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Dee A. Levy is the former spouse of a crossdresser. She has a BA in Women Studies and MA in Social Sciences and Comparative Education. She is the author of The Cross Dresser's Wife -- Our Secret Lives, available at Amazon.com, Kindle, Barnes and Noble, & www.crossdresserswives.com.

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Imagine

| Jul 28, 2014 | Reply

Commitments mean something. Before we make them — and promise the world to a “significant other” — we need a clear head and complete readiness to open our minds, reveal our strengths and weaknesses, and be 100% willing to do everything we can for a happy future and a fulfilling life. If we fall short […]

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Drag Queens vs. Transgenders? 

| Jun 30, 2014 | Reply

Today Dee Levy offers a reality check on the nature of the controversy over drag queens using the t-word and other “objectionable” words. We thought that thing was over like last year’s hot dance track but Dee offers a good reason why the fight should not just be over — but why it’s muy importante for the drag community and the trans community to work together.

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How Can You Create a Happy Marriage and Still Crossdress?

| Jun 2, 2014 | Reply

Many crossdressers fear once their wives (70% of them) find out that you are under-dressing or dressing en femme secretly, their marriages will fail. If you want her trust in you or in your marriage — know that the TRUTH is essential and it will take time for her to even begin to make sense out […]

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The Crossdresser’s Wife — Self Inflicted?

| May 5, 2014 | Reply

How do you live day in and out, year after year, decade after decade as a closeted crossdresser, or a transgender? Your minds must be consumed of being continuously ‘on guard,’ making sure your wife or significant other does not find out what you have CHOSEN to hide from her. Though you did not choose […]

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The Crossdresser’s Wife — The Whole Truth

| Mar 10, 2014 | Reply

Dee Levy feels that there are transgendered women who don’t tell their wives the “whole truth” when they start to open up about their true nature but opt to ease into it by identifying as a crossdresser. Then the wives are confused when their husband starts to look more and more feminine. Then Dee has to break the news when they visit The Cross Dressers’ Wives Forum.

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Femininity & Your Wives

| Feb 10, 2014 | Reply

Dee Levy is the founder of CrossDressersWives.com, a website devoted to the the emotional support of the wives of crossdressers who have not been honest with their partners. The dishonesty causes a lot of pain and suffering and most of the CDWs end up at ex wives of crossdressers. Sometimes Dee’s advice can be a bit strident but her message may help you to no make the mistakes she and other CDWs find unforgivable.

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The Crossdresser’s Wife — Truth

| Jan 13, 2014 | Reply

New years are seen as chances for new beginnings. We can stop the negative things we’ve been doing and make a change for the better. If you have been reading Dee Levy’s Crossdresser’s Wife posts you all ready know that what she counsels all CDs and TGs who are in relationships to do is come clean in the new year. Look your partner in the eye and give them the whole story. Read Truth and see if you can take that challenge.

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Do Not Get Caught RED Handed!

| Dec 16, 2013 | Reply

Can crossdressers be self centered? Narcissistic? Lack empathy for their spouses? Sure. But so can football fanatics or obsessed collectors. Today Dee Levy reminds CDs that it’s the holiday season and it might be nice to consider the feelings of spouses and family a bit more at this time of year. Of course Dee was married to a seriously self centered CD and she’s still more than a little angry about it but her cautionary tales may help you to see if you’re a bit too obsessed for the season.

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Demons are started so cheaply…

| Nov 18, 2013 | Reply

Dee Levy has a new friend who experienced sexual abuse as a child. The system failed him when he was young and vulnerable and now he is the one who is trapped in guilt and self loathing. He is also a TG person. Dee’s post today tells his story and asks if any of our TGF readers who may have gone through the same things can offer advice, inspiration or other emotional support to this person.

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It’s not complicated — it’s humanity!

| Nov 4, 2013 | Reply

Today Dee Levy of Crossdresserswives.com comments on and decries the fact that many times transgendered women are refused breast health care simply because they are transgendered. A recent story we featured in The Week In Transgenderism told of a TG woman who has been living a female life for many years but she was turned away when she sought a mammogram at Planned Parenthood.

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A Friend to Everyone? Not Exactly

| Sep 23, 2013 | Reply

Dee A. Levy was deceived by her crossdresser husband who hid his dressing and chose to reveal it at possibly one of the most inopportune moments — ever. So Dee has become an advocate for crossdresser’s wives everywhere by demanding honesty and consideration of the wive’s needs. Today she comments on an article she read that celebrated the rising acceptance of “varied genders.” Dee asks, “What about wive’s?”

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The Pentagon’s Transgender Problem

| Aug 26, 2013 | Reply

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell may be a thing of the past for gays and lesbians in the military but for transgendered people who want to serve or are currently in the armed forces there is no shield from a sudden discharge if they come out as TG. And recent studies have indicated that transgendered soldiers and veterans are prone to depression and suicide, and they aren’t being treated well by the VA when they leave the service. Dee Levy writes about the Pentagon’s transgender problem.

