Tag: Identity

Autogynephilia Revisited

| Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

Autogynephilia is a term created by Dr. Ray Blanchard. It purports to be a motivation for males to go to great lengths, even gender reassignment surgery, so they can see themselves as women. Blanchard claims that this is sexually driven. That rather than seeing another human or some object as a sexual fetish the male who has autogynephilia becomes his own sexual fetish. Many in the transgender community vehemently object to this idea as it reduces their need to express themselves in their true gender to nothing more than a paraphilia. Dr. Dana Bevan is one who has scoffed at the theory. Today she scoffs again while revisiting the subject.

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Goodbye W.M.P., Hello Wonder Woman!

| Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

When you’re used to being treated a certain way it’s easy to forget that you are being given credit for you Caucasian maleness. Doors open for you and regard for your knowledge and skill in all areas is taken for granted. But what happens when you go from male to female? Doors may open for you but that’s because you’re a lady and gentlemen will grant you the favor of holding the door. But suddenly all the knowledge and skill you have in areas such as home repair, automobiles, and other stereo typically male interests is no longer acknowledged. The “little lady” must need help. See how Cate O’Malley handles patronizing men.

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Kim’s California Adventures Begin

| Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

Kimberly writes about a time when she moved from the east coast to California. She was only dressing en femme part of the time and that time tended to be very early in the morning. Or late at night if you look at it from another view point. Everyday she would get up and get fully dressed in lady’s business attire. Then off she would go, out into the world. What did she do on these excursions? What adventures did she have? Read her blog post today and learn what she did and to what lengths she went to avoid discovery by her neighbors.

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Metamorphosis Chapter 20

| Apr 23, 2018 | Reply

Raquel and Mark, seemingly two parts of one person that became separated after drinking a strange potion, have been transported to another land. They trek to the north to confront “the Magistrate” who is apparently responsible for their condition. In a house that is a duplicate of their childhood home Raquel meets her “mother” and then her “father.” Then she finds herself cast into darkness only to awaken in a horrid swamp confronted by a hideous creature with one eye. It tells her “Guug not eat you. Wolves eat you.” The wolves attack and Guug is injured. Raquel is in serious peril! What will happen next? Read Chapter 20 of Metamorphosis.

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On Being a 5′ 13″ Trans Woman

| Apr 9, 2018 | 1 Reply

Many trans women are reluctant to express their true selves for many reasons. One reason looms over the others for some. While they may be average height for a male they are taller than the average female. This makes them reluctant to go forth into the world expressing their true gender. They feel that being over six feet (1.8288 meter) tall may draw negative attention to them. Today Claire H. talks about how her 6′ 1″ size made her feel she couldn’t ever be herself. Then she started to find other tall women to provide inspiration. One of them is Tula.

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Harry Did Not Become Sally — She Always Was Sally

| Mar 26, 2018 | Reply

In today’s post Dana Bevan refutes the main points in the book “When Harry Became Sally.” The author of the book, Ryan Anderson, uses junk science, and quotes, or points to people, who are firmly anti-transgender. Dana believes his agenda is to marginalize and sideline trans people while affirming the belief system of conservatives who feel a man is a man and a woman is a woman, and if you don’t fit neatly into one of those two genders then you’re a sinner, an abomination, or worse. See how Dana reduces all of Anderson’s arguments with logic and science.

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Transition on the Down Low

| Mar 19, 2018 | Reply

This post finds Natalie Nicole already starting her transition in the workplace and with friends. Starting HRT began to make changes to her body that were hard to conceal. But she hadn’t told her family about the big change that was underway. Today’s post is all about how she started HRT, came out to some friends and fellow employees and how she navigated the waters of transition while hiding it from her family.

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Youth View: Getting Older . . .

| Mar 12, 2018 | 2 Replies

Our 17-year-old agender contributor is making work for us. The graphics department will have to update “Seventeen” to “Eighteen” on their column’s graphic since M is having a birthday on March 13. Happy Birthday M! Their post today talks about the way it feels to grow older. (These kids today.) But seriously, you will want to know what’s been going on in M’s life and that’s what they talk about in today’s post.

