Reply To: Dating While Transgender


I agree with MelissaD. Unless surgery makes you instantly passable and drop-dead gorgeous, it won’t change the way people relate to you. And even if so, it might just lead to superficial attraction, not necessarily to being genuinely loved. I find I’m happiest when I focus on being this very feminine, sweet, caring person who comes out when I’m dressed and interacting with other people – that’s the real me, and I find that if someone gets attracted it’s because they see I am lovable and capable of loving back. Both men and women will like that about you.