Reply To: General Discussion of Transgender Issues


Wolfeyedove, I’d sit her down and have a serious discussion. It sounds like your partner is absorbed in the fantasy of what it means to be a woman. They are relying on stereo types to find their place and unfortunately there is not a stereo typical woman.

You need to determine if she will flex on her image of “womanhood.” While I don’t know you I’ve seen similar situations over the last 30 years. You need to work it out NOW or it will never get better. How you handle this and how she responds while determine the path of your relation ship.

When she does start transition it will be all she will talk about for a couple of years until she settles down or finishes her transition. Again, all I have is what you wrote but it is bothering you to the point you came her for advice.

Where is she at now? You said she’d start full transition after the wedding. Does that mean hormones? Transition is Freaking Expensive! Even with insurance she/you two, will still have to pay thousands her transition. Hair removal, therapy, new wardrobe, hormones, facial surgery (if required), breast implants (if required) and not to mention bottom surgery. In 1890 I had awesome insurance and I still hit my out of pockets and deductibles every year. Hair removal was around $8k by it self. Not to mention the time off work.

You two have much to talk about. You need to see all the answers for yourself and do you OWN research so you can see the big picture without the rose tint glasses she’s probably wearing.

The 1st house I bought was me. Meaning my hospital bills total, including the insurance company’s portion was over $80k plus weeks of light duty and days off. I spent 30 days in the hospital within a years. I had complications and they do happen at times.

It’s a HUGE decision that will effect both of you for a lifetime.