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Sex Offender?

| Jul 29, 2013 | Reply

A news report about a FtM transgendered teen — or perhaps just a a teen with gender confusion — has prompted Dee Levy to write her contribution to TGF. The teen, born female, established and online male identity and courted a young girl. The teen went to visit the girl and they engaged in sexual activity without the girl knowing her boyfriend was not born with male parts. The boyfriend was arrested and is now a sex offender in the eyes of the law. And the “boyfriend” now identifies as female. See what Dee thinks of this complex affair.

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Stand Up for Equal Rights for All

| Jul 1, 2013 | Reply

Dee’s dad, a heterosexual man, fought alongside gays and drag queens at Stonewall because he believed everyone should be treated equally. Dee learned that you can’t stand by while other’s rights are being infringed. Today she tells us about her stand against a religious cousin who is not so openminded.

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“How can we save our marriage when I hate when my husband’s crossdressing?”

| Jun 3, 2013 | Reply

She loves her husband but hates his crossdressing. Can the marriage continue? That’s Dee Levy’s topic today. If she desires a masculine lover can her shaved and soft CD husband satisfy her?

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When is the right time to dress up? Are you sure?

| May 6, 2013 | Reply

Dee Levy feels it’s a father’s duty to keep his crossdressing hidden from a pre-teen or teenage son. And that the CD should never be sure that he won’t be interrupted while dressing up, or while dressed up, by his son’s unexpected return home. See if you agree with her thesis.

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Would you really want this fairytale for your daughter?

| Apr 8, 2013 | Reply

Our ex-CD’s wife has a question that may help some CDs understand why your partner is upset (to say the least) that you never told them about your crossdressing till you couldn’t take it anymore and her she had to accept you or else. Would you want that for your daughter?

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Compensation

| Mar 11, 2013 | Reply

Our crossdresser’s wife expert Dee Levy thinks that crossdressers who lie to their spouse by not disclosing that they are crossdressers before the nuptials may be exposing themselves to a lawsuit after the truth comes out and the wife throws him out. Why? Because the trauma may require years of expensive therapy.

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Where are the rules?

| Jan 21, 2013 | Reply

Dee Levy is surprised to learn that the crossdressing world is not homogeneous and some CDs dance to a different drummer. Of course that gives rise to people with attitudes about who’s doing it “right” and who is a disgrace to crossdressers everywhere. Do you need rules? Dee asks, “Where are the rules?”

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The Crossdressers’ Wife — The First Time

| Nov 19, 2012 | Reply

When was the first time you crossdressed? If you are typical you were very young. Dee Levy feels that when you come clean about crossdressing to your spouse it’s a good idea to let her know you were a young boy when you got the urge. She has other advice too in The First Time.

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Research on the wives of crossdressers: Questionnaire II. Report 3

| Oct 22, 2012 | Reply

Richard F. Docter, PhD is a retired college professor and clinical psychologist. Dee A. Levy is the Founder of the website, Crossdresserswives.com. They’ve collaborated on research about the wives of crossdressers. Here is a report on their research.

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The Scales of Justice

| Sep 24, 2012 | Reply

To some people giving TG prisoners hormones and SRS is humane treatment which avoids “cruel and unusual punishment.” To others it’s a waste of taxpayer dollars and a failure of commonsense. The case of convicted killer Michelle Kosliek has got Dee Levy riled up. See what you think of today’s column.

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Hip Hop Hopes

| Aug 27, 2012 | Reply

Hip hop and rap are musical genres that have been dominated by macho men who express hatred of gays and transgendered people in their lyrics. Some rappers have advocated shooting gay people. Now Dee Levy sees hope that the rap world is beginning to change toward a more tolerant view of gays and TGs.

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Crossdressing and No Fault Divorce

| Jul 30, 2012 | Reply

Dee Levy feels there’s always someone to blame when a marriage hits the rocks and breaks apart. And she warns that while many states have No Fault Divorce the states that don’t are sure to have crossdresser’s wives saving evidence for the trial.

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Stop Crossdressing…

| Jul 9, 2012 | Reply

Can you? Should you? Have you tried? Do you want to stop? Does your wife want you to stop? Have you stopped? What about the sites like stopcrossdressing.com? Are you cured yet? Some believe that crossdressing is purely an addiction and can be stopped. Have you been on the sites that encourage you to stop […]

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Crossdresser’s Partners Speak — Now What?

| Jun 4, 2012 | Reply

What do crossdressing husbands need to know about that period of time after they have finally told their significant other about their crossdressing? We get advice from the expert, Dee Levy, in this month’s Crossdressr’s Partners Speak column — Now What?

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