Reply To: General Discussion of Transgender Issues
It’s unfortunate that many see us from a porn point of view. I remember sitting in Cherry Grove, NY watching a blow out fight between a preop TS and her boy friend because he didn’t want her to have bottom surgery. Without her penis he was no longer interested in her. I’m glad you don’t see her that way. She probably doesn’t even know where her transition will take her medically. I can tell you when I transitioned, my friends meant the most to me. I had two close gay male friends that ensured I got out. They would be my escort and gave me comfort and safety as I found myself. Things have changed in the last 30 years but emotions are pretty much standard. Her mind and emotions as you are starting to see are going to be “bumpy” for awhile. I cry watching movies, TV, when I’m happy, upset, lets face it, my emotions are a lot closer to the surface and it took time to get use to it. Then she has all the family and societal issues to deal with.
Basically let her “drive” this relationship for a while. After the first year on hormones and living full time, things will settle out for her and she’ll be ready to deal with a relationship.
