Reply To: How Do You Know if You Are Trans?

[carla1212]

Hi, I am struggling with a question. I know I’m transgender because it’s always been so important to me to be seen and accepted as female. People treat me the way I want to be treated when I look like a girl. I guess my appearance to a large extent dictates the way people both male and female interact with me, and I think when I look feminine, soft and sweet people are kinder, gentler. A man will open the door for me, offer assistance when I need it, smile at me, initiate a conversation for no reason. When I look male… nothing like this, and I’m expected to be rough, tough and very strong at all times. It’s not that I am weak, I can take care of myself, but it’s just such a good feeling to know others care and want to treat me so kindly. But why is it so important for me to look pretty? What happens when I get old and don’t look so good anymore? I guess all women struggle with this… fear of losing one’s beauty and being treated as an ordinary mortal…
Carla