Crossdressing and No Fault Divorce

Some crossdresser’s wives are planning to divorce their crossdressing husbands at this very moment because they have had enough of the lies, deceit, betrayal, purges, porn, stash of CD toys, living a double life, walking on egg shells, living a life of lies — in a nutshell, they have had it. Many of them are inquiring whether to disclose the issue of crossdressing to their divorce attorney. My answer: Absolutely YES. Not to be vengeful. Not to out your soon-to-be ex. Not to hurt him. But to protect yourself!

How? Why? The answer is simple.

This is not your average ‘no fault divorce.’ Divorce laws are different state to state. For example, in California we have a No Fault Divorce. Basically, the courts could care less about how many women or men your husband was sleeping with, they don’t care if he cheated on you 10,000 times — it is a NO FAULT DIVORCE! Hilarious yes, but sadly so true. It is hard to believe that no one could be at fault when it is clear that someone did destroy the marriage. If you are married to a sex addict and he has slept with hundreds of women California will tell you the divorce is NOT HIS FAULT, it is rather no one’s fault.  Other states, like Jersey, make you disclose a reason why you are seeking a divorce and requires 2 years before a divorce is resolved. That sounds a lot more logical and sensitive to the severity and complexity of most divorces.

What if your marriage was destroyed by the challenges of crossdressing, do you think you have no responsibility for the downfall of your marriage — especially if you did not disclose your condition prior to marriage? What if your wife becomes ill with stress related problems due to your CDing? Do you think it is okay just to walk away — while she suffers physically from PTSD and or auto immune diseases that arise due to the stress in the marriage? Should your soon-to-be ex wife have to pay for the costs of her therapy? Should you stand up — be a man and take responsibility for what your condition has done to your wife? Do you want to fight about this in a courtroom, or would you rather settle this issue appropriately with her and the attorneys quietly?

Remember the New Jersey Governor’s wife who discovered her husband was gay? She sued him in civil court for non disclosure. I predict — the same thing will happen with some CD’s wives. Why should they have to suffer with the illness that your behavior brought on — and pay for it monetarily as well? It is absurd and not fair to your wife. She deserves to have health care and therapy for as long as she needs it. Don’t you agree?

Some CDs have said this is bribery! Perhaps refusing to admit what many CDs have done to their wives is the real problem. And logic would dictate that this highly disturbing, murky taboo sub culture has many causalities — and someone is responsible. No fault divorce? Really?

Some CD’s wives are stashing pictures of their CD husbands all dressed up — the photos are in a safe, with their attorneys, family members or best friend. It is like when women that have been beaten will take photos of their bruises to be used, just in case Some CD’s wives feel it is important to have evidence of their “No Fault Divorce.”

Believe it or not, many CD’s wives will say they would rather be physically beaten versus experiencing the bane of being a CD’s wife who may have undergone emotional and psychologically abuse. Our bruises and injuries are internal and often too many of us eventually become ill due to the tremendous amount of stress and anxiety that too many of us live with (during and after the divorce). Society is well aware of the many painful challenges of the physically abused wife — but what do they know about the abused crossdresser’s wife and many of their No Fault Divorces?

Please do not shoot the messenger. It is not my fault!

Blessings,
Dee A. Levy

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