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Countdown to Transition

| Mar 12, 2018 | Reply

Claire just came to terms with her trans nature a short while ago but she has been thinking about it and musing on it and being frustrated by it for many years. Once she made up her mind her road to transition to living as a woman seems to be rushing by under her wheels. Her goal is to say goodbye to her male persona in just a few months. She is preparing her coworkers and her circle of friends and acquaintances that the change is coming. Her blog post today will let you know how it’s going.

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Metamorphosis Chapter 18

| Mar 5, 2018 | Reply

Raquel and Mark, two parts of one person that became separated after drinking a strange potion, have been transported to another land. They trek to the north to do battle with “the Magistrate” but have been told by a mysterious woman named Lydia that one of them will not survive the confrontation. In a house that is a duplicate of their childhood home Raquel meets her “mother” and then her “father.” Then she finds herself cast into darkness only to awaken in a horrid swamp to be confronted by a hideous creature with one eye that tosses her over its shoulder. What will happen in Chapter 18 of Metamorphosis?

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The Road Not Taken – Finale and Wrap Up

| Mar 5, 2018 | Reply

It was the 1960s. I was a young man, a very young man, torn between spending the summer on his expected path of taking accelerated post-graduate studies at the university or diverting toward testing life as a young transgender woman. In those days, unfortunately, continuing my studies and being a transgender woman was not an […]

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A Sabrina Symington Cartoon

| Mar 5, 2018 | Reply

Sabrina Symington’s cartoon alter ego is known as Bria. Today Bria comes to the realization that she is real. Not in the real world. In Bria’s cartoon world. But even that is an accomplishment when everyone keeps telling you that you’re not real, that you’re crazy of trying to deceive. Bria has a right to get a little pumped up.

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Gender Fluid or Lazy

| Feb 26, 2018 | 2 Replies

Now that Cate O’Malley doesn’t have to go to the office every day and pretend to be a man she has the freedom to dress as she likes. You might think that she would spend her days in feminine frills and flouncy dresses. Skirts and high heels with lacy tops and the proper accessories. You would find, if you chanced to visit Cate in her Florida home, that while she is 100% woman, she is practical about her attire. A linen frock and high heel sandals would not be appropriate for cleaning out the gutters. Oh, sure. Cate and her wife could dress up for evening outing. With all the things to do around the house does she really have the energy to gussy up and go out?

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Unemployed

| Feb 19, 2018 | Reply

Sophie Lynne has been putting up with a job that exposes her daily to rude comments from customers and she has had to take it with a smile or risk being fired. A job that once fulfilled her has turned into a soul sucking burden that she can’t afford to quit. She needs the money. All that changed last week when she was suddenly, without prior warning, relieved of her soul sucking job when they showed her the door. Now the question becomes, will not having to suffer in a bad job allow her to blossom into another area, or will she succumb to the soul sucking despair of depression?

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Thoughts on the Boy in Girl’s Clothes on the Rosanne Reboot

| Feb 19, 2018 | Reply

Our Man in a Dress, Graham Holmes, writes about the “boy in a dress” character on the reboot of the Roseanne television show that premiers March 27 on ABC. The boy who wears girl’s clothes is played by Ames McNamara and the character’s name is Mark Conner-Healy. He is the son of one of the Connor family women. Graham has a lot to say about assumptions made about the character by the show’s producers. See if you agree, or disagree with his assessment.

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Message From Walnut Creek, Ca.

| Feb 19, 2018 | Reply

Amanda has made some changes recently as her California odyssey continues. She has reason to be optimistic since her new living situation is saving her money and the stress factor of current home is vastly diminished from the level it hit in her old place. So that’s all good, but, she is having trouble weaning herself from an anti-anxiety medication and that along with longing for the east coast is making her anxious. Get the latest from her personal blog.

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How does one start transitioning?

| Feb 19, 2018 | Reply

How does one start transitioning? That’s the question our new blogger asks and she then answers it. For her starting transition, while essential to her survival, was a bit awkward. But she dove in head first and today she tells you all about it. Join Natalie Nicole as she takes her first steps on the highway to femininity.

