GoddessJen

[GoddessJen]

I fully understand that cross dressing is a form of being transgender, but I think some of you girls look at the dating scene the wrong way. First, I only find men that are into dating transgender women from the beginning, and if they aren’t, I tell them up front that I am. This helps get rid of the awkward expanation later. Second, if you want a relationship with any man, he is going to feel better if you’re as passable as you can be. I don’t make up the rules, I just know that’s how it is. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and counting. We aren’t getting married because I don’t want to do it again and he has only ever seen it as a way for the government to promote heterosexual relationships. The best way to find someone that truly cares for you is to be completely upfront with them. They need to be comfortable with you in public and in private. It’s far less risky than springing it on them as a surprise.

[GoddessJen]

I can’t say I really relate to anything that anyone has said so far on this topic, but I am the 5th child of 8 in my family and the gender roles were well established. Although, I did have trouble with this mentally. I was constantly drawn to less masculine activities and constantly punished myself for having thoughts that might betray me to the rest of my family.

My teenage years were very confusing. I would try on women’s clothing, find myself attracted to other boys and unable to imagine myself with them as a male. I was also deathly afraid of the consequences if I had come out to my parents, as well as the possible social ridicule that would definitely have gone with it in the early 80’s.

Because this feeling was so persistent in my life, after two marriages and two children, I realized I needed to figure it out or I would never be happy. At the age of 34, I started the most serious sexual discovery in my life. I finally had it figured out by 2008 (4 years later) and started dressing full time by 2015.

I don’t know what it’s like to go through the early stages of transition now, but I do know it’s important to be sure of yourself and never conform to social pressures. Be who you are no matter what. You’ll be much happier in life.

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