Be Kind, Rewind

Everybody is somebody and with all of the social technology of the 21st Century we are all forced to figure out exactly who we are. One of my largest annoyances with today’s society is that everyone has to be somebody. I don’t know many normal people and I don’t think that’s my fault! I’m open to making new friends, meeting new people. I just can’t help but notice everyone I meet isn’t just a person. Everyone needs to be something.

I no longer get a random friend add on Twitter or Facebook from Betty Smith, the housewife. Instead I get added by Betty Smith, the housewife who is trying desperately to become America’s Next Top Musician. Nobody is happy with being normal anymore. Even the normal people don’t want to be normal! This is both good and bad. On one hand it’s nice to see that the boring drab of life isn’t good enough, because it never should have been. On the other hand it leads humanity to mistakenly chase after things that they usually have no interest in. I don’t think people understand that the option to just be is still an option. You don’t have to be a celebrity. You don’t have to be famous to feel love or acceptance.

Everybody wants to be something. Betty Smith doesn’t just want to chat and go out for dinner with me on Tuesday night. Betty would like to know what I, The Artist D with an Art Magazine and other projects, can do for her. Betty wants to talk shop and see how we can collaborate to launch both of our “careers” even further. Funny, I just wanted to have dinner and talk about the weather.

The need to be something on stage drips down into the roots of our society and the basis of our very bodies. We can’t just be what we are born anymore. I’m currently caught up in a world of “who are we overload.” It’s not good enough to just have been born whatever we are, we must define it. Instead of simplify we have become hell bent on precision. The cosmic joke here is that the question of WHO cannot be identified because WE are always changing. We wouldn’t be human creatures going through a cosmic process if we didn’t. Therefore you can never peg down exactly what’s going on and people are now driving themselves crazy trying to do exactly that.

Everybody wants to be someone. Now Betty Smith has to tell me that she is a transgender male to female queer musician who happens to be a housewife during the day. If you question any of that Betty will assault you with a barrage of verbal venom. Betty gets upset when anyone questions any of her definitions because she’s thought hard to work all that out. Betty can’t flow. I would say that Betty cares too much. The world can no longer just flow. If you happen to know who you are (or have a vague idea) then that’s just great, be it. But the question of WHO should be one we answer for ourselves and further definition should be unnecessary.

When we now have parents so terrified to gender their child before their child can gender themselves, we’ve gone too far.  When elementary schools need to call everyone a purple penguin instead of a boy, girl, ladies or gentleman for fear of causing confusion, our society has lost its mind. More so, if our children and adults are so sensitive that they can’t stomach working through who they are and defending their definition to the world, we have become weak amoeba.

We as a society are going through a very  soft period. While it is good to open our minds and accept new thoughts we cannot banish some of our old school mentality that can protect us. I’ll never disagree that the hoards of monstrous humans should stop hassling the weak or the different. But that doesn’t mean we ought to shed our shielding and become super sensitive to public opinion or abuse.

We are warrior creatures needing to find a balance. Do not forget where you came from. Do not get too tangled up in who you are when all along you were just a human.

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Category: Transgender Body & Soul, Transgender Opinion