Walk The Talk
We’ve heard the phrase “Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk.” I’m going to twist, consolidate and shorten that phase to “Walk the Talk.” That’s the essence of doing what you say you’re going to do. What does “Walk the Talk” mean in terms of this article and why do you feel the need to expound on something so simple? Sounds self-evident to some, obvious to others and blatantly unnecessary to explain right?
A tastefully attired Nikki celebrates St. Patrick’s Day.
Possibly not and here’s why. Talk is cheap, another truth we find to be self-evident. It’s cheap unless such talk is slanderous, then it can be expensive so be careful what you say and how you say it. But kindness and gentleness isn’t expedient solely because of the potential for a lawsuit. Hurtful, slanderous words inflict harm irreparably. Is there anything in life worth destroying with a verbal assault?
Sure we make mistakes, I’m as guilty as the next girl. We make innocent and not so innocent mistakes. If you’re like me you attempt to curtail the not so innocent mistakes. Friendships aren’t built on the sand of shifting attitudes. Gentleness, kindness and thoughtfulness are the cornerstones of the building that is friendship.
“So why the lesson in human nature and architecture Nick Nack?”
The reasons include, but are not limited to, how words and actions impact not only us but anyone and everyone they touch. We’re a community — a slice of humanity that is not mainstream, although we would like to consider ourselves mainstream. We want to express ourselves, our true selves — the inner being that yearns for attention, release, and acknowledgment. We express ourselves in individualistic ways; dress, walk, actions and speech. These individualistic things identify us making us who we are.
“All true Nick, but again where are you going with this?”
Stay with me, I tend to be long-winded — it’s the characteristic that makes me who I am.
The things we do and say mark us. Yes, I already said that in different words. It’s time to explain in more detail.
We are wonders of the world, our duality makes us capable of many things single gender people can’t fathom. With this situation comes responsibility. Such responsibility attaches not only to us but also to the group. The things we do reflect on all of us. Yes, as much as we may believe what we do only impacts us, we would be shortsighted and simple-minded. When we do tasteful things we give the world a good impression of all unconventional girls. You know what I mean but in the interest of full disclosure I’ll elaborate.
Blending into society allows us to express ourselves without calling undue and untoward attention to us or our group. Examples abound — when en femme and in public using the facilities requires that we act like our “other gender” relations. I think you understand. There are shocking things that people never get over, like sounds that are foreign in the ladies room (standing when you should be sitting). In public dress appropriately. If you want to call attention to yourself because you either have no filter or you are so comfortable as to tempt fate, you reflect upon all of us.
Walking through New Hope, for example, during the day, pay attention to how the gender girls are dressed. I’ve been there multiple times and can’t remember seeing gender girls dressed in short skirts and come “umph me” hip boots and low cut top. People are people but they are not incapable of noticing irregularities. Sometimes these irregularities generate stares and whispers. Other times they energize people to complain. Those complaints can lead to termination of good will or worse.
Sure there are anti-discrimination laws that are designed to protect us. And we rely on those laws when there is a legitimate cause of action. But like life insurance and auto insurance, you hope you will never need to utilize such protections. If we are in our element and act respectfully and legitimately we have a much better chance of enjoying our individuality and just as importantly educating society that we can co-exist and enjoy the diversity that makes us one of the greatest nations.
You need to do your part to uphold the tenets of unconventional femininity. Be respectful of others including your sisters and this unconventional community at large. Acceptance is coming albeit slowly. We must be cautious to enable it, encourage it and nurture it. Missteps, even seemingly small ones, can set us all back days, weeks, months or years.
Let’s agree to do no harm and to endeavor to advance our wonderfully special and fulfilling unconventionality by being tasteful, respectful and reasonable in our approach to life.
Category: Transgender Body & Soul, Transgender Opinion
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