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Another Step on the Trans Path

| Feb 12, 2018 | 1 Reply

It’s only been a few months since Claire H. took her first steps toward living as her true self. She finds that as she moves into the future every barrier she saw ahead would dissolve away as she approached. Today she writes that while she had not been expecting to start hormone therapy till April the advocacy of her therapist got her an early appointment with a nurse practitioner and she can begin hormones this week. Will all of the obstacles be as easily overcome?

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I’m Okay

| Feb 12, 2018 | Reply

When things are going badly there is so much to say about how you’re being affected and how you feel. When things are all moving along smoothly there doesn’t seem to be that much to talk about. Just, “Hey, I’m okay. All is well.” That was the dilemma of our agender youth correspondent M when they were trying to come up with a topic for today’s post. So they decided to go ahead and write about how everything is okay.

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Do Crossdressers Really Exist

| Feb 5, 2018 | Reply

Our Fashion Maven Tasi Zuriack takes a fashion break and writes today about crossdressing in general. She asks if crossdressers even exist. Since many of our readers identify as crossdressers we suspect that they do exist. TGForum’s official policy on crossdressers is that they exist under the transgender umbrella. They’re part of the transgender community and the Tasi points out that the word “transgender” may be causing problems for people who just like to dress up like ladies and feel pretty. Read on and see what you think.

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I Am Jazz: Susan Bradley Rides Again!

| Jan 29, 2018 | Reply

Constant vigilance is necessary as the media are often not through in researching who they use as an “expert” in shows dealing with trans issues. Dana Bevan is always on the look out for the inclusion of discredited “experts” and she recently caught one on the TLC show I Am Jazz. The offender in question was Susan Bradley, formerly of the Clarke Institute which morphed into the now closed Canadian Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) center. Bradley is against allowing trans kids to be the gender they feel. Read on and find out what other misinformation the show allowed to air.

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Am I Acting?

| Jan 29, 2018 | Reply

If you weren’t socialized from an early age as a female you may have to work at presenting yourself to others as a woman. Women are raised soaking in culturally imposed gender related behaviors that trans women don’t get exposed to. Trans women often spend too many years learning to hide their femininity so as to fit in with societal expectations of how they should behave as men. Christine Burr came to understand that she was female after she reached middle age. She had to work to acquire the traits of a mature woman and new when she is expressing her true gender she is left wondering if she is acting.

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iLaria Bordignon — Trans Business Woman and Lingerie Designer

| Jan 29, 2018 | Reply

Beverly Anne Thomas interviews lingerie designer and guiding force behind the lingerie company Carezza-Intima, iLaria Bodignon. Ms. Bodignon is a trans woman originally from Italy who is now based in Los Angeles where she designs and produces sensual lingerie for all women. One of her lines is expressly for trans women. Beverly asks her about such topics as her early life, her spirituality, her sensuality and he business. Don’t miss out on meeting iLaria and learning more about her line of sensual lingerie.

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Meet Natalie Nicole

| Jan 22, 2018 | Reply

Our new blogger Natalie Nicole introduces herself to TGForum readers with her first blog. Many times she is asked “Did you always know you were a girl?” Her gender journey didn’t follow exactly the same path taken by others. Unlike some trans people she didn’t feel like a girl at a young age. She just knew she was unhappy, got bullied and had no self confidence. As she got older she started to see some things that resonated with her feelings. Today Natalie is an actor, comic, and has appeared on Comedy Central’s “Problematic” and Game Show Network’s “Divided.” And, with, all that creative activity she has time to write.

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Sissies Down Under

| Jan 22, 2018 | Reply

Our new Australian correspondent offers some info on the difference between nomenclature in the LGBTQ communities of the USA and his native land. We’re all aware of some Australian terms like G’day; Sheilas; and “outback” but those are general terms used in everyday speech. How do the Shielas and Bruces in the LGBT community there chat with each other? Here’s some insight from John Storey.

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The Dam Is Breaking!

| Jan 15, 2018 | Reply

Claire H. though that she could move forward in life dabbling in crossdressing in private and taking out-of-town trips for en femme getaways now and then. During her first session with a therapist she realized that wasn’t going to be enough. Now the dam that has held back her feminine nature for many, many years is cracking. The water inside is starting to pour out and Claire is both excited and scared.

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