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AnonymousHi Marcie,
Your crossdressing story is not unique and sounds pretty much like all the rest of the crossdressers I have known over the years. At some point when we are discovering all there is to know about our phenomena going beyond dressing is question we all have to answer. It seems you have reach a place where you are comfortable with just crossdressing which is good.
Your big problem is you say your wife does not know about your dressing which might be true. Then again it might not be accurate just because she has not confronted you. Women often talk problems over with trusted friends to get another viewpoint. She could be aware but based on what she has learned on her own or others she has decided she can live with it. As long as you hide it she does not have to see it and officially take a position on it. Out of sight out of mind if you will. One of my friends did not tell his wife until she caught him in the act in his mid 70’s. I asked the wife if she really had no idea that her husband was a crossdresser. She smiled and told me that she had suspected it but did not feel it necessary to take a position on the matter.
Most of the time it does not happen that way when the CD gets caught by the wife and the outcome depends on the wife. The longer the marriage the greater the anger because she has been deceived for so long. None of the CD’s that I know got divorced because while the wife is not happy about it she also does not want to break up the home. A better option for her is to fix the problem by getting you to stop dressing. That typically does not work because crossdressing does not go away and eventually comes back. This is where it gets serious and she will have to figure out how she wants to deal with the situation. Should she stay or should she go? Its her choice!
My advice to you is to tell her but do your homework before you do. Be prepared to give her some information on crossdressing so she can learn about it. Its important that she know what a crossdresser is as well as what it is not. The #1 question women ask me on my website is do I think he is GAY? My answer is always the same which is I don’t know, I never met him and don’t even know his name!
Good Luck,
Micki Finn
