Crossdressers With Balls

| Dec 12, 2007
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cincyday9.JPGcincyday9.JPGSo, you’ve already read Crossdressers are Transsexuals without Balls, right? No? Go back and read it. Then come back and watch as we tear that myth a new one. I’ll wait.

Okay, so where were we? Oh yeah. Crossdressers are not some sort of proto-transsexual. And I only have myself to offer up as proof.

I don’t hate my penis. I’m not saying all pre-op and non-op TS’s do, but the archetype of the transsexual can’t stand that extra bit of flesh between their legs. I’m quite fond of mine, actually, and honestly, I cringe when I think about something sharp happening to it.

But, being transsexual is about more than disliking your genitals. It’s about being comfortable in one’s own body. It’s about being happy with who you are, on your own and in regards to society.

And while it’s nice to dress up and be pretty every now and again, I rather like being a man. I like many of the manly things men do.

I like the adrenaline rush I get from chasing tornadoes. I like pounding beers with my buddies after work. I like the sweat I get from manual labor. I like cigars. A great weekend can consist of dressing up, painting my face and going out, or it can mean not shaving, wearing the same dirty sweats and laying on the couch for two days. There’s nothing funnier to me than a fart in an elevator.

I like shooting things, be it paper targets with a firearm, or friends with a paintball gun. I rather enjoy not having to share my feelings. Shopping for shoes doesn’t interest me. (Gasp!) My music is usually loud, my movies are usually violent.

Granted, I’m not deeply into the whole sports thing, so when I’m surrounded by guys, I find myself at a lost for conversation, but overall, I like dude-hood.

However, you might argue, many of these activities and interests are not exlusive to men. With women’s liberation, and the evolution of riot grrls, anyone can be anything they want. Females are allowed to like the Three Stooges today.

But even with the lines becoming blurred for some individuals, TS or not, generally speaking there are differences between the genders. While I know some transsexuals who still work in macho professions, as mechanics or farmers, most try to get as far away from the vestiges of manhood as they can. I’m not interested in abandoning my male life.

And viva la difference anyway! If there aren’t unique characteristics for the genders, what’s the point of being transgender anyway?

Maybe I’m alone in this, but I don’t think so. Take a look in our archives at this cartoon by Steffi, and tell me you haven’t experienced that at a support group meeting. And if you need me, I’ll be on the couch, giggling at my last fart.

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Ronnie Rho has been writing for Transgender Forum since May of 1999. One of these days, she'll get it right. She's been described as the "world's most famous recluse," but only by people who don't know her very well. She is unmarried, and lives in Cincinnati.

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  1. says:

    My examination of social capital has more or less led me to conclude that crossdressers and transsexuals are separate and unique…unique enough to perhaps constitute different communities entirely. It’s a need-based theory: identify your primary needs and you identify which group you belong in. Had I done that from the beginning, I would’ve known I was trans as opposed to CD ( a label I labored to uphold for a year after finally joining 360, btw). But more on the whole social capital thing another time…

    Viva la difference indeed! Why must we always want everyone to be the same as us? Celebrate diversity. Just keep your headless crotch-shots off my friends page!

  2. joann joann says:

    I’m with you this Ronnie. I love being JoAnn BUT I also enjoy being Joe. Sometimes I don’t shave for a week. I play with cars and trains and power tools (when Astar is not using them). If I’m not in a dress, I’m in jeans and a tee shirt. In short, I am comfortable in both gender roles. I like my penis (a lot) and I have never been tempted to take hormones. I guess that makes me a “plain vanilla” crossdresser.

    I realize this is not the case for everyone and I am both supportive and sympathetic to those who feel they must choose one role over another. You do whatever you need to make it through the day.

    Vive la difference!