman doesn’t know what fun it is to interact with the world as a female and be happy with a male role as well. What needs to happen is just a little respect. Part time crossdressers are no threat to trans women. Keep in mind that the general public views anyone they perceive as a males in women’s clothes as odd. In some areas it can be an excuse for physical assault. The assaulter doesn’t ask if you do this full time or part time. So have fun. Enjoy dressing up, and then enjoy your male role. Like RuPaul says, “Unless they are paying your bills pay them b***hes no mind.”

[Willowyone]

I am unsure if my experience will help any crossdressers who are considering coming out but anyways here are some positive strategies and experiences of my own.  I hope that some of this will be helpful during the pandemic and even more after.

I have been out in public for about five years and am 68 years of age.  Before being generally out in public when there were special events that presumably put the public in a cheery mood that could help me be accepted  at local free concerts, halloween, and some other holidays.  More than ten years ago I came out at neighborhood dance house parties.  

I prepared for those parties and that may have contributed to not just acceptance but requests to continue to attend and some surprising amount of appreciation.  

I had some mentoring from an acting student who was also a minority who helped me to expand my verbal and body language in order to uplift others.  I practiced getting better at modern and freeform dance in front of a mirror while chopping veggies for my dinners while tuned into Delila FM radio with good feminine dance tunes.  I improved not so much in a technical dance step sort of way but in my own self acceptance and projecting sincerity and caring to others while I dance.   The details of how I do that with dance are too much to get into here but please ask if interested.  

I gained my first little foothold at parties by engaging with individuals who were being ignored because of health, disability, or who don’t have the popular look and we had so much fun that other people began to notice and want some too.   But I reasoned that something more to boost caring among people was needed.  Even mainstream people have their own feelings of being ignored or disliked for some reason or another and though perhaps less than that of cross dressers I decided that by uplifting them it would help me too.  So I began to take flowers to the parties and watch couples until I saw something unique to them and then I go up to them give the flowers along with an affirmation that I have crafted especially for them.  Married people may be lucky to have someone but after some years they may feel that they are the overlooked married forever boring stereotype.  So for whatever the reason they really appreciated the attention.  It feels really good to get some hugs of appreciation!    I got the affirming idea from a minister when I was a youth who was really good at that.  Then there are the live bands or DJ’s that appreciate when someone is the first to get out and dance and get others out to appreciate the band.  I look at each musician and focus on what they are doing and various other music appreciations and the musicians usually like that and sometimes even dedicate a bit of a riff to me.  

Uplifting others makes the fun  spread even to the “cool beautiful” people and then everyone is dancing with everyone!   Silly artificial social status inventions are torn down and then the party rip roars!

When I am out on the street some people that I do not know but perhaps from some party or concert that I have been to give me a shout out or thumbs up.  

When approaching by foot I asses if individuals want to be greeted.  I have rehearsed a variety of greetings, quickly choose an appropriate one, and launch it.  

With tough guys or negative people I try to get away fast but sometimes I stand my ground by using some empathy that I learned by reading about Nelson Mandella.  I put myself in the shoes of a person who is verbally trying to put me down.  I try to identify what is difficult in their lives and give them some credit for surviving it.  I can give examples but wont go on longer here now.  

Best to you all and may we be well.  

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