Dating While Transgender

[carla1212]

Hello,
I agree with MelissaD. Unless surgery makes you instantly passable and drop-dead gorgeous, it won’t change the way people relate to you. And even if so, it might just lead to superficial attraction, not necessarily to being genuinely loved. I find I’m happiest when I focus on being this very feminine, sweet, caring person who comes out when I’m dressed and interacting with other people – that’s the real me, and I find that if someone gets attracted it’s because they see I am lovable and capable of loving back. Both men and women will like that about you.

[torry4738]

OH, this is awesome!

[ellalopez904]

Interesting topic you have shared.

[sexdollfetish]

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[ellalopez904]

🙁

[SassySouth]

I’m in a weird situation with my relationship with this cis female. We have been together for 6 months. Early in the relationship we where great. I came out about my alternative life and she took it pretty well. Recently I have not really had a sex drive. But I also have not been able to dress. I wonder if one thing is affecting the other?

[sultana]

So here comes the Valentine’s day. My boyfie gets annoyed when he see my big stomach especially when we go out and the dress that I wear doesn’t even hide it. So I’ve been thinking of buying this one here so that on our date on Valentine’s he won’t be annoyed and we maybe can enjoy a romantic night and maybe cook his favorite food on the next day^^do you think this idea will work out?

[Anonymous]

I’m transgender. And my life is beautiful. Each day I meet new friends and dating. We have a big community all over the world.

[clewis]

Hi Angela,

In my days of being closeted, I occasionally dated. Over the years, there were a few women that I went out with for a few weeks at time, but nothing that ever really blossomed into what could be called a relationship. It was all rather unsatisfying.

I have been semiregularly active on traditional dating sites since the dawn of internet dating.
After I started coming out, I began to work this into my online profiles – photos, a passing but clear reference to being TG, etc. I felt it was only right under the circumstances.

Before long, straight men began to make contact and introduce themselves. I found it quite flattering and would always respond, as long as they were polite. (I quickly discovered that many men weren’t looking past the profile photo. But some did and I would occasionally receive very gracious compliments.)

Eventually a genuine gentleman did ask me out, having made clear that he had read my profile in detail. I accepted his invitation to meet for coffee one afternoon. It proved to be a very nice time. He was punctual, held doors for me, bought me a drink, and was respectful, courteous, conversational and attentive throughout. He even gave me a casual hug afterward, and we texted politely for a few days after that.

Even though it didn’t lead to a second date, it really was an eye opener, as I felt completely at ease and genuinely enjoyed the experience. The entire process seemed much more comfortable to me than how I had been doing things up to that point.

That was three years ago and since then, I have dated men exclusively. I’m amazed at how smooth the transition has been, and how natural it seems. No serious relationships have yet developed, but there’s always hope. Quality people are quality people, regardless of gender.

[annajamey]

I think the trans niche dating sites/apps will be good place to solve. When you join general dating sites, that is not a good choice. Use google to try out 3-4.

[annajamey]

That is an old post as first begun in 2018. Someone want to find a dating site, come out or any other issue.

[carla1212]

Hi,
I’ve been celibate since March. I had been seeing a man for about 5 months, going out, staying in, cooking for him, lots of sex… really good sex! So much so that I was falling in love with him, & would even blurt out ‘I love you’ in the heat of love-making. I mean, the man is a national treasure when it comes to sex! Then when the whole COVID-19 thing started I was in Europe on assignment. It’s a branch of military/government service where I’m not allowed to bring my personal cell phone or computer. No personal communicationsmuch . The orders were issued with only a few hours warning, I had no time to tell anyone where I was going. But it was only supposed to be a week to ten days, and my guy (Larry) knows what I do for a living — he knows I sometimes have to disappear for a week or two. This time the op got complicated, extended, then we got locked down and quarantined because one of our guys came down with COVID-19. I had no way to communicate with Larry and I was stuck there for weeks; and then when we were released they rolled over our assignment and that added another two weeks. I am finally home… but afraid to contact him. When I got my devices back there were a hundred e-mails, texts and messages: First just ‘where are you?’ ‘are you okay?’ and then ‘you bitch, were you just playing me?’ Then much worse things than that… and then nothing since a few weeks ago. I am heart-broken thinking I’ve lost him – did you ever have a man make you feel like you’re the center of the universe every time he looks at you? Now he’s sent me messages so mean and hurtful, he can never take them back. Even if I could get over it, I am so afraid he’s moved on, doesn’t love me anymore, or maybe just can’t deal with the realities of my career. Am I being silly? What do I do?h

[AmyJacks]

^.^

Well, I think I will get this out, because there is not a place in these forums sepcifically for talk about sexual topics, and this topic sounds the closest to it, but I figured I would get this out to people who at the very least will understand.

I am 52 years old, and I figured out I was trans in 2011, and came out late in 2014. It has been interesting doing this in conservative SE Wyoming, but I have generally been treated well.

On the subject of dating, I wish I had the problems Carla describes. Sounds like she has/had one strong steady relationship, and the guy just has to be reminded that the job, combined with DA VIRUSTH just wreaked havok on the relationship for a bit.

In my case, up until about 2018, I had a series of one night stands, where I would meet a man on Craigslist, get together, have sex, and maybe perhaps I would see him again, and we would do it all over. However, it seemed to work.

My situation is, I am a pre-op trans person, and I will always be so. I can not go into a transition because of my health conditions. However, I also enjoy sex, and my mind feels that it is a woman, so …

I have determined that I have develiped basically an auto-erotic fetish, where while having sex, I imagine myself as a woman, while a man is having intercourse with me, and Iuse my own genitals as the man. The female portion of sex is almost purely in my mind,except for my panties, which I wear during sex.

Even at the age of 52, the orgasms are in a range from having to struggle to get there, to being mond-blowingly stupendous. I think perhaps the biggest thing I enjoy is the near complete loss of power and control that I feel when I envision myself as the woman during sex. I am a submissive, and a bottom, and I accept this.

The issue I had was not being able to tell anyone, or talk to anyone about this.

Amy

[Anonymous]

Good

[RogerMike]

Hello all,

How are you? I hope I am on the right place. I have been searching for a dating website. Basically, I am most interested in opposite partner like female.

Thank you so much